to want to slap the assistant in Super Drug

[IamNotYourLove]

for calling me "My love" every other sentence?

Do you want a bag my love.
Enter your pin my love.
Do you want a bottle of water for just 28p my love.

I am not your love.

I am an intelligent ,degree educated professional woman , who wirites for the national broadsheet newspapers, mid 40s, dressed in skinny jeans, converses, nice hair and Bobbi Brown slap.

I am not an old age pensioner who needs patronising.

You, on the other hand, looked no more than 24 and needed a slap.

Zhag Zhag, you're just too precious for words. I'd rather be called 'love' than 'Madam' any day. And in fact I could well imagine an older solicitor (of either sex) calling their clients 'love'. Perhaps not at a first meeting, but if they know them a little it would not be at all unacceptable. And I'd far rather be called 'love' than 'mate' any day of the week. (Shudder)
And guess what, I'm a financial journalist too!

'cock' is Lanc/Manc. Very very common in older people.

To be fair zhagzhag has a point, what if you had lips like Lesley Ash?

lisaro, thanks for the cock info (although I'm still half-convinced it's a Black Country thing too ...)

And I'm sorry but I don't know what you mean about the Lesley Ash thing (although I do know about her trout lips).

lady from the side she looks like a duck, as do many people who have gone overboard with the pout.

Ah. Do you think she'd take it personally, though? Or realise what the context was/give them the benefit of the doubt?

Zhag, IMO, having lived in Derbyshire for 40 years 'Duck' does ''cross all gender/age/class/other boundaries"

It will almost certainly be used by 'indigenous' (can't think of the right word) folk from Derbyshire, but it knows no boundaries

Therein lies the question, lady. Is it safe to risk it in this PC day and age? I'm surprised there's not already been a campaign.

Err dunno where the came from.

I haven't been to Derbyshire in a while, but I'm SURE people there are still risking it on a minutey daily basis!

Perhaps there aren't many trout-pouters in the county?

Quack !!

Im in derbyshire and they ducking love duck.

op your a bit of a twat arent you love?
Water love?

lol what a knob you are op.

do get a check on reality !

Zhag, I am going to repeat my earlier post.

'Just to clarify OP, the pasting you are getting is not because, of itself, you dislike being called 'My Love'. Lots of people do.

It's the assertion that, due to your entirely unnecessary description of yourself, the shop assistant shouldn't have said it to you because you are better than her.

This is where you have gone horribly, hideously wrong'

The OP came across as deeply unpleasant and a crashing snob. That is why people have reacted badly.

Btw, I have worked in the NHS for 16 years and have heard staff of all persuasion refer to each other and sometimes to patients, as 'love' or 'my love', as well as 'Petal', 'Hen' and 'Darling'. I can tell you right now that none of them would have been sacked for it.

For every patient who might find it 'overfamilar' (and I'm sure there are some, all they have to do it flag it up and it wouldn't be repeated) there are some patients who like it because they find it friendly and reassuring, and that in an unfamiliar and scary setting, someone cares.

It's absolutely fine to dislike a particular phrase, it's not fine to make sweeping assumptions about other people based on their speech patterns. And honestly, 'Circus, Fun Fair or Chip Shop'? Good grief...

The lady in the local corner shop shouts 'See yer, cock!' when you leave. We're in NW.

We're in Derbyshire and we get "ducked" a lot . I think it's lovely, very kind and friendly. Even miserable DH just agreed he likes it. As well as reminding me of my Yorkshire childhood, I think it is a wonderful link to the individual heritage of the area and a fabulous local tradition.

I also love being "chick" or "chickened" when that occurs

I have posted upthread in response to the OP but given her lack of response, I am more convinced than previously that this is a wind-up / crass psychological experiment.

Zhaghzhagh - you are assuming we all think like you but are lying. I asked the question about the difference between Superdrug and a Chip Shop because I genuinely didn't, and still don't know.

Where I live everyone calls everyone else duck, including my doctor! It's a colloquialism and in no way disrepectful. To be so scathing about the use of a word that many, many people use is akin to saying that you have no tolerance for regional differences.

And frankly, that is really sad. I don't want to live in a world where we are all the same.

I reckon op is Judith Wood from the Telegraph

Judith Woods did write a piece in the Telegraph recently about elderly people being addressed as 'love' in hospital. Though I think she concluded it was permissible because the nurses who scattered the word over the olds like confetti were more likely to be caring, or so she thought.

There goes that theory then!

i really like randomn words of endearment.

where i'm from it's 'my beauty', but sadly you don't hear it so much now.

op yabu - there are far worse names to be called.

Ktay, IMO it sounds like your theory is bang on!

Count yourself lucky down here it would be ' my lubber'!
When I first came here I thought shop assistants were being a bit 'over friendly' then I noticed its just what people say and to be honest I quite like it and don't take offence.