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To ask you to hold my hand as I'm shitting myself.

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NervousNell · 18/07/2012 20:41

Have name changed for this.

I had a mammogram last week and have been recalled for 'further investigations' and I am absolutely shitting myself now. Appointment is for Friday but I feel sick just thinking about it. There is a high breast cancer rate in my family and I'm so scared of something happening and me not being able to see my kids grow up, be there for them. They're only young and they need me.

Yes this is a self pitying post but I'm scared.

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BoysBoysBoysAndMe · 18/07/2012 21:14

Wishing you the very best.

Virtual hand holding and hug giving here x

Keep us updated

NewNameNiceyNicey · 18/07/2012 21:15

Fingers crossed and hand held tight.

Idlegirl83 · 18/07/2012 21:16

Holding your hand

Ormiriathomimus · 18/07/2012 21:17

Fingers crossed for you nervous x

EnjoyResponsibly · 18/07/2012 21:19

God you must be absolutely shitting it. I'm holding your virtual hand so tightly it must have gone blue and dropped off. Hopefully the loss of your hand will distract you.

Keep us posted OP xx

BigHairyFlowers · 18/07/2012 21:20

My hand's here too

GwendolineMaryLacey · 18/07/2012 21:23

Hand holding here too. My mother had a scare a couple of years back. Was bloody terrifying for all of us. But it was something and nothing. Our bodies are sods and like to scare us.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 18/07/2012 21:24

Popping in to hold your hand too...

You're in the system, they have you, they will look into it and they know what they are doing. Believe and trust them to do their best for you.

Can you ring the helpline that they will have given you for support?

shinyrobot · 18/07/2012 21:24

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hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 18/07/2012 21:27

It's not self pitying at all. < Proffers hand and chocolate> I'll be thinking of you on Friday.

IamtheZombie · 18/07/2012 21:31

Please try to relax, NervousNell. It may turn out to be nothing. It may turn out to be something. Whichever it is, you can get through this.

I am currently being treated for breast cancer. I have every expectation of living for many years to come.

I've had a mastectomy (in November), chemo (January - May), radiotherapy (May - June) and have just started on Herceptin which I will be on for 12 months. I'm not going to tell you that it's been a breeze, but it has been no where near as frightening or as difficult as I feared it would be.

While you're waiting, you might want to pop over to General Health and chat with the ladies on the Tamoxifen thread. They've all been where you are now and they can give you an enormous amount of hand holding and support.

EnjoyResponsibly · 18/07/2012 21:35

Going to give your hand a squeeze too Zombie, just for the hell of it

OP, seconding the post up-thread, STEP AWAY FROM GOOGLE!!! It is the devils playground at times like this and will only fuck with your head.

WhereYouLeftIt · 18/07/2012 21:39

" I'm so scared of something happening and me not being able to see my kids grow up, be there for them. They're only young and they need me."
Thought I'd just add - my mother had breast cancer aged 38, with children aged 12 and 16. She's 75 now, and still ruling me with a rod of iron not really, she's quite sweet really.

Shellywelly1973 · 18/07/2012 21:42

Holding your hand tightly,

Take care.

Xxxx

GoatsHaveStrangeEyes · 18/07/2012 21:48

Nell my mil is going through the exact same thing right now.

She went for a breast reduction and had to have a mammogram first, obviously not expecting to find something but they did .

She had her biopsy last week and is back next friday for results. She is 47 too so lots of hand holding from me.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 18/07/2012 21:49

Another hand holder here.

All the best.

Sallyingforth · 18/07/2012 22:05

OP Do please remember that the purpose of a mammogram is to catch problems before they get serious. In the unlikely event that they have found something you have every prospect of getting it sorted and living a normal life. That's why you had the test.
Please come back and tell us how you got on, to reassure other ladies in the same position.

SoleSource · 18/07/2012 23:23

You're certainly in one of the most supportive places NervousNell. You'll get lots of kind, helpful responses and that will make you feel a lot better. I am here for you too. Thinking of you, keep posting Nell. Have faiith x

MammaTJ · 18/07/2012 23:25

Hand holding!! I can do this in this situations as I have practice!! I held a friends hand thrugh it and she was fine. Hopefully you will be too.

TheseGoToEleven · 18/07/2012 23:26

If there's something there then this is good news that it's been found and can be dealt with.
Sending positive vibes to you for Friday.

Sunnydelight · 18/07/2012 23:27

Holding hand. Best of luck - let us know how it goes.

LaFlotte · 18/07/2012 23:33

Hand holding from me too.

Remember that there might not even be anything, it could just be that the mammogram wasn't clear. It's common to be recalled so try not to worry too much...easier said than done.

If there is something there, I think the stats are that 9 out of 10 breast lumps are nothing to worry about and even if it is the worst case scenario then it's very treatable now.

Do not google. It's the worst thing you can do. Most information is very out of date.

Try to keep busy and best wishes for your appointment.

neversaydie · 18/07/2012 23:56

I was recalled after my first mammogram. Which was about a year after my younger sister went through treatment for cancer (she is in the USA so they caught it early).

I told my husband and then absolutely and flatly refused to discuss it until after I had been to the hospital!

They re-did the mammogram, then double checked with an ultrasound. It took about an hour - they then called me and DH in and informed us that all was well.

In my case I think it was partly my size (lots of breast to squash) and partly simply that it was the first time through the system and so they had to check a couple of places that looked different but did not actually have anything wrong with them.

Of course, the day the recall letter came in my breasts started to ache. Which made me even more panicky. The whole business triggered a period shortly afterwards. They were pretty erratic by then, but still happy to come back and reinforce any stressful moment.

Anyway, I wrote this to let you know that it is not necessarily bad news, and also that they will almost certainly be able to tell you something while you are there - you should not have to go away and wait several days for results of repeated mammograms or ultrasounds.

ViviPru · 19/07/2012 00:02

Hand holding here. Can't begin to imagine how hard the next week or so is going to be for you. We're all here for when you need to vent.

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NervousNell · 21/07/2012 07:52

Wanted to update all you lovely supportive people on here. Everything went fine yesterday, had another mammogram then spoke to the doctor who did an ultrasound. Everything is absolutely fine. Seems like it was the way the breast was photographed but they couldn't tell for definite until they saw me again. I feel a bit silly about being so worked up but it was a horrible time waiting and I had conjured up all sorts of scenarios in my head - I'm so relieved.

Thank you for all the hand holding it really did help and I have to say Iamthezombie I think you sound very brave and really rather amazing.

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