To feel sad that my DC will never call me mummy.

[honeytea]

I am pregnant and maybe slightly over emotional due to hormones with DC1. I am English but live in Sweden with my DP (he is Swedish) we intend to stay here as it's just such a lovely place to bring up kids.

We are planning on speaking both English and Swedish at home and sending the child to a Swedish nursery/school, possibly sending them to an international school as they get older, but from the beginning we want DC to feel "Swedish" as that is where our home is. Me and my DP have talked about what the baby should call us, we decided it will be best to use the Swedish "mamma" and "pappa" the reason for this is that all the kids books/TV shows will have a "mamma" in, also their little friends and teachers will talk about mamma so it could be confusing for DC to have a mummy not a mamma.

I can see the logic in using mamma, I also think it is really sweet how they never get to old to say mamma, my 35 year old DP calls him mum mamma still. A little bit of me feels really sad about never being someones mummy (I know there are bigger issues in the world)

Do you think it would be selfish to the child to insist on them calling me mummy when they will already be unusual because they have an english parent.

i actually think you should use english, you're lucky that your families 'minor' language is english as that's so prevalant in the world and every swede i've ever met has amazingly good english but even still if you want your children to be bilingual you'll have to put in the effort. i wouldn't worry about them feeling 'odd one out', i know many many people with family languages other than the majority language of the country they live and have never really heard of them feeling 'odd' as they just absorb everything of the culture that is around them. i would ensure they're brought up bilingually as the advantages are enormous.

My SIL is French but they live in England.My little DNs call her Mummy in public and Maman at home x

I am mamma and Mummy to dds 3&6 more Mamma in Italy and Mummy in the Uk but Bringing them up bilingual it came naturally and also is lovely to hear when they mix ' Mamma,Mummy, Mum love you!!!!

i'm British, living in Spain and married to a Spaniard. I speak English to DCs and Dh speaks Spanish to them. Dh and I speak in Spanish together. DS calls me mummy when speaking to me, but mamá or mami when speaking in Spanish. He calls DH Papi mostly. He calls his Spanish gps Abuelo and Abuela but calls my mum Granny. so, don't worry...there's no reason at all why you can't be mummy as well as mamma and DH can't be Daddy as well as the Swedish version.

Don't see why you can't be mummy. DH speaks French to the DCs so he is papa but I speak English so I'm mummy.

They know the equivalent words in both languages and have been known to introduce DH to their friends as "my daddy called Papa"!

my kids call me mummy and their dad papa as hes french, but they know that hes their dad when people talk about dads and when we're in france they know that i am referred to as maman

just call yourself mummy

People living in the UK won't call their parents "mummy" and "daddy" just because it's what the locals do.
Yes, and also, it is worth remembering that "mummy" and "daddy" are not the default for the entire UK!

My DC are trilingual, I speak English to them and DH speaks Italian. We live in Sweden so the kids will also speak Swedish to us too (it's all very confusing being a visitor to our house and trying to follow a conversation!!!)

The kids call me mummy and DH papa whenever they speak English or Italian. When they speak Swedish we are called mamma and pappa.

I guess if i go with one language one parent I should really refer to my DP as Daddy but expect him to refer to himself as pappa, the same as he can refer to me as mamma and I can refer to me as mummy.

I am ever so envious of trilingual families! I have some lovely international friends who have Swedish+other language+English spoken between mum and dad and the kids do just fine. I feel the English/Swedish combo is fairly dull in comparison. Maybe I will send them to a french school just to teach them a 3rd language!

Can they call you Mummy at home and Mamma elsewhere, or just Mummy all the time?
We didn't call my dad's mum Grandma - we called her the word for Grandma in her native language. Although I've always called my dad 'dad' he has now decided he wants to be called the word for grandad in his mother tongue. DH's parents are dead so I suppose my son will never call anyone grandad.

Not at all!! Surely using Mummy drives home the fact that you are English and that part of DC is English. I think it's lovely to have half and half. Mummy and Papa. Nothing wrong with that. Celebrate that DC has two 'nationalities' so to speak.