to feel that I should cancel our holiday to Majorca in October of this year?

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I have so far paid around £700.

I have not even applied for our passports yet.

I really should have started to lose weight in January of this year when I booked the holiday. I am still weighing over twenty stones. How the hell will I fit my fat arse on the plane and people hate fatties on planes.

I have a severly disabled SN DS aged thirteen. I am dreading the stares and comments from other families at the hotel/resort. We haven't been together on an aeroplane before.

I will die of shame being so fat, not being able to go swimming or wear decent clothes as cannot afford to buy any.

I am anxious about paying the remainder of the holiday price and that is due this Friday. £520 I can pay it but we shall be skint for two weeks thereafter. I have no suitcases or clothing yet or spending money.

I haven't called the booking agent yet to find out how much £ I shall lose or get back.

AIBU?

Instead of cancelling the holiday, why don't you use it to spur you on to lose some weight?

Try to remember how you were feeling when you booked the holiday in the first place, and try to restore that sense of optimism.

And remember that you will never encounter any of the people you meet ever again.

Don't cancel because of cold feet.

Yes Claire I think you are right :)

I think you should go. You have till october to lose weight, and the thing that makes you look best is confidence. Don't worry about people looking and judging. Let them. And think "fuck you, I deserve a holiday".
I'm overweight and sometimes feel self conscious. But I force myself out because it's never as bad as I think it'll be. Please don't let your inner critic destroy what could be an excellent holiday.

you have at least 10 weeks until you go on holiday. You could aim to lose 3lbs per week = 30 lbs.

That's a lot of weight.

dont set the holiday as a goal to lose weight, kif you lose some fine, if you dont fine, you are entitled to be happy as you are you dont have to be thin. You sound like someone who really deserves a holiday, you sound so sad. fuck everyone and have a lveoly holiday. :)

:) I am feeling more positive, thank you.

I have lost one stones. I need to get my arse into gear.

Don't cancel it, use it as a goal and mean it.

Set up a thread here and get some support behind you - you'll be much less likely to fail if you have a weekly weigh in to report on here, we can all count gown the weeks and the pounds with you.

Yes you could lie and tell us you've lost a Squillion pounds in week 1 - but somehow I know you won't do that as you know the only person you're cheating on is yourself really.

As for your son, don't look at the possible negatives, look at the positives it could have for him, and bloody ignore anyone who is rude enough to stare or comment on either of you.

If this happens you just look pointedly at them and say in a very loud voice "How Ruuuuuude" and walk on by

I'll be looking for your next thread

33kns :) I do restrict our life a lot because of what other people may think. I went to a Weight Watchers meeting for the first time last week and my DS wanted the group leaders attention. She didn't say hello to him so he reached out and grabbed her breast. He is blind so it wasn't intentional. The Lady was OK about it but this sin't the first time he accidentely done this (unless he is a breast man) Not only is it rude butr the next Lady hec dose that to may have had breast surgery or a lump etc

It is very socially awkward. He is getting stronger. He is pleasent and calm within himself. He is always in bed and nithing will bring him to me of late I guess he just feels happiest there.

I feel sad and down and really lonely.

Trust me, no one will look twice at you on the beach. It will be full of people of all shapes and sizes having a good time and some of them will be plenty bigger than you. If anyone stares at your son they are just displaying their bad manners and are not worthy of your consideration. You can get cheap beaxh clothes etc at charity shops in very good condition and anyway you want to pack light! Finally don't worry about the plane. Most people are nice. Please don't give up your treat.

GO! It will be an adventure!. You can't hide away for ever.

Fuck anyone who stares or judges.

Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. Go and enjoy yourself.

Have replied on your other thread. PM me if you want.

You will see much bigger women whilst you are away, so don't let stop you from living your life.

I have never known anyone to be negative about disabled people, whilst away.

Clothes wise, you don't needmuch. I have started washing and rewearing what i take, because no-one takes any notice what each other are wearing.

I just came back from a holiday in a family resort in Ibiza, and trust me, 20st was not the heaviest there. Try and loose some weight between now and October, so that you feel happier with yourself, and then go, soak up the sun and relax. It sounds like you could do with a nice break.

Crying here you're all so kind x

Fuck 'em all. Enjoy yourselves. Stare back at rude people or ask 'Why are you staring at us?'

Bonnes vacances!

I hate feeling fat in a swimming costume but then I remind myself that on holiday, nobody knows who I am :) It's not like going swimming with all the mums from school, you will never see any of these people again!

I would not worry about what other people think. If people think mean thoughts then they are idiots. I hope you go and I hope you and your son have a lovely time. I also think that it would be an awful shame if you didn't swim. It's the best bit of sun holidays apart from boozing . So what if you are not Kate Moss, it's nobody else's business. Have you been swimming with your son at a local pool. Maybe you could go this week before the payment deadline and, hopefully, confirm that it would be a fun part of the holiday.

I too am overweight, I worry about what it will be like on the plane - but I am still going. Go for it, and have a lovely time.

:) I could buy a tankini and use the pool this week..

Is a tankini suitable or a swimdress for a bigger person?

MN is brill

You should definitely go. Do your bes with the weight but don't focus on it...there will be people bigger than you wth DC not so well behaved as yours...your son has SN...that doesn't make him someone to avoid even if he accidently gabs boobs now and then!

I'm not Kate Moss...and I'm 39 but I wear a bikini! If people don't like it they can look the other way!

You buy and wear what you like best...if you see a tankini you like, then get that...same with a swimdress.

I ike the ones which are cut in a 1950s style as they emphasise your hips and boobs and that's a good thing!

I am a size 16/18 and 'blessed' with big boobs and feel far more comfortable by the pool/on the beach in a proper fitted swimsuit with a built-in bra. They're pretty pricey but well worth it for the confidence boost. To save money I buy a tankini top and cheap not-quite-matching bottoms from somewhere cheaper...
Have a fab holiday - enjoy the quality time with your son