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AIBU to be slightly miffed with DH

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GingerWrath · 26/07/2012 19:32

He spends a LOT of time away through work and always hasn't done/has done something before he goes that makes my life that mucH harder.

Of the top of my head he went away for 4 months and took his car keys with him so I couldn't keep his car ticking over for him, he took the shed key with him for another 4 monther, in April, so I had no access to the lawn mower.

This time he has left heavy furniture wedged against the dog crate so I can't collapse it to go and stay with my Mum (5 yo dd needs occupying in the school holidays), and he has left his heavy toolbox wedged against the lawn mower so again I have no access!

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DawnOfTheDee · 26/07/2012 19:35

YANBU.

This reminds me of something Karl Pilkington was talking about on one of his podcasts....the idea that if you're away regularly/for a long time you should break something or do something so that the person who is at home misses you and realises how handy you are to have around Wink

SoldeInvierno · 26/07/2012 19:35

can you not ask someone to help you move the furniture/tool box...? and couldn't he post the keys back in 4 months?

sensuallettuce · 26/07/2012 19:37

Eh?

WorraLiberty · 26/07/2012 19:37

A personal question but are you able bodied?

AdoraBell · 26/07/2012 19:40

Do you not have a spare key for the car? I would get someone to help liberate the dog crate and leave the lawn for him to deal with

HumphreyCobbler · 26/07/2012 19:41

It sounds annoying but nothing that couldn't be sorted.

Did you not mow the lawn for four months?

sensuallettuce · 26/07/2012 19:42

Ah I see - my OH does this.

He went away for 3 months but hid the bottle opener Grin

He finds new homes for things too.

What's more he's on a submarine so I can't phone him to ask.

lisaro · 26/07/2012 19:44

Seriously? How do you cope? HmmHmmHmm

CaliforniaLeaving · 26/07/2012 19:45

I'd get a friend in to help shift the heavy stuff to somewhere more convenient for you. Bloody annoying when they go off and leave things like that. My Dh went off to work (only for the day) and left the truck hitched to the boat (and the hitch was padlocked) and I can't get it off, I needed the truck and it made my plans for the day a real pain. I had to do extra running about. Very annoying!

KittyFane1 · 26/07/2012 19:45

Also wondering why you can't move a tool box and why he can't post shed keys to you. Also, no spare car keys in the house?
If you can't move stuff yourself is there anyone you can ask?

WorraLiberty · 26/07/2012 19:46

I'm guessing the OP must be fairly able bodied to be able to mow the lawn

The rest is a mystery

rainydaysarebad · 26/07/2012 19:47

Your nails won't break if you move a bit of heavy furniture. I moved 2 sofas and a table when I was 8m pregnant with DS and my husband doesn't even work away. YABU and you know it.

sensuallettuce · 26/07/2012 19:47

OP where is he when he is away?

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GingerWrath · 26/07/2012 20:12

I am able bodied, I am also 4" 11' and seven stone, I have rearranged rooms and flat packed with the best of them! I do, however, have my limits.

Car and shed keys took about 5 weeks to come back from the Falkland Islands!

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rainydaysarebad · 26/07/2012 20:18

So you weren't really left without a lawn mower or car keys for 4 months were you? Grin.

You could move the tool box by laying on your back and pushing it with your legs. I always do that with heavy objects.

catgirl1976 · 26/07/2012 20:20

Um - if you really can't move a tool box on your own, perhaps ask a slightly studier friend?

catgirl1976 · 26/07/2012 20:21

Sturdier even

a studier friend could cause all sorts of trouble

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GingerWrath · 26/07/2012 20:22

Tool box is just inside full shed with lawnmower behind, no 'sit down and push with legs' space!

wasn't the full four months but a serious buggeration factor when it is already stressfull coping without your DH!

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Pandemoniaa · 26/07/2012 20:24

I'd be livid if this sort of absent-mindedness affected my life in the way you describe, OP. No way should you be confined to home because you can't get access to the dog crate. So while I recommend a Very Serious Talking To when your dh gets home, in the meantime, get someone to move the heavy furniture or buy a new dog crate.

openerofjars · 26/07/2012 20:25

So he's basically encouraging you to go and ask a friendly Big Strong Man for help with some heavy lifting? Silly, silly DH. Wink

Just kidding.

lisaro · 26/07/2012 20:27

Ok - empty the tool box item by item and move it, or do you enjoy being useless 'helpless? having visions of Emily Howard 'I can't possibly do that - I'm a laydee'

Viviennemary · 26/07/2012 20:27

He's just forgetful that's all. Could he not have posted the keys. Get somebody to help move the furniture.

JumpingThroughHoops · 26/07/2012 20:30

There are times when I never know whether to cry or laugh at some things. Or cry laughing.

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GingerWrath · 26/07/2012 20:34

I am NOT a helpless lay dee, I am ex forces and used to coping, just fed up with DH making my life alone that much bloody harder!

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sensuallettuce · 26/07/2012 20:40

But you knew you'd have to cope without him when you met him? Confused