to never want to go out again?

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Last night was the first night out for me in ages. It was ruined by 2 things for me. In one bar a girl (accidently) tipped a full glass of wine down the back of my dress-it was freeezzzing. My friend saw my face and when the girl saw me tell her why she didnt apologise just came right up in my face and said 'well I didnt do it on purpose'. It made me feel a little bit off but carried on with the night but in another bar I went to the loo and these girls started banging and kicking at the doors to get people to hurry up. It became a bit intimidating to walk out into so I rang me friend to come meet me and this girl started shouting youre not even using the loo I can see you on your phone (she was looking then!). Which made it much worse. I came out and she started screaming at me in front of everyone how they were all waiting whilst I was on my phone (but it was only cos she was so intimidating in first place). For the first time ever (and before dcs I would go out a lot) I decided to call it a night cos of bitchy aggressive behaviour. I woke up today thinking I really cant be bothered anymore. I know this is what happens all the time but I just feel like Im done with it now. Would it be unreasonable at the age of 30 to say no more 'big' nights out for a while just cinema, meals etc?

Also to you think I was BU in some of my behaviour to cause these type of reactions? cant help but think maybe I brought it on myself a bit.

Sorry Im feeling a bit down today .

I really should read before posting-appalling spelling!

Nah not being U. Sounds a nightmare to me.

when the girl saw me tell her why she didnt apologise just came right up in my face and said 'well I didnt do it on purpose'. Which is why she should have apologised
You have as much right to use the loo as anyone else - I'd have taken longer and asked her if she enjoyed watching other women use the loo

Some people can't handle their drink. Don't let them ruin it for you but it might be time to find some nicer places for big nights out

Yambu to feel down. I haven't been out to a club since 2008. Has the behaviour/atmos changed so much that this type if thing happens ALL the time as you say it does? Those women were more likely a unique case of idiot. Go out again ASAP do not let them put you off.

I've never enjoyed going out...even as a teenager. The last time I went out was 5 years ago and came home after 2 pubs. I'm only 30. I'm really timid and those 2 situations would have freaked me out.

Where the hell did you go? That sounds rough as a badgers arse.

That would definitely put me off going, there must be nicer places to go surely?

YANBU at all find a quieter pub to go to sometimes we need to hang up our going out hats sounds horrible TBH find something else to do with your friends instead a meal or 'something'. I gave up years ago

I've never enjoyed going out...even as a teenager

MY dd doesnt really like going out either she will go to the pub a quiet one for the end of the night and would rather stick pins in her eye than go to a club

I don't like pubs etc anymore either and I'm only 32. I prefer people at my house or at theirs. I like going out to dinner, cinema in the evenings etc and in the daytime. I don't see the need to go out to pubs etc with freinds when I could sit some where comfortable with the same group and not have uninvited people be there. The music is too loud for a decent conversation too. YANBU.

It's such a shame. I hope you can find somewhere nicer.

I don't drink much anyway, and I am also a very timid person. I don't really like pubs any more. Drunkenness freaks me out, I hate leering, fighting, shouting etc.

I'm more of a "quiet night in with movies and board games" type, if I ever get the chance to go out (ha!) I'd rather go to a cheap restaurant.

YANBU. I was punched in the face once because we were sitting on seats a group of women, who had just walked in, decided they wanted to sit on instead.

One of them was very friendly and asked my friend her name and when she told her it the woman turned nasty and said "Well fuck off X, we want to sit here." We didn't immediately get up and they stood near us swearing and glaring over. In the end I decided to go to the bar and report them so they would be made to leave but as I stood up the woman came over and punched me in the face.

I think that was pretty much the last time I went out for that sort of night on a weekend. We go to restaurants rather than bars now, always book a taxi rather than battle for one in the taxi ranks and come home earlier than we used to to avoid the worst of the drunks and their behaviour.

What sort of club were you in??

I would have told pervy toilet watcher to piss off, it wasn't like that in my day

This is why I prefer a pub if I go out for drinks.

Other than that I do prefer the cinema and a meal somewhere.

I just hate how others actions can ruin it for everyone.

I am nearly 32 and have had great nights with friends where we have laughed until we cried - at someones house - over nibbles and coffee.

I would be terrified to go out on a Saturday night now. It seemed fine when I was younger though-I was never in. Things have changed...

I think you'd have been better to just get out of the loo quickly, make no eye contact, don't draw attention to yourself. Rather than ring a friend and wait there. I would have got cross with you too for doing that while I was busting.

Spilling wine and not apologising was v off though. But people are funny when they have a drink.

I think you're just going to the wrong places, I've never had anything like that happen to me in the naice places I drink but of course YANBU to stop going out if you've had enough, its not U at any age.

God, that sounds horrendous! wherever you went obviously hosts a lot of people with no manners!

I stopped going out on nights like that when I was in my mid-30s, mostly because I got bored of it all, but also because the unpredictable behaviour and random violence started to increase. :(

Find somewhere nicer to go though - there will be nicer places with politer people. :)

Your not unreasonable. Im 22 & I don't go out purely because of what you experienced. I hate it!
Much prefer the cinema or dinner. In fact I very rarely drink- so being pg has given me a great excuse to not e dragged out

YANBU i don't blame it sounds like an aggressive awful night out.

I don't really go to clubs and bars any more except to private parties, a meal and a few drinks with friends is much nicer.

I hope you can forget about those idiots and enjoy the rest of your weekend

I don't think I could stand up all night now, I like a seat. And I can't do all that queuing at the bar thing either. I think I am just old.

This is why I would never go out again. Well not in this town anyway.

The last time I was out, two groups of girls approached us and tried to start a row/fight and weren't impressed when we just gently laughed it off.

Then a group of men started verbally abusing us whilst waiting for a taxi.

Even the new naice bars are full of wankers.

No sgm your normal!

Well I wouldnt go to those places again, as they sound like utter shit-holes that probably have a reputation as being full of rough ignorant twats.

On the rare occasion I go out I scan the room for the best seat I cant be doing with those stool things some pubs have

Thanks Pickles.

Oh yes Mrsjay, a chair with a nice back.