I was brought up on organic wholefoods, years before anyone else I met had even heard of them, by a judgemental, grasping, superficial ignorant mother. I was horrified that my friends didn't know what 'crap' was in their foods, etc.
Fastforward to my 20s - I was drinking, smoking and frequently contemplating suicide and look worse for it, because of the emotional fall-out from various things -largely springing from my judgemental mother, while many 'crap-eating' school friends took care of themselves.
I didn't actually feel any inner peace or happiness until I met my partner and had kids in my 30s - with someone who knows nil about nutrition, and my judgemental mother clearly looks down her nose at him. I finally started to see how damaging my mother's attitude and values have been for me and it totally creeps me out to see this, and to hear her reiterate them over and over, (without any thought of how wildly different fortunes influence other people's decisions & presentation) and continue her cruel dismissal of others having value as human beings.
So now I give my kids the odd fruit shoot and sausage roll but prioritise their happiness above all, in order to try to give them a good psychological foundation for decision-making in their lives. But yesterday I was really upset and put off to think MN is full of women like my mother - sneering and judging me for giving my kids fruit shoots or sausage rolls in public, or the fact that I no longer look like my svelt teenage self. I still feel depressed about it. :(