To not iron DH's shirts?

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Well AIBU?

To listen to MiL and my own mum you'd think I was the world's worst wife for not ever using the iron. DH perfectly capable and happy to iron his own shirts, but mildly amused at being told how hard done by he is.

I'm SAHM to a 6mo, previously worked FT. Happy to do all cooking and vast majority of household tasks and cleaning, but I draw the line at ironing.

My mil tuts when she mentions her sister in law and how she doesn't do her brothers ironing.

I only do DHs if I am feeling very generous. We split doing the washing between us, he will iron but he is very slow so usually I do the DDs although dd1 at 12 does a fair bit of her own, and we each do our own.

I've accepted that its me that irons the bedding as he doesn't mind if it goes on unironed.

Different things work for different people but you know, I got married, I didn't turn into a housekeeper.

Whats an iron?

Don't have an iron or board inour house. Don't see the point. If anyone wants their fabrics flattening in this house they bring their own ironing acoutrements. Pointless exercise for man woman or child.

I think MIL secretly thinks I am a slattern. But she only passively aggressively hints at this. She doesn't have the guts to say anything outright to me. But bless, in her world men (who work hard) are there to be served by the wimminfolk!

And yes I look rumpled and no I don't care.

ahhh you see i do have an ironing board... dead useful for hanging things off...I have a new iron... in a box... never opened. h got custody of the iron when we split up. I thought I ought to buy a new one befiore he buggered off with all the money,. thought it may come in useful sometime. so far I have been mistaken. I did think about ironing their uniform,but iit seems such a waste of time when they are creased by travelling to school and the weather has been so damp the creases drop out anyway.

Hate ironing shirts. Do 90% of the rest of the housework but shirts can fuck right off - them and their prissy little fiddly bits [grr]

Whoever wants something ironing in our house gets the iron out and does it themselves. They usually have to spend 10 minutes hunting for the iron first though although it's always, sensibly, in the ironing basket

I just realised I still call the basket we chuck clean, dry clothes into the 'ironing basket' even though neither of us iron and I haven't picked up an iron in about 3 years

I do his shirt in the morning if he's running late and flustered. I do it to be nice because I know the feeling and don't think of it as my responsibility. Adults are responsible for their own clothes!

I used to iron DH's shirts back in the day when we shared ironing equally, and I noticed he did not iron DD's clothes with the same care he gave his shirts. I took over DD's stuff and never ironed his shirts again. He has a very shirty job, so this matters.

On the other hand, he does all the cooking, and the Saturday morning veg and supermarket shop.

I do the ironing. To me it is part of the "job". When we both worked pre-DC then we took it in turns. Now I do it. DH works hard, is out of the house long hours and then has to do work when he gets home. So my job is the kids and the house. I do the washing and ironing - although only iron the bare minimum.

However, it is a good excuse to watch rubbish on the TV. I only ever watch Jeremy Kyle with an iron in my hand.

Irons are for hama beads aren't they? Didn't know they could be used on clothes too

I'm a SAHM and I iron my DH's shirts.

He works long hours and I don't mind ironing.

I get way more free time than him and it would seem a little mean to do all my own ironing and the childrens and not his.

Undoubtedly will be told I am crazy/living in the 50's to do so.

Why do these things always come down to "surrendered wife, domestic slavery, I work just as hard as he does, just because he goes out to work doesn't mean I have to iron/cook/wash up/whatever"?

Surely if you want to iron shirts for your DH that's ok?
If you want to take on the domestic responsibilities as well as being a SAHM that's ok?
And if you choose not to, also ok?

Why do people need to justify why they do something, or make a point of not doing something because being at home is just as hard as being at work?

FWIW I don't iron DHs shirts because he likes a crease down the sleeve???
But not because I work full time as well, or I work harder than him or any other reason.

Whoever is doing the ironing, irons whatever is in the basket.

I think I can count on one hand how many times I have ironed Dp shirts, only happens when I get a new cd, then I get in the mood to iron while doing my ironing dance

My mil is still shocked that dp comes home from work then starts cooking dinner

All my husband's stuff goes out to the ironing shop, lifes too short!

Tantrums, I think the urge to justify comes from the feeling of perceived judgement that women feel if they don't do these things.

This judgement (In my limited experience) often comes from women (mothers, MILs and their generation), and less commonly comes from men. Besides, we can all universally agree that a man who won't iron his own shirts is a plank, more difficult to reach a consensus when we are talking about the opinions of our mothers. Therefore, we justify.

I do not iron anything,ever. DHs shirts go to the dry cleaners. I only buy clothes for me and kids that look like they won't need to be ironed. Anything they get as a present that needs ironing gets worn once, the time after its bought, washed and thrown in the ironing basket. It stays there until there is a collection of 10 or so items that really should be ironed (which takes weeks). Then I ask our cleaner to do them if she get the time. Ironing is a monumental waste of time. I only recently learned that people iron bed sheets. Why?

I don't iron anything. Well might do dh's if he had an interview and asked me nicely. My MIL irons everything including pants. She even did other peoples ironing for a while despite not needing the money!

I have been worrying about needing to start ironing when ds starts school but it looks like lots of you don't so maybe I can get away without doing it

Who does what in your house is between you and your DH.

But I don't understand how some can say they never iron. How does that work?
Some things need ironing, surely?

And I know many will disagree, but there is nothing nicer than going to sleep between clean, freshly ironed sheets. Bliss.

£1 a shirt, washed, starched, ironed, on a hanger. Thank you. DH works mostly from home, so £10 a month on work shirts. We have an iron, and it gets brought out for weddings and funerals. That is it. Simple.