being referred to at work by colleague as MY GIRL?

[jaabaar]

Hi,

Femal Colleague is calling me on the phone to suppliers: I will tell my Girl to do this and that! I am 42! and not she is not my boss! I am in the company for over 10 years!

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Am I being unreasonable?

WTAF?

You have to bring this to her attention right away.

I am not YOUR GIRL, You are not my boss, Please stop calling me that or I will have to go and talk to the person that IS my boss."

Meant to say, even if she WERE your boss, calling you MY GIRL would still be inappropriate and insulting.

YADNBU

Unacceptable. Bring it up with her!

YANBU

even if she was your boss, the term would be "my assistant".

I would simply say "I am not "your girl"", I am your colleague. And see if she stops.. if not, then take it further.

Unfortunately cant do much about it in our office. But I thought I was starting to get over senstive. this is just a minor thing in all the other inappropriate behaviour she is demonstrating for years. Thank you for reassuring me that I am not going mental.... yet!

Cheeky cow! I would be all over that like a ton of bricks. How dare she!

I'd be inclined, when she comes to 'tell' you to do this or that, that you thought she was going to get 'her girl' to do it, does she have a DD on work experience?

The correct phrase, obviously, is 'I will ask my colleague to do that'.

You do need to get this sorted out. What the hell is she talking about? What's wrong with "my colleague"?

"Unfortunately cant do much about it in our office."

Of COURSE you can!

Just say, don't call me that. I am not your girl or anyone else's for that matter!

Come on! You are a MNer! you can't be doing with THIS!

Why can't you do anything? Even a pa request to superiors to send an email out to all mentioning how to refer to colleagues on the phone :) would be better than nothing

Am i the only one not really seeing this as a big deal

no words, just no words.

I would just say (with big smile) ''I expect you to call me 'my colleague' as it is far more appropriate & professional''.

I've had similar attitudes from older colleagues - so i just say 'don't talk to me like that in future please'.

Be friendly & act like their equal - then remind them that you treat them as an equal so you expect the same from them.

Start referring to her as "my woman".

PS. she sounds quite posh!! Does she have servants or something?

My blood pressure actually rose reading that.

Of course you can say something and do it quickly before you kill her.

It gives her a feeling of power. Since another senior colleague left (she was always competing and jelous of him (he was my boss) and he was always more successful. However now he is gone it is all gone a bit to her head and she wants to take over everything! She always used to insult people mind you, all younger ones coming are leaving after a few months with broken spirits.

It is very difficult, and it becomes harder and harder to take all of this every day: e.g. I have to copy all my emails to her, she doenst even copy me the ones where I am involved in projects. Then I am being called incompetenet because I am not aware of what is going on.... that is the style basically...

I am getting very tired. My head hurts, my chest hurts, I cant even hear myself thinking anymore...

But got to get on with it :)

Thank you for making me feel I am still normal!

Yrc brilliant. "my old lady" might be better as she seems to wantbto mess around with ages

Op otoh you could just be gazing at her with a shocked look on your face next time she does it

Yes mini you must be.

This woman clearly wants to make herself seem more important. If a male colleague said that it would be classed as sexual harrassment. Why should it be "no big deal" just because its a woman being so derogatory.

Why do you "have" to copy your emails to her? Either she's your boss, or supervising you in some respect or she's not.

I'm an EA, we are regularly refered to as "the girls" the youngest EA in the office is 28. I've got far too much grey hair to be someone's 'girl' - makes me rather annoyed.

Say something. If you do'nt want to do it directly how about "god I was talking to [client X] on the phone, he refered to his assistant as his 'girl' and I don't think he was being ironic, what a knob, she's as old as me! It's so insulting, bet she's looking for a new job."

This sounds like a horrible situation to put up with every day OP. I know the current job scene is pretty dire, but I do suggest looking around. Is there an HR manager at your company? If so, it would be good to send a list of suggestions to make your dept more productive. Don't put it as a complaint - harder to sound reasonable.

What's an ea?
Why on earth are you allowing ths woman tk get away with this. Imagine her naked

You must challenge this before you or the rest of us start stabbing. It's so rude! If she is not your boss stop taking orders from her!

If she is missing you out the email link. Tell your superior immediately.