To not iron DH's shirts?

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Well AIBU?

To listen to MiL and my own mum you'd think I was the world's worst wife for not ever using the iron. DH perfectly capable and happy to iron his own shirts, but mildly amused at being told how hard done by he is.

I'm SAHM to a 6mo, previously worked FT. Happy to do all cooking and vast majority of household tasks and cleaning, but I draw the line at ironing.

I do my hubby's shirts - mainly because we traded - I don't drive, he doesn't iron.....

Whatever.... he wants to do them let him...

YANBU.

I think my MIL kind of thought the same, but now our cleaner does the ironing so she can't possibly object to that!!

Big bone of contention.

My stance is that, before children, DH ironed his own shirts without complaint. Just because i now have a functioning womb it does not automatically pass to me.

YANBU. I don't even wash my DH's shirts, never mind iron them! My mum also thinks my DH is hard done by, despite complaining for the last 30 years about my useless dad who has never once done a load of laundry even though he's been a SAHP/retired the whole time.

YANBU

I don't iron shirts/do packed lunches for DH.

When he married me, he married me as a wife not a mother.

Yanbu. My parents also think i'm a lazy witch as I don't iron DHs shirts and he also changes the sheets on the bed and cleans the bathroom when it's his turn.

What a lazy cow I am, what with my full time job and all.

I think you already know the answer to this.

Iron his shirts

Don't iron his shirts

Do what works for you both

Ignore others

No. I'm surprised you even need to ask in this day and age. Your contribution as a SAHM is equal to his contribution financially. If you both worked you wouldn't be expected to iron his shirts so why should you now. He's a grown man and you are his wife not his mother.

It's an ongoing joke with my mil that I don't iron dh shirts.

The one time I did iron his shirt, his colleagues made a joke that they could tell he irons his own shirts, mil found it hilarious!

YANBU
But then I don't iron my shirts or the DDs either.

Anyone wanting anything iron is totally free to learn to do it them selves.

Yanbu, dh here who irons his own shirts, unless I happen to be in a particularly tipsy loving mood and decide I might have a bash at them.

Your mil should be congratulated on raising an independent man and your dm on raising a daughter that isn't a doormat.

Disclaimer: if ironing is the greatest love of your life and how you get a thrill, this does not make you a doormat.

YANBU.
I don't iron DH's shirts either - I loathe ironing and only do it about 3x a year when wearing something that absolutely requires ironing.

I launder DH's shirts, then I hang them up on hangers so the majority of the creases fall out; he decides when he puts one on whether or not it needs ironing and if it does, he irons it. I'm sure he'd prefer it if I did them, but he'd prefer it if I did every sodding thing around the house and all he had to do was watch tv and play on his computer when he's not working; but life ain't like that, sadly for him.

Yawn....

YABU you silly little woman. Your lovely DH works HARD all week for you to sit at home, eat bon bons and NOT iron his shirts. Tut what IS the world coming to. Next you'll be telling us you expect him to help with the children or babysit them sometimes.

Just read that post and it makes me sound like a man! I'm not a dh, I have a dh.

Oh dear, I ought not to post when feeling unwell, my coherency goes out the window.

I used to iron Dh's shirts but one morning I looked around while I was taking care of the 2 dc's, making coffee, making breakfast, packing lunches, trying to get myself ready and stressing out that I still needed to iron dh's shirt before he left for work. Where was dh while I was doing all this? Still in bed of course. That was when I decided I would never iron a shirt of his again, and I never have since.

I iron his shirts but then, he does most of the cooking - so we're all happy

God no, I'm a SAHM too and I don't iron anything! Not even for myself.

i used to irn my work trousers, but that was it, and not all the time, usually if they dried on the line they were fine. I can't believe people spend so much time ironing everything...!

Dh prefers to iron his own shirts. mainly because he has seen the result of me attempting to iron: "Tiago, you're supposed to iron out the creases, not the other way round..."

Actually, if we are going somewhere that dH needs a shirt, he irons it, then I fix it. But thats th nly time i iron

DH always used to iron shirts pre-children. Post children, I struggled to iron my own stuff and theirs especially with clingy babies who would never leave me alone long enough to let me iron anything without pulling board, iron and clothes down on the own head. DH got increasingly busy and didn't have time to do it himself.

So I pay somebody else to do it. DH is happy, I am happy. Who can complain?

Ask your MIL to do it if it bothers her that much. Surely she wouldn't mind doing it if she feels that strongly that her darling boy shouldn't be made to suffer so.

I do it - I don't work & my DH works ludicrously long hours so I personally feel its a fair swap as from 9 - 3 every day I can pretty much please myself! School holidays may be a different matter....

Don't really understand the issue...of course I iron his shirts. Its half an hour a week, and ill probably keep doing it when begin work myself next week.

Ah, DH irons I cook.
It started when he complained that i wasn't ironing his thick cotton work shirts right - so obviously he had to do them himself. I then would say - "oh if you are ironing could you just do...." and it gradually got so that he did the ironing. He is better at it than me so it seems so much more sensible.

My mum is very jealous that dp irons (and cooks and cleans even though I'm not working). I have carefully selected my wardrobe so that very little requires more than careful hanging, so if dp wants a crisp shirt he does it himself!

The exception is Sunday lunch. He runs Sunday am (long, off road, with a club) so if i expect him out of the door within an hour of getting home (eg meeting friends for lunch) i deal with a shirt. But that's a favour, not an obligation!