to not want dp shouting at the washing?

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I do the cleaning and hoovering around the house, dp is supposed to do the washing but he hasn't for nearly 3 weeks solid so I had to do it today and got really cross with him. I think I do most of the housework and he's just lazy but he got shouty and said I was really untidy and disgusting instead, leaving food around, even though he does it too and it's me that'll have to clear up, and that it's not his fault he can't bear to use the hoover and mop, it's the way he was born. And he said because he has to be out more I should do most of it, and his friends agree. Surely he should be doing more or aibu?

Without knowing other circumstances it's impossible to say. Both working, DCs etc?

But blaming the fact he can't bear to use the hoover or the mop on how he was born is just about the most pathetic thing I've ever heard.

He can't bear to use a hoover and a mop???

Bahahahahahahaha

I work 2 days, he's setting up a business so not really working but he always finds stuff to be out for, like chatting to his friend in the business - he doesn't have to be out but then it makes him look busy. And he's got some sort of ocd so can't use anything dirty but he lived on his own for a bit and managed.

This would be very funny if it wasn't so pathetic. I'm sure there's a Sure Start course somewhere on how to use a mop and vacuum cleaner...

wash your clothes but not his.

Why is he shouting at the washing?

I shout at coathangers sometimes but they are very annoying

Meant shouting about the washing, he went into a big grump because he said he couldn't be expected to get it all sorted, he doesn't have enough time because he'd been out all day and has to go out early tommorrow. Had a big row, I think he's lazy, he thinks I'm nasty and untidy and don't look after myself.

Mildred

Another pathetic, inadequate twat.

Tell him it's 2012 not 1950.

From the thread title I imagined your DP standing in the garden shouting at the
washing on the line!

Although his excuses sound pretty feeble, is there any chance you could give him some different chores instead - eg he could do cooking and ironing if you do the other stuff?

He was born that way
So presumably he still craps his pants as he was born that way? Honestly.....

He is being pretty pathetic and unreasonable. I have never before come across an OCD person who DIDN'T like cleaning . Could you not just make the vacuum and mop extremely clean so he could use them or buy him some gloves? It doesn;t even make sense because personally if I didn't like dirty things I would do hoover and mop duty rather than laundry...all yukky

Or get him to pay for a cleaner

Coathanger comment made me smile

I hope you didn't do any of his washing. If you did, don't do it again.

Leave the bastard.

I couldn't live with a man who felt it was my job to do the housework. He is a lazy person

Please dont tell me there are children living in this domestic chaos.

Liked coathanger comment too. We don't need a lot of ironing doing, only his shirts and he does them just before he wears them. Tell him to do cooking but then he decides to make micro meals or all the veg is mushy, or he can't work out how to cook something so I have to do half of it. Doesn't seem to be anything he can and will do on his own. While ago he took some washing to his mums and she did it but it was mostly mine so I'm still ok but he's wearing the same t-shirt as 2 days ago. I shouted that I wasn't his mum but he said at least she can do it while working full time. He wants to keep taking washing there and I said no, it's shaming.

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Tell him to go live on his own and not use a hoover and a mop if he wants to live in filth.

We've got a 3-year old but luckily he's got lots of clothes. Don't want to leave him but don't want to be arguing about him moving out 2 years ago just because the housework isn't done.

Was he standing like a t rex by any chance

What do you mean standing like a t rex?

How can someone be born not wanting to use a hoover? Does he have traumatic memories of being born by vacuum extraction??

Although it does sound like he has very rigid ideas OP, which must be difficult if that extends beyond housework.

3 weeks without doing any washing? Haven't you run out of pants?

He didn't throw any wine at the wall did he?

He says he was born with ocd so can't help it, I think his mum gave it to him. I had to buy a multipack of pants to top up and with his mum's washing it was ok but soon won't be. So I'm not BU? How do I get him to do stuff and do it properly?

No, if he threw stuff I'd leave but it's just always shouting, nearly every day there's something.