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To want to show this blog post to smug parents of easy babies?

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skipinmyskip · 15/07/2012 21:59

I find this blog strangely addictive. She is a mum who is very different to me in many ways. She has a girl who is 2 something, and she was always (to me) pretty smug about how easy it all was.

Now she has had number 2 and is eating some humble pie. She now knows it wasn't her great parenting that made her number 1 an easy baby. See here styleberry

My DD was a HARD HARD baby, and I feel like directing all the mums who are smug about their easy babies to it!

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TeacupTempest · 15/07/2012 22:04

How nice of you.

I have yet to meet these "smug" mums. It seems to me like everyone is just doing their best.

Bluestocking · 15/07/2012 22:06

No, not unreasonable. I feel your pain. My DS was VERY high-maintenance and my mother and one of my sisters were obviously certain that this was all down to my elderly PFB mothering style. Bollocks, he was just that sort of baby. He's been a dreamboat since around the age of four!
Thanks for introducing me to this blog - I love smug mommybloggers - how could anyone resist a blogger who introduces herself with "Despite days full of washing diapers & messy fun, Shawna is determined make mommyhood a stylish adventure."

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skipinmyskip · 15/07/2012 22:06

Really, you haven't met or come across on here, any mums who think their wonderful babies who sleep for 12 hours solid from day 2, is purely down to their wonderful parenting skills. You have never read on here about any mums who got a shock when number 2 came along as they had felt quite smug about the contented baby they had first time round and then realised it was just luck? Just me then?

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WorraLiberty · 15/07/2012 22:07

I have no interest in reading the banal ramblings of someone's day to day drudge...hence the reason I'd rather shit in my hands and clap, than read any parent's blog.

I don't see why you're bothered really.

Just concentrate on your own family and leave others to waffle on about theirs.

candr · 15/07/2012 22:09

Unfortunatly I know mums of 'easy' babies who always say how difficult they are as it gets them more credit they feel being a great mum to a tricky baby. Am not frinends with them but they always feel the need to do the 'has yours done this yet/ got teeth/crawled etc. If I say yes they come up with a reason as to why theirs hasn't and what I am doing wrong. Apparently I should not let my baby stand in case he gets bow legs and I should not let him commando crawl but only let him crawl whenhe can do it on all fours!!!!!
At least my baby is healthy and happy and I love him for good and bad habits.

BarredfromhavingStella · 15/07/2012 22:11

I don't think I've met a smug mum & I'm not sure they exist Hmm I'm in the 'I'm doing it my way & if it works I'll give myself a pat on the back-if it doesn't then meh, I'll try something else'-trial & error I think they call it.......

TeacupTempest · 15/07/2012 22:11

Yes i see what you mean. Maybe I am lucky enough (?) to have only really met people who look as stressed as me recently! Everyone I know at the moment seems to be suffering in one way or another.

ShirleyKnot · 15/07/2012 22:13

She called her baby Everett.

SoleSource · 15/07/2012 22:14

My DS slept for eighteen hours per day. I had to wake him for his feeds! But he is blind and that is the norm. So the next time you feel a parent is smug for stating facts about their baby's sleeping patterns. Think again......

HumphreyCobbler · 15/07/2012 22:14

I have met smug mothers. When in a sleep deprived haze or dealing with difficult behavior from their toddlers they made comments that are carved on my brain. Grin

HumphreyCobbler · 15/07/2012 22:14

from MY toddler

PenisVanLesbian · 15/07/2012 22:15

I'm smug about my difficult babies. Do I win a prize?

OP, don't be a twat.

Bluestocking · 15/07/2012 22:16

I know, Shirley. She called her baby Everett. We can only wonder why she thought this was a good idea.

Meglet · 15/07/2012 22:17

If DD had been my DC1 I would have been a smug mum. She's getting me back now she's a Threenager though.

I've met a few smug/lucky mums. Not many mind you. Very few people have an easy ride.

LadyWidmerpool · 15/07/2012 22:18

SoleSource your situation is clearly completely different, I think it's obvious no one is talking about people like you.

whatsthatnoise · 15/07/2012 22:19

I used to tell anyone who would listen about my 6week old pfb who slept 7pm-7am every night.

she is now 3.5 and went to sleep about half an hour ago and I'll be lucky if she slepts past 6 Angry Go Karma Grin

SoleSource · 15/07/2012 22:20

People like me ?

HEARD IT ALL NOW

Kayano · 15/07/2012 22:20

I fucking hate when people call me smug when I tell them about my baby

As if I can't have permission to just discuss her because she was an 'easy baby?

Sorry I can't jump on the doom and gloom train with you but if one more person utters the word smug or easy or 'you just don't understand what it's like having a normal baby' I will punch them .

Angryso annoying

Judginess at every turn

ToothbrushThief · 15/07/2012 22:20

I was only tonight glaring at my FB feed - smug mum has photographed little darling's school report, sports day 'trophy' and regularly photographs her cakes. All acceptable ....but every day we're given another update on perfect motherhood. She has just baked a pudding using home grown ingredients and eggs from the hens..... (and is probably about to deliver it to the local poor before attending church)
She also talks lovingly to her DH via FB for the world to see Hmm

yes I should defriend instead of bitching here

exoticfruits · 15/07/2012 22:21

It is very common, people think they are wonderful parents and it is merely that the first fits in, the second breaks every rule.

Kayano · 15/07/2012 22:22

One thing I've learned here is mothers can never win with each other.

And you can shove that blog up your arse I am not interested

AxlRosesLeatherTrousers · 15/07/2012 22:22

Like Meglet, if dd2 had have been my first I would have been a smug mum as she was such an easy baby. But I had dd1 first and she was THE HARDEST BABY IN THE WORLD EVER! Wink I didn't actually sleep for the first 5 years of her life. Even though dd2 was born when dd1 was 3, it was still dd1 who I was getting up to in the middle of night and not newborn dd2. Hmm Now though at 9 and 5 they've completely swapped personalities and dd1 is the most pleasant child in the world were as dd2 is a right little madam. Hmm

ShirleyKnot · 15/07/2012 22:22

I didn't know that sole. That must have been a shock for you to find out that your baby is blind, I'm sorry.

whatsthatnoise · 15/07/2012 22:31

I didn't know that either Sole, I think sometimes people don't think of the possible reasons why some babies sleep so much.

My dd has hypotonia which is probably why she slept so much in the early days because just breathing was a struggle for her. At 3.5 she still naps in the day which is why she doesn't sleep as well at night but she needs her day sleep as she is exhausted by daily life.

bogeyface · 15/07/2012 22:33

I get really pissed off at being called smug because my babies have been "easy".

Frankly anyone who says that any child or baby is "easy" is not doing the job right. Parenting is hard work, and just because some have good sleepers or dont have behavioural issues to deal with, doesnt mean that they are smug.