to ask what's soooo wrong with netmums?

[sassy34264]

noticed a lot of derogatory remarks about them.
what have they done?

[usualsuspect]

Exactly, not everyone on MN is perfect either apart from me

[scottishmummy]

Cherie youre being v blinkered and idealistic about mn
shit happens here too.stalking,huffs, flouncers, scammers, elaborate hoaxes.
and then is fwr always a sure fire melee and accusations of mistreatment

[DuckingHell]

I was massively outed on NM, the fuckers linked my FB and everything.

I went on a meet up when I moved to a new area and they well and truly outed me when I dared to have an opinion.

Never ever again would I go on there.

[cocolepew]

I want moving smilies. Thats whats wrong with MN IMO.

Dancing smilies would cheer everyone up.

[MarysBeard]

I don't go on it as much, but I quite like it. The local section is much better than the MN one.

[Number44]

I like their local boards

I recoil from any of the advice offered. I think it's fair to say most is not based on fact

[Cheriefroufrou]

I know it does scotishmummy, but at least here you can object to something that makes you uncomfortable

MN is open to everyone, so there's all sorts incl wrong uns
same with NM
DIFFERENCE is what happens with the offensive or dangerous posts, or rather what happens to anyone who challenges them

[PineappleBed]

I put "taking the mick" on there and it turned "mick" into


FFS!

[scottishmummy]

lol cherie the evangelical mn gushing
its unnecessary and overlooks the fact that it can be blindingly good and blindingly bad
Moldies....that was some badass times

[scottishmummy]

plenty on mn complain its not like ole days/gorn to dogs/over or under moderated
it usually depends whether their pov is upheld
thats the pleasure and pain of online yap, the strong feelings elicited

[Cheriefroufrou]

how is it evangelical?
not in anyway saying its like a big fluffy family! just that a range of reponses are allowed and that gives balance!
Bad shit gets posted on both, but THEN what happens next IS different
there IS a difference, they have different rules and policies, so despite getting the same general traffic in the first place, the overall effects vary

[scottishmummy]

youre v clearly enthused by mn ethos and dismissive of nm
neither is better.both different
the same accusations came be levelled at both sites.both can be bullying,preachy.harsh.both can be supportive,kind and funny

[Superslinger]

I've never been on nmums, but it sounds horrid. What I'm outraged by is somebody's claim upthread (can't remember name) that guardian is the same as the daily mail, only for people who think they're too good for the daily mail? Surely that is a convoluted, sarcy joke? If not please, please somebody explain one comparable point between to guardian and the mail?!

[scottishmummy]

nm isnt horrid
it different to mn
and nm doesnt link daily mail as much as mn does

[paradisechick]

I think there's a much more balanced perception of the threat of kiddy snatchers over here. I must admit I died a little one day on netmums when a woman wouldn't let her twelve year old walk to school as you 'can't be too careful nowerdays'.

I suspect there are equally as nutty people here but they get called on their nuttiness. Over there you can't pull someone up on something like that without being called nasty!

[scottishmummy]

guardian and mail have lot in common
hand wringing middle class
and conspiracy theory daft

[SoleSource]

I do have an account 'over there'. I rarely use it. I have been on MN for a longer time. I like the 'block user' button on NM. I'd like the same here asthere are a few thick cunts here too.

[toofattorun]

The layout is fucking awful.
Everyone is too fucking polite.
The website is too colourful.

[GnocchiNineDoors]

Mumsnetters tell you what you NEED to hear

Nethuns tell you what you WANT to hear

[Superslinger]

Hand-wringing about how to help society's most vulnerable vs. hand-wringing about best to create hatred towards society's most vulnerable... Poles apart some might say.

[OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere]

There are LOADS of links to DM on NM. Far more than on here.
Only difference no one apologises for it.

[wigglesrock]

I'm a member of both, tbh much of a muchness. Their local boards are brilliant though. I swear all the time but doesn't bother me if I go somewhere that doesn't do swearing, I don't think my right to swear trumps another sites right not to.

[crazynanna]

I am on both. I am different on both.
Here....I am calmer and don't have to rant as much as when someone posts some stupid racist/disablist shiye on here,they are jumped on mainly by the majority (rightly) and order is restored.

There,when something shite is posted,you get a loooong line of posts agreeing and backing it,and I am then forced to jump in and completely lose it (2 bans..on last chance saloon).

There are some good people on there though,and they do have bum sex threads,but they actually use the word anal,and said thread is heavily moderated.

Some threads are really funny. Not long ago,there was one on why do men have skidmarks? It made my day
The OP said "is it because we have vaginas' we don't get them?"

[Cuddler]

Netmums does have a bad reputation,my bil even said "you don't go on that netmums do you?".I was confused at the time but i can see what he meant.I have tried on a few of the mainstream parenting forums and this one definitely seems the most open minded,but is still very,very,very mainstream.

[crazynanna]

Oh and MrsDeV is right,there are loads of links to the DM...usually by NMHQ