Hownow, I haven't had a holiday for 8 years, so tbh I can't answer that one. I admit, I don't think it is right to let a 14yo (or even younger DC) run around outside at night disturbing other people.
I just see it as being considerate to others, who might not want to hear my DC's after a certain point at night.
If DD had EVER asked to stay out later, there would be more of an argument for me being 'restrictive', but as she hasn't, and she knows that any sensible request spoken about rather than shouted or whined would be discussed and considered, I don't see how it can be so wrong.
She doesn't want to be out on her own anyway. Some of her best friends ate a set of twins very young for her school year, they aren't yet 14, and until the start of the summer holidays, they had to be in at 5pm, weekends and holidays. When she was out with them, DD would come in at 5.15, rather than be on her own. Through choice. When she didn't have to be in till 6.30.
They are now allowed out till the same time as DD.
DD HAS been to the occasional party or meal out that has gone on later, for birthdays and stuff, but that isn't unsupervised, and that is for a special occasion.
When she does talk to me about wanting to stay out later, then I will compromise on somewhere between when I would like her to be in, and when she would like to come in.
I admit it might seem a bit old fashioned, the way I parent, but it suits my family. And I DO get a bit cats-bum face about other people's DC's out till god knows when, shouting and screaming and keeping my DC's awake. They could at least have been taught to have consideration for their neighbours.
And anyway, my Tenancy states no noise after 9pm. So the least people could do is stick to that. All the people down my street signed the same tenancy.
(Wants to live in the middle of nowhere and have peace and bloody quiet)