to feel that DH should not expect me to do everything.

[generallyadogsbody]

Basically, I am irritated because I do all the 'chores' around the house. These include cleaning, doing the dishwasher, washing clothes, all the cooking and large majority of the childcare including any night time wake ups, I also sort out packed lunches/ drop offs with cm when i am at work. I work 1 day per week plus do about 1 day's worth from home. DH works full time. His contribution is mainly in terms of keeping paperwork in order, and doing all the personal admin, plus he helps out with the children when he is here (obv he is also the main breadwinner).

This morning I was getting the kids' breakfast (had already got them up and dressed), when DH wandered downstairs looking for a shirt for work. I told him I hadn't washed any. He looked and sounded all hard done by and I'm afraid I flipped and got a bit shouty because he has been at home ALL weekend. I had, as it happened, been doing lots of washing all weekend (changed the beds and did kids clothes) and could easily have stuck a couple of shirts in if he'd just TOLD me he needed them. Or, heaven forbid, he could have WASHED some himself. So basically, AIBU to have had a bit of a rant this morning? I feel a bit mean now....

Thanks all for the range of opinions, it is always good to get a different perspective on these little things as sometimes it's hard to see the wood for the trees! Feel a lot calmer about it all now.

Do you both have the same amount of free time? Who gets up first and sits down last each day? If things are reasonably fair, then I think he should mention that he down to his last shirt although it wouldn't kill him to pick up his shirts and put them in the machine and do a wash .

If he has more free time than you then I think a more general discussion about how the workload is shared might well be needed!