to never want to go out again?

[minesapintofwine]

Last night was the first night out for me in ages. It was ruined by 2 things for me. In one bar a girl (accidently) tipped a full glass of wine down the back of my dress-it was freeezzzing. My friend saw my face and when the girl saw me tell her why she didnt apologise just came right up in my face and said 'well I didnt do it on purpose'. It made me feel a little bit off but carried on with the night but in another bar I went to the loo and these girls started banging and kicking at the doors to get people to hurry up. It became a bit intimidating to walk out into so I rang me friend to come meet me and this girl started shouting youre not even using the loo I can see you on your phone (she was looking then!). Which made it much worse. I came out and she started screaming at me in front of everyone how they were all waiting whilst I was on my phone (but it was only cos she was so intimidating in first place). For the first time ever (and before dcs I would go out a lot) I decided to call it a night cos of bitchy aggressive behaviour. I woke up today thinking I really cant be bothered anymore. I know this is what happens all the time but I just feel like Im done with it now. Would it be unreasonable at the age of 30 to say no more 'big' nights out for a while just cinema, meals etc?

Also to you think I was BU in some of my behaviour to cause these type of reactions? cant help but think maybe I brought it on myself a bit.

Sorry Im feeling a bit down today .

I had two hen nights to go to this year but they were both great. The first was a weekend in a cottage - lots of alcohol there but more focus on cooking, playing games, chatting and walking about in the dark looking at the stars. It was amazing.

Second was harder as I only knew the bride and hadn't even seen her for a while - we had pimms in st James park (and made her walk around in a loo-roll wedding dress :o) and then went to a posh hotel for an amazing afternoon tea. They did go on to cocktails/clubbing but it had been quite clear on the invite that nobody needed to attend the whole day so I left at that point.

TBH I think the whole getting wasted and seeing male strippers idea is a bit outdated now and lots of people are doing different things rather than sticking to 'tradition'. My colleague is going to a day of group classes for her friend's hen party, including Life Drawing! (so the possibility of male nudity I guess... I have told her she has to bring in the drawings :o)

YANBU

I gave up with it all at around the age of 21. I got bored with it all, bored with other people acting like wankers, bored with the violence, bored with the constantly having to be on your guard, bored with trying to keep a low profile when going out....it spoilt it all for me. Just the mere throught of having to get ready to go out now pisses me off. I'm 31.

Unless it the cinema or a meal out or a gathering at a mates house I refuse to go out full stop.

YANBU, but maybe choose your venue more selectively.

Sounds a very rough place.

I am glad that i am not the only one who dislikes going out. It is not an age thing,as even in my teens and twenties i loathed nightclubs (stinking of cigarette smoke, people stepping on my toes etc). I much prefer going out for a meal., going to the cinema or visiting family.
YADNBU

I'm 35, love going out mainly because i get too bored staying in quiet places for long; but not had many 'proper bars / clubs' night out since NYE (been ill but slowly recovering).
I can't drink alcohol now so when i do go out i like good music; in a venue with a good mixture of room to stand, plenty of seating, & a dancefloor; friendly bar staff & doormen etc etc.
Getting drinks spilt on you is annoying & frustrating but just a hazard of being in a busy place with lively people.

But I dislike people that are aggressive - those toilet bitches sound very irritating! I don't get intimidated easily but i can definitely understand why some people would; including the OP.

An experience like that wouldn't put me off going out but i would definitely feel upset.

The fact is that certain people become total nasty ignorant idiots when they get drunk (& here they are usually coked up too.)

The ratio of idiots to nice people is what can make or spoil a night out.

IME some 'posher' places can be the worst because arrogant rich men in their 40s - 60s will spend £100s or more on alcohol for their girlfriends / escorts (who are nasty to other women as they hate the thought of 'competition'). Therefore they don't get thrown out despite bad behaviour.
(However it does make for interesting people-watching...).

Thankyou to everyone that commented on this post. Have had a good laugh reading some of the posts and also have realised how many other options there are. You are so right in that the venue probably had a lot to do with it so am looking forward to trying some other stuff now .