to ask what's soooo wrong with netmums?

[sassy34264]

noticed a lot of derogatory remarks about them.
what have they done?

[usualsuspect]

This NM v MN bollocks is a bit silly if you ask me.

Don't like it, don't use it.

[akaemmafrost]

Netmums is rubbish though. No problems get solved, everyone just hugs and huns till the cows come home. Boring as shite!

[albertswearengen]

My sister and SIL are both netmumers. Explains a lot really.

Judging by venom one of them refers to mumsnet I suspect she may have been flamed on here for being a complete fud and therefore retreated to the happy clappys on Netmums.

[TodaysAGoodDay]

I do believe you can get away with swearing on the tickers.

[confusedpixie]

I can't understand the txt spk. I'm 20-fucking-3 and cannot understand text speak, weird. But that, and swearing, and the fact that if you say something one of them doesn't like then they gang up on you with their nonsensical arguments and bullshit excuses even when you're actually trying to be helpful like that muppet and her holiday blog a short while ago.

I've tried to post on NM, I really have, but I hate the mumsyness and hugs of it all, I'd rather be given a straight and honest answer than be told something they think I want to hear. Also, their attitude towards nannies posting is appalling, I was told that my opinion is invalid as I don't have a child myself Never mind that the thread was about something I'm working closely with then ey?

The lack of capitalisation bugs me too. And lo for little one. I think it says Io, which is a moon of Jupiter. And the whole moderation thing, I mean really? You can't trust a bunch of women to chat and be frank, they have to moderate it all? Pft. Fuck that!

And that ^ (again) of course, no swearing! How silly.

[confusedpixie]

Oh, and comments like this: "most guys find males working in a nursery environment a little odd." on a thread written by a woman who doesn't want her daughter to be changed by a male nursery worker.

That pisses me off to no fucking end, sexist fucks. Probably would be the first to cry discrimination when they don't get what they want too I'm sure.

If that was said on here the person who said it would be shot down in flames, but people are agreeing with that stance on there!

[OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere]

You cannot EVER talk about rape on there without posters jumping in (within the first two-three posts) with how often women make up rape and how many men get raped.
Ditto domestic violence.

There is a hell of a lot of victim blaming, particularly when it comes to child victims of rape. A LOT of 'well 12 years olds know what they are doing dont they? 'how was the poor man supposed to know that she was only 11, she had make up on'

I cant forgive that shit.

[Cheriefroufrou]

oh and on the local noticeboards LOTS of posts about people with learning disabilities "hanging around" or saying hello to their child!

the paedo bastards! how dare they be outside in the community!

[SausageSmuggler]

I wonder how long it'll be before they start a thread about this thread?

I joined for the nearly new boards which are pretty good but the text speak drives me up the wall!

[Wigglewoo]

I like both sites and lurk and post on both... But I do find mumsnet much more hardline, if I want a no nonsense reply then I know where to come!

But I like the fact health visitors etc regularly reply on the babies and parenting forums on netmums... Its quite different in that respect. (Unless I am missing something and that happens here!!)

[Dprince]

Wiggle are they actually health professionals or just say they are. Cause there is a few of the latter on bounty, Talk shit and then challenged and cry bullying. One 'hv' said it was perfectly acceptable to give you new born alcohol for teething, said baby was 2 weeks old and mum wasn't sure it was teething. But this poster said even if it wasn't 'it will be ok because baby will sleep anyway'.
Then told everybody that vaccinating their child definitely would 'give them special needs' despite posting another thread about how she had vaccinated her first 'lo'.
My point is don't always believe that someone does the job they say. Said poster also asked 'whats so great about breastfeeding, seems pointless to me.'

[OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere]

God no! I hate the way they reply to 'concerns' on NM.
They repeat all of what the poster has said in some horrible 'I have done a counselling course' way.

And they allow other posters to give 'advice' like 'Dnt stop fighting for your bubba. You can get him back, u need to get a lawyer hun'
when some poor woman posts that an adoption order has been made after 3 years of SS intervention.

That would be ok if they didnt delete posts about Calpol for 'giving unqualified medical advice'

[HaveALittleFaith]

[5madthings]

it has tickers [boak]

and they dont allow swearing so i would be crap on there, i do like to swear!

and everything mrsdevere has said, i go on there and read it and weep tbh, plus i also cant cope with the txt speak.

[Cheriefroufrou]

there's loads of HVs and MWs and Nurses and doctors on MN
but they don't barge in with "IM A NURSE AND YOU HAVE X" because real HCPs know that you can't and shouldn't diagnose someone just from a post on a forum!

and they don't use it to win arguments either

but if you need em they are here

[LucieMay]

I didn't really know what the difference was and just randomly chose mumsnet to register at first. I am glad I did now because I cannot bare text speak and non swearing. The only difference to the boards here is that I wish we had avatars purely because I post on a couple of other forums (non-parenting) with avatars and it makes it soooo much easier to differentiate between posters when skim reading (you get to recognise the avatars pretty quickly by sight). It takes a lot more effort for lazy me to read each username beside a post.

[OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere]

A woman posted a desperate plea for some information about her child's rare condition. she wanted advice and support.

The Parent Supporter posted?

A fucking link to wikipeadia.

[OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere]

A young woman posted that she was frightened because she had just found out that it was dangerous to give solids to her baby. Her baby was very young, a few weeks old.
The poor girl was genuinely ignorant about weaning. She was asking what she should do.

A few people posted some sensible and non judgmental advice about stopping and not to worry (mind you, that might not have happened on here, she would probably had got a pasting) but then some twat come on and said 'NO babe you mustnt stop feeding him now you have started. ITS REALLY DANGEROUS to stop giving him solids now. You have to keep on doing it'

So some of us naturally went Whaaaa?

All went menkle. Lots of accusations of bullying and posters proclaiming their medical credentials (yeah right love).

Posts getting deleted but the one telling the mother to keep feeding her newborn solids was left standing.

THAT is why I hate nuthunz.

[5madthings]

they dont use it to win arguments either i would say thats not totally true, given a home birht thread the other day had an anaesthatist (sp) who was quite clear about the fact that as her job involved child birth she was right and all the studies etc were wrong.

oh i do love links to wikipedia!

i have noticed that if you or do any kind of 'attachment' parenting (hate that term but using it so you know what i mean!) that you are shouted down on there. or at least that is what i saw in the few threads i have read here and there, particularly about little babies still needing night feeds, lots of leave them to cry and if you suggest different then you are an attachment parent, lentil weavery type. at least on here you do get both sides of the coin, heavily debated at times but not so on there.

[glenthebattleostrich]

It's sparkly, you can't say fuck and if you have an opinion you get beaten with hunz and shitty grammer.

I was told it wasn't the best place for me by the moderators because I tried to debate.

[scottishmummy]

habitual moaning about huns and netmums is peurile and oppositional
no site is better than other.just dofferent and both sites have different nuances and appeal
mn can be full of right cunts, just as netmums can - such is online life

[Cheriefroufrou]

they certainly do use it on the ones I've read! - they mostly sound like they're hugely exaggerating and the truth is prob more likely that they VISITED a hospital once, or their mum works in the gift shop so they know it all

[Cheriefroufrou]

I think its okay to declare it like that though on the threads about research etc

I meant it like 3 posts down when they go "yer well actually I'm a nurse actually, so I know!"

[TuftyFinch]

I think the main difference is that 90% of the members of Netmums eat apple pie as their favourite pudding. The same survey, of Mumsnet members had apple at 23%. There was no clear pudding favourite, the top two were Rhubarb Syllabub (38%) and Manchester Tart (40%).
So.
Also, interesting fact: only 45% of the members of Netmums own a pair of wellies. MN figure was 78%. Who knew.

[5madthings]

cherie i meant that it is used in mnet as well, not that its not used on nmums!