To ask you to hold my hand as I'm shitting myself.

[NervousNell]

Have name changed for this.

I had a mammogram last week and have been recalled for 'further investigations' and I am absolutely shitting myself now. Appointment is for Friday but I feel sick just thinking about it. There is a high breast cancer rate in my family and I'm so scared of something happening and me not being able to see my kids grow up, be there for them. They're only young and they need me.

Yes this is a self pitying post but I'm scared.

Handhold from here, Nell.

I wish I could say something very helpful, but I'm here and I will hold your hand, I hope that's a comfort.

Thinking of you.

Fully understand why you are scared and so offering a hand to hold.

Not sure if it's helpful, or even if you can take it in, but many lumps are not cancer and those that are, the treatment is getting better all the time and so your chances of making a good recovery would be good.

Will pray for you too

Handholding from my sofa.

Sorry you are having to go through this.

Hope you have some RL support also.

Holding your hand. I understand how scared you must be, but you need to deal in facts and try not to let what ifs run away with you. I hope you find out more soon I will be with you all the way if you want me

How old are you?

Holding your hand. Further investigations doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong, and even if it is there's a good chance it's very early days. Unmumsnetty hugs from here.

Hand holding here. A recall from mammograms doesn't automatically indicate cancer, but am sure you know that.

Hope you get some good news soon, never been in your situation so can't really offer anything else I'm afraid.

Handholding here too.

Don't forget that the vast, vast majority of findings are benign / cysts etc so try not to worry (easier said than done, I know)

Holding your hand OP.

Thanks for the hand holding. I feel like a twat being so nervous as I don't actually know what's wrong yet. I'm 47 Don't.

Hand-holding like a good 'un.

It's completely understandable to be scared, but you're strong, you're being sensible and getting it checked out, and you're in good hands (medical-wise, not just our virtual ones).

Echo Hope's wise words about likelihood and treatment too.

Consider your hand held. It might not be the worst...might not be a clear one and hopefully you've been proactive by having one anyways. Whatever happens, there's a very good probability you'd slay anything sinister so you'd see your babies grow up.

The unexpected happened to my best friend recently, she's been brilliant with it...never thought it would happen to her or that she would cope with it. But she more than coped with it and she's fine now. (sorry if you don't want to hear stories about people you don't know).

Thinking of you, uncertainty is the worst isn't it?

It will be ok OP. Sometimes the not knowing is the hardest and scariest bit.

I had a scare a few years ago with a type of cancer that runs in my family. It's really horrible but the sooner you get the tests done, the sooner you can deal with it whether it's good or bad.

Be strong and we're all here.

Handhold, and will be thinking of you tomorrow.

I'm never sure whether it's good to talk about other people's experiences, but in case it does help - two women in my family have had breast cancer diagnosed, and both have now had the all clear.

Anyway, will be thinking of you.

Fingers crossed from you, I'm sure it will be fine. Waiting to find out what/whether something is wrong is the worst - did it myself a few years ago (different kind of cancer, which I turned out to not have).

You're a very kind bunch. It may only be virtual hand holding but I so appreciate it.

Holding your hand

Nuff said

Fingers crossed for you. Just to say, the vast majority of women recalled for further tests are cleared. Only a tiny number actually have something there, and most of these are cysts etc which are easily treated. Do try not to worry too much, you will probably be absolutely fine.

Hand holding. I'm so sorry you have to go through this stress. Fingers and toes and everything else crossed for a good result from your tests.

Here's my hand. I'm sure all will be fine. Will you get results on Friday?

Won't get the results for another week to ten days so I doubt I'll sleep a bloody wink the whole time.

OK - this is awful for you right now. I am an HR manager in an organisation with about 2500 staff. Every year on my caseload I have three or four ladies of around your age or a bit older diagnosed with breast cancer. It sucks but they have all come back to work after a max of about 12 months and are doing fine. That, btw, is the worse case scenario. I get recalled after almost every mammogram and have done for the last 6-8 years due to cysts which are simply aspirated. At first it was terrifying. Sometimes there are 1/2 a dozen little ones, once I had a 6cm x 9cm mass that I hadn't even noticed but it was all drained off and totally harmless. My tit man told me that cysty lumps escalate as the menopause rears its head and start to diminish as it passes.

With lots of hugs and prayers - good luck - post again on Friday and let us know. Fingers and toes crossed.

Holding tight. I also come from a family with a high incidence of breast cancer, and had a scare a few years ago with ovarian cancer. I can still remember the senseless, crippling fear - my sympathies for how you are feeling, it's impossible to reason away. Recalls can be for many reasons; maybe a benign cyst, maybe just a poor quality image. Best wishes for Friday.

Hand holding here too, poor you. This happened to my cousin and she was terrified. Took her DH to call back appointment for moral support. Turned out it was really minor, mammogram hadn't worked properly for some reason but there was absolutely nothing to worry about, just routine. Seems NHS admin couldn't differentiate between a call back due to something sinister and a routine thing. The nurses couldn't believe she'd been so worried and were very apologetic. Hope it works out the same for you.