Work, work, work

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Okay so I'm feeling at bit sorry for myself. DH has come home saying that he has to stay away (overnight) for my birthday leaving me with DD 11months.

How should I make him pay?! Ha ha

I notice LentillyFart you haven't contributed to the thread at all anyway apart from a little attack and a swing your knickers in the air type non troll hunt

I changed my name for the other thread because of it's a sensitive subject

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Stonefield most of us (by the time we grow up) realise that there will be times we have to simply celebrate on a different date.

I think that's what the majority of us are saying to the OP.

So OP are you going to give any more info?
Why does dp need to work,what do they do?why is it an issue to look after your child?

My birthday was the other week. I had to go away for work! Now that was shitty, but non negotiable unfortunately!

Hope you have a lovely celebration once he gets home.

Get a grip, birthdays are fuckin depressing over age 21 and so are for children.

My dh usually works away abroad so I cope as I an adult. He has been home for 3 months and although love him to hits I feel a bit stifled.You will manage. If I were you I would pack dd to bed, get a nIce bottle of wine and a good Girly DVD and enjoy the peace. ( or rabbit if so inclLined)

Oh and nice meal out at weekend.

Can't really get posters who say this isn't on.

Are you all lottery winners or what? Do you and partners work?

I have a theory about birthdays.

Anyone old enough to read a calendar is old enough to realise that birthdays sometimes get celebrated on a different day because it's more convenient.

Anyone not old enough to read a calendar won't know that their birthday celebration is happening on a different day.

DH should definitely pay out for you and a friend to have a takeaway, rent a film, and have a nice bottle of wine on your birthday. Then you can go out when he is back.

I got it OwlLady. Made me .

OP. YABU. He's working, no big deal. Celebrate another day.

YABU. I've had to "move" the day i celebrate my birthday quite a bit since I was 20 probably due to work, my other half working etc etc. Celebrate another day.

Trills has it about right!

Happy birthday cheesy..

unless its a weekend birthday we always have to move the date, especially for DH birthday as i am exchusted becauce DD is a day before lol.

Made me too owl

YABNU I might be in a minority here but I don't think it's the same celebrating on another day. DH was away at our anniversary this year and we never got round to celebrating once he got back

Do you have any friends nearby you can invite round for the evening? Get some nice food and cocktails in a can from M&S? Then get DH to take you out when he get back. See it as an excuse for double celebration!

OP YADNBU to be a miffed or put out that he has too work on your birthday and that he should make it up to you.
For all you other 'grown-ups' who think birthdays aren't important here's a quote for you, bear with me its a long one,

"who on earth would genuinely want to wake up on their birthday morning bloomless, cardless, presentless? ...And yet people don't really understand this most fundamental truth, and ignore or 'forget' people's birthdays, becasue they're too lazy to buy a bunch of daffs and stick a stamp on a card. We all want to be loved, and if we can't be loved, with some fanfare, on our birthdays, then really what hope is there?"
India Knight 'The Shops'

Actually in the book its four and a bit pages, its all about how people don't make enough fuss on birthdays.
and to those people who think birthdays are crap after 21 or 14 or whatever please cheer up! Rather than get dpressed about the number, enjoy your day, celebrate FFS!

I grew up on a sheep farm and my birthday falls right in the middle of Lambing time, my parents made the effort but work naturally got in the way, 18th and 21st came and went without any fuss, sob poor neglected me, but it wasn't until I met the love of my life did I really have a truly special birthday and maybe thats the big kid in me enjoying but so what? we should enjoy life not mope around telling people to grow up.

round of applause for Stonefield

He has to work - you're a grown up.

I don't see what the big deal is really.

Another vote of grow up. By the way, OP, do you go to work, or does your DP's job enable you to stay home with your DC?

From the age of about 13 I had to work on my birthday. Still do. Coukdn't give a tinker's cuss frankly.

Back off you judgemental bunch of harpies. OP has many previous posts about how her dh sleeps the weekend away and the other issues she has. Op as it has been said on many previous posts you need some proper support.

Well I haven't read op's other posts and was just going on the info on this one, which suggests she is narked her dh is working on her birthday which leaves her on her own with their dd.

stonefieldI think you are making completely unrelated comparisons.obviously not celebrating your important birthdays as a teenager is upsetting,but this is not what this thread is about,OP has said dp will be working away on their bday,and has given no other info.Also where is it mentioned that there won't be any kind of card,present etc.
Sometimes work does have to come first,particularly in difficult times and I think that's what most people are saying here.
As for your comment grobagsforever about judgemental harpies,sorry but I'm not judging anyone,OP has posted a very vague AIBU and got a variety of answers none judgemental from what I can read.
I don't go searching peoples other threads before answering so her other problems had no bearing on my answer IYSWIM?however after reading your comment I have and realise who this poster is.My comments were at face value,yours have come from already knowing more about the poster,maybe you should think about that before name calling to people you know nothing about.

Ok, Baygreen calm down.
Op asked if she was being unreasonable to be miffed at DH working away on her birthday. Hence my reply that no she wasn't being unreasonable and yes she should make him pay. I think I've tried to make my point about why I think birthdays are special no matter what age you are, which is why I think OP is NBU to be miffed.
And then I do think a lot of people have been rather dull and joyless to tell OP to just grow up and get over it. Of course we all have to work and it's difficult times for all of us but it will never be so difficult in my house that we can't celebrate a loved one's birthday with much joy and fanfare.

Are people really getting stroppy because some of us think birthdays are important? Are you all similarly joyless at Christmas?

stonefield not sure why you need to tell me to calm down!
Lucky for you that birthdays are always celebrated with a fanfare,some people aren't always able to do that
Nothing joyless about my family I can assure you,however if my dp needed to work away to provide for his family I wouldnt be thinking about ways to make him 'pay'.

Yes I am very joyless at Christmas.
Dh and I do not really do birthdays for each other.
However dcs have good ones.