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Original poster

Work, work, work

56 replies

cheekypickle · 30/07/2012 16:52

Okay so I'm feeling at bit sorry for myself. DH has come home saying that he has to stay away (overnight) for my birthday leaving me with DD 11months.

How should I make him pay?! Ha ha

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Original poster
cheekypickle · 30/07/2012 17:14

Any ideas? Am I being unreasonable?

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alphabite · 30/07/2012 17:15

It's only a birthday. The other 364 days are just as important.

Svrider · 30/07/2012 17:15

Girly nite in??

Baygreen · 30/07/2012 17:15

I'm not sure what are you being unreasonable about?

Stonefield · 30/07/2012 17:16

Ooh that's really not acceptable, birthdays are sacred. Do not speak to him until he's come up with a fitting birthday treat (aim high).
If I did that to my OH she would rightfully kill me.

WorraLiberty · 30/07/2012 17:18

Unreasonable about what?

WorraLiberty · 30/07/2012 17:19

If I did that to my OH she would rightfully kill me

For going to work? Confused

I don't see what's rightful about that?

SugarBatty · 30/07/2012 17:19

Who is supposed to be unreasonable? Him or you? Confused

Do you normally care for dd together every night and this is the first time your with her alone?

Celebrate your birthday a different night, I stopped caring about celebrating on the exact day when I was about 14 maybe.

Go out with your friends when he gets back.

Original poster
cheekypickle · 30/07/2012 17:27

Yes first time I'm with her alone. Should be okay though

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Original poster
cheekypickle · 30/07/2012 17:27

Am I being unreasonable for thinking its a bit
off?!

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WorraLiberty · 30/07/2012 17:29

A bit off to go to work?

Are you being serious or is this tongue in cheek?

Would you rather he packed in his job and signed on so as not to risk ever having to work on your birthday again?

Do you go to work on his birthday?

SugarBatty · 30/07/2012 17:29

Does she wake a lot in the night?

In what way do you think its a bit off?

AThingInYourLife · 30/07/2012 17:32

Do you expect his boss to know it is your birthday (and that you are one of those crazy adults who thinks birthdays are sacrosanct)?

He has to work. It's not his fault.

Baygreen · 30/07/2012 17:35

YANBU if you have booked and paid for an expensive weekend away that will mean you will lose money or anything like that
YABU if you just want him to not work on that day.If it was so important he should have booked it as holiday if he knows it will upset you.
Why is being alone with your child an issue?Does he do all the childcare?

gordyslovesheep · 30/07/2012 17:37

YABU - he's working - it's not like he's going out on the lash without you

my first child - 5 weeks old, post section, DH went to new York for a week with his band to 'play a couple of gigs' - THAT was shitty

working - not so much - get a dvd and some wine

Stonefield · 30/07/2012 17:39

Birthdays are important, it was my OH who made me realise that. It's your day and if he has to work then he should be making the effort to make it up to you.
All of you who are saying it's not important and that there are 364 other days of the year do you not make your children's birthdays special?

Stonefield · 30/07/2012 17:40

And it's not about expense, it's about thought and the effort made.

WorraLiberty · 30/07/2012 17:44

Stonefield the OP is not a child so that comparison is somewhat redundant.

I really hope she's not going to make her DH feel guilty over this.

eurochick · 30/07/2012 17:46

I think you just have to suck it up. I'm away for work for our anniversary this year. I was away (in Paris of all places) for work last year over Valentine's Day.

Baygreen · 30/07/2012 17:47

stonefieldOP hasn't said anything about the circumstances,just a very vague AIBU about her dp working on her birthday.
Birthdays are important,but sacred?really?if they are that sacred to OP then surely the dp would have ensured they were not working.
Celebrating childrens birthdays if clearly different and I think the replies here would be different if it was about a child.
Sorry but in today's climate if my dp misses my bday because work means we have a roof over our childrens head and food on the table I would not think it was 'off'

Baygreen · 30/07/2012 17:49

Posted too soon!I was going to add that I would feel pissed off if we had booked something meaning we lost money,so the financial aspect has got everything to do with it.
With OP we know nothing!

OwlLady · 30/07/2012 17:51

cunnilingus

LentillyFart · 30/07/2012 18:05

Interesting post OwlLady - I see you have an unanswered thread in another topic - shall we all go post cunnilingus on that? Or are you just pissed?

OwlLady · 30/07/2012 18:10

I was answering the original post

*Okay so I'm feeling at bit sorry for myself. DH has come home saying that he has to stay away (overnight) for my birthday leaving me with DD 11months.

How should I make him pay?*

so honestly do fuck off or do you fancy coming and giving me some some respite for my severely disabled child who social services have cut all respite for and I living on a couple of hours sleep per week, not pissed at all no exhausted.

Stonefield · 30/07/2012 18:10

Worraliberty birthdays aren't just for children you know.

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