To not iron DH's shirts?

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Well AIBU?

To listen to MiL and my own mum you'd think I was the world's worst wife for not ever using the iron. DH perfectly capable and happy to iron his own shirts, but mildly amused at being told how hard done by he is.

I'm SAHM to a 6mo, previously worked FT. Happy to do all cooking and vast majority of household tasks and cleaning, but I draw the line at ironing.

DH would never let me near his shirts with an iron. I don't blame him, I'm terrible at it.

I doubt my MIL is bothered about it though!

I don't iron dp's shirts so he goes to work unironed. I am Sahm to preschoolers tho, if I were home alone between 9-3 every day I think j would do it.

Dh irons my clothes.

I don't iron or wash his shirts they go to the Drycleaner who does them for what I think is a good price. I will take them for DH if he has put them in his special laundry bag and left it somewhere easy for me to grab. so sick of him leaving crap everywhere I am putting my foot down

When ds was born,dh ditched all his lovely cotton Dior shirts and bought some iron free shirts from M and S so they didn't need ironing.

11 years on he's still buying them

Whoever is at the iron does the clothes, although I don't do many shirts because I am terrible at it. :o

On my wedding day my mother said to me that now I was getting a ring on my finger I would have to be a proper woman and look after my DH. This apparently includes ensuring he has a fresh, ironed shirt each morning, a cooked breakfast should he wish for one and a hot meal on the table 15 minutes after he gets home from work. He should also not have to do any housework because unless he decides to be nice and 'help me with my chores'.

My MIL thought similar and told me how she used to look after her husband properly, not like stupid women today this is the husband who divorced her because she's a passive agressive smothering nightmare

They both suggested that when I started maternity leave that I may want to be a proper wife and mother and do all the cooking. cleaning and ironing (I did do most to be fair as I was lucky enough to be able to take just over a year).

When I started working as a childminder they again suggested that I should do all the cooking, cleaning and ironing. After all I just do a little bit of babysitting for my friends so they can go to their real jobs (yes both my mother and MIL said that).

For the third time they were reminded I don't have a bloody vacuum attachment for my fanjo therefore I was no more qualified to do everything than my DH who now works about 15 hours a week less than I do

Sorry, started typing and all the bitterness flew out!!

• it's as if the feminist movement never happened, isn't it....

"proper woman" and "proper wife" my arse!

Life is far to short too iron imo.

Ffs too and to

Exactly valium
if i had half hour spare and wanted to pretend i lived in the 50s, i'd bake a cake!

Tell me about it

I really don't get ironing actually. Work shirts I understand, but people who iron t shirts bemuse me. It's make-work.

I iron dh's shirts but he does the cooking so it evens out

I iron DH work shirts (that's all I do iron). I'm busy myself (work 3 days a week, 2 kids, one of them being a pre-schooler), however I do still have more time than DH who works 5 long days a week. So I iron them, simple! I don't think it's anything to do with being a proper wife, or being a 1950s housewife, it's simply that in busy lives you pull together as a family and try to ensure you balance out the chores as best you can. If I worked longer hours than DH I'd expect him to do the ironing not that he would

I must admit I don't mind ironing. I can put the TV on and catch up with all my programmes I've got saved up on Sky +. However I don't believe that any woman should feel that they have to do the ironing for the DH.

Ironing is domestic slavery.

Beyond that made me lol! I plan to use that as a line on my MIL next time she makes once of these comments. Sometimes I do it sometimes DH does depends on who has the time like most household chores.

I'm with you. Ironing one of his work shirts would make me feel like Surrendered Wife. Irrational maybe, but true. My mum thinks I "don't look after him well enough"

Oh yes, the upside of ironing the shirts is that I justify watching Jeremy Kyle whilst doing it

I have 2 DCs under 5 so I've excused myself from ironing on health and safety grounds!

My DP just irons his stuff before he goes work in the morning, it takes him 5 mins, it's not like he's got anything else to do in the morning. I have 3 people to get ready in the morning.

YANBU. Shirts are a PITA. It's an hour of my life each week I would much rather spend with my DCs. I do iron lots of other things.

DH used to do them himself, but somewhere along the line he stopped. Now they go to the dry cleaner, £11 a week and it's sorted, and we avoid resentment/nagging/a row.

My MIL was rather about this until her own DD (SIL) began to do it too. Ha!

I haven't admittedit to my own Mum though. She would be horrified.

Ah I have been so busy eating bonbons I have just got round to reading your replies.

I am NBU. And have enjoyed all the reasons why it does come down to the Surrendered Wife thing doesn't it, I love DH and gladly help him or do things for him if he's busy, but something about the sheer pointlessness and genderedness of ironing makes my hackles rise. Both mum and mil said 'but he works so hard ' like that's the point how?!

YANBU

someone mentioned it on another thread that we are still living with a generation of women who were brought up in a very misogenist time.....they havant thrown off the shackles yet. so dont take what they say too literally they are brain washed.