To let my son have his nails painted?

[2MumsAreBetterThan1]

Was sat painting my nails earlier today and my 8 year old son came over and asked if I would do his as well.

I said yes and he now has purple nails, I figured I wouldn't have said no to my 9 year old daughter so why say no to him and it's school holidays so why not.

Then once he went to bed my partner (also female by the way) commented that he was getting a bit old for that. Just to clarify she isn't of the boys should be macho and nail varnish will make him gay train of thought. She is worried he will be picked on for it.

Now it's got me thinking, should I have said no as the local kids may laugh, should I make him remove it before going out tomorrow?

I'm of the opinion that there is no such thing as "for girls or for boys" and people can wear and play with what they want but as my son is already z bully target due to his special needs I don't want to make it worse.

Should I as my partner suggested tell him boys don't usually wear nail varnish and some people may laugh and then let him decide if he wants it or not?

It really saddens me how boys are told from an early age how they can't wear or do things because its girly.
My ds prefers leggings to jeans - and I have no problem with it, but other people tell me that they are for girls. I let him have red white and blue nails for various events, and black for halloween. And makeup for Halloween too.

Just as girls can choose to wear whatever colour they like, and do the activities they choose, so should boys.

And its the bullies that have a problem - not the people who get bullied, no matter how they look

My 11 year old DS had his hair dyed pink last week. We always dye his hair in the holidays then cut it short at the start of term. It is the only time he is allowed to have it mad colours and he loves doing it. He originally picked blue but the delivery was going to be as much as the dye cost so I chucked a pink in for myself to make it worthwhile. When they arrived, he decided the pink looked better so we did that.

Yesterday he was at the park with a few mates when another 11 year old came over giving him grief for his hair (which by then had washed out in the pool in parts, so he resembled a Fruit Salad sweet) and it ended up with my DS getting punched in the face. That kid got a visit from the police and a reminder that violence is never acceptable, nor is punching someone for being different as that can be classed as a hate crime. My son and the friends he was with learnt that some people are idiots, but they suffer consequences of their idiocy and it is fine to be different.

Today, DS wanted his hair re-dyed ready to go to an Olympic football quarter final. We ran out of pink halfway through so it is now pink, blue and purple where the dyes crossed. It looks amazing and he had so many positive comments today at the match.

Hair dye is far more noticeable than a bit of nail polish. I'd say half the kids your DS sees won't even notice it. If anyone does make comments, it can be a nice opening gambit to explain how everyone is different and lots of people do things differently, but not everyone always approves of other people's choices (which I'm sure is something you have discussed since you have a female partner) so sometimes we might get mean comments, but that is just because those people might not have been told it is ok to be different so think you are doing something wrong.