AIBU to have expected more?

[bluetea]

I am just wondering if anyone's partners/husbands bought them a gift/card/flowers after giving birth? 6 days ago, I gave birth to our beautiful baby boy. My partner has been really unemotional about the whole thing. I was not expecting diamonds, however I was expecting a card or flowers, but I have had nothing, not even a "Thank you for making me the happiest man alive" kind of comment. Humph. I guess I need to manage my expectations, I cannot expect him to react or behave in a certain way.
A blue bluetea x x

Yes but I said DP AND family - dp brought me stuff the morning after my c sec and before his family travelled down. It was unexpected, and unasked for, and very sweet. I'm not going to be ashamed of having a thoughtful and caring dp.

nor should you be, but in relation to the OP I'm saying not to worry you are not missing out on something "standard" as every single person I know who got a "pushing present" TOLD me what they were considering getting off their OHs before they even had the babies - there is no joy IMO in a gift you demand! but as you didn't demand it then it's lovely! However to the OP, don't worry MOST people you hear bragging about theirs didn't get a lovely un-begged for gift either!

No present. Frankly, his happiness and the fact he shared in caring for DS1 was all I wanted.

I wouldn't worry about the lack of flowers. I'd worry if he doesn't seem to care

10 weeks after our first DC was born I was surprised when DP bought me two lovely rings out of the blue, as a thank you for our DC.

However, what had initially made it for me was when DP got the midwife (in the hospital after I'd had a CS) to talk him through changing DD's first pooey nappy. That's when I knew he was happy, weird though that might sound.

I didn't get anything on the day of the birth - apart from my birthday present. I gave birth to ds on my birthday! The joys! Ds was a hefty ten pounder!

Ten months later it was nearly Christmas and no sign of the great promises eternity ring so was passing the jewellers seen one I liked went in and ordered it and said
He would be in to pay for it. I would note that he had just got his bonus and I knew what kinda budget he was planning. it easier for him! Lol!

yeah I'ld be devastated if DH hadn't been emotional - his face rushing in as soon as dad's visiting time started meant so much! as did his trips back n forth from hospital to get me everything I needed for a longer then expected stay. I know that's not a given though the woman across from me didn't get the same from her OH - at all!

who know's OP maybe he's shell shocked and it is so huge that it just hasn't sunk in in a gushing way yet, or maybe he really is cold about it? either way YANBU to be upset by this!

But would add dh was overjoyed at ds he wouldnt let him go. That all changed at poo nappies and middle of the night screaming but he loves ds to bits.

The morning after DS1 was born by emergency section dh bought a card and chocolate to the hospital and bought me flowers on the day we left the hospital. He waited until then so I could enjoy them at home. When ds1 was 9 months old he bought me an eternity ring.

With DD he bought me flowers on the day we came home. When she was 10 months old he took me clothes shopping and bought me a lot of clothes.

With ds2 I just wanted to get home asap so we stopped at Sainsbury's where he bought me all the food I hadn't been able to eat for 9 months.