to never want to go out again?

[minesapintofwine]

Last night was the first night out for me in ages. It was ruined by 2 things for me. In one bar a girl (accidently) tipped a full glass of wine down the back of my dress-it was freeezzzing. My friend saw my face and when the girl saw me tell her why she didnt apologise just came right up in my face and said 'well I didnt do it on purpose'. It made me feel a little bit off but carried on with the night but in another bar I went to the loo and these girls started banging and kicking at the doors to get people to hurry up. It became a bit intimidating to walk out into so I rang me friend to come meet me and this girl started shouting youre not even using the loo I can see you on your phone (she was looking then!). Which made it much worse. I came out and she started screaming at me in front of everyone how they were all waiting whilst I was on my phone (but it was only cos she was so intimidating in first place). For the first time ever (and before dcs I would go out a lot) I decided to call it a night cos of bitchy aggressive behaviour. I woke up today thinking I really cant be bothered anymore. I know this is what happens all the time but I just feel like Im done with it now. Would it be unreasonable at the age of 30 to say no more 'big' nights out for a while just cinema, meals etc?

Also to you think I was BU in some of my behaviour to cause these type of reactions? cant help but think maybe I brought it on myself a bit.

Sorry Im feeling a bit down today .

Oh yes Mrsjay, a chair with a nice back.

or a booth booths are lovely

Going out is my idea of HELL!!

last time i went out I spent the entire night wishing I was at home in my pyjamas and comfortable slippers, nice and warm snuggled up watching TV.

I agree with the posters who said it was the venue rather than going out.

Were they selling cheap shots ?

I hate the idea though that people feel they are too old to go out. Or that getting older means they want to wear slippers and stay in all the time.

Nothing wrong with a good night out at any age.

I have actually never been in a club (am 25). Wish I could go and let my hair down but the thought fills me with dread, it's just not me (recently found out I have Aspergers so don't feel so bad about being 'different' now!). I used to feel like I had to go to those sorts of places, and admittedly I did have some fun times in my late teens, but I accept it's just not my thing anymore.

We have a naice pub restaurant near us which is where we tend to go if we have a rare babysitter - the food is amazing but I don't ever want to go to the pub half of it again, full of loud leery men. If that makes me a snob or something then I don't care.

In our first flat we had a pub opposite which was ok, and as we lived nearer my parents we went there quite a lot for child free time. I was when some men started laughing at DH for ordering tea though. It was the middle of the day FFS. Why do some people think that no fun can be had without alcohol?

I often have a cup of tea at the pub at lunchtime Fuzz, it's nice. Our local one you get a lovely cup and saucer and a chocolatey minty thingy.

Cheddars, I think sometimes it just does become boring - did for me anyway. I was happily going out until I was around 37/38 - and then I just started to get bored. Less getting drunk, more driving myself home - couldn't cope with the hangovers any more, all that sort of thing. And that was before I had DS!

I had lots of fun in the previous 20y though, so don't think I missed out - and have had the very occasional night out since, which was good fun (probably because it was so occasional) - I just don't have the stamina for it any more but the best bit is, I don't care. :)

I think you are right Thumb. I don't miss it at all. I had my share of going out half dressed and coming home pissed from the age of 16-22ish. I don't really need to do it now.

it's 'old man' pubs for me all the way - a few drinks, a good chat, and a sit down

IMO anywhere that doesn't have seats tends to result in jostling, pushing, drinking too much, loud and lairy behaviour etc...

I know what you mean wrt loud clubs and getting yourself home from busy city centres etc.

I just hate the thinking that we're 'past it' because we're over a certain age. Some people my dh are almost gleeful that don't need to go out anymore.

I like a bag of nuts now too, or maybe some scampi fries.

I love this thread! Took me years before I could admit that I bloody hate going out clubbing or on the piss. Love going out for a nice dinner with friends or to the cinema but going out with the sole intention of getting pissed is so not me. And it's not an age thing, I've never liked it but was always too much of a sheep to actually say it!

NO there is nothing wrong with a good night out nobody is saying we should all hibernate by the time we get to 30 but the OP had a horrible night out that imo is a sign to change your going out places,

Glass of whatever a bag of nuts and a good natter does me these days

Even as a teenager I hated going clubbing! I hate the atmosphere, people so drunk off their faces they don't know what they're doing and worst of all EVERY single time I have been to a club (ok so I could count on one hand) I have been groped by men who look like jeremy kule rejects.

Why not go out for dinner OP and have a quiet few drinks? Much more civilised.

I am lucky that my friends, while some of them are very happy to have drunken nights out and go clubbing etc, all of them understand that I do not. :)

the last time I was in a night club I am sure they were called discos I went out a few times after dd1 was born people were telling me I was young i should be out enjoying myself so off i would go once a month for my regulation 'me' time I hated it and would end up too drunk I stopped after a few months

oh forgot to add i was 23

There's plenty of places to enjoy a drink and a dance late into the night without being faced by rough as arsehole trollops like that.

Just try to find a better venue.

My worst nightmare now would be having to go on a hen night. I think I am fairly safe though-everyone is married.

My friend had a hen night at 35 was lovely sparkling a meal and a drink we were a little tipsy but no busy pubs we went to do a pub crawl in edinburgh this was out plan we got to the first pub and stayed there

I'm 38 and love going out. However, I would hate to be out in the kind of environment you describe, OP. I live in central London and there are loads of sophisticated places to have drinks with friends, where aggressive women kicking the loo doors would most certainly not be tolerated !

I avoid anywhere that attracts drunk, loud uncouth types and generally always have a really good time. Don't let last night put you off going out, just go to a more refined venue!

aww this is a shit night out! I think you need to address where you are going.
Some places are just rough and you shouldn't have to go around 2nd guessing yourself incase you provoke a reaction. Fuck em!

Go somewhere nicer next time. If you enjoy going out then dont let it stop you.