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to stop outdoor shagging because of this?

77 replies

adifferentcountry · 09/07/2012 09:05

Another thread got me thinking about something that happened a while ago.

Way back when, DH and I were into al fresco sex/drunken exhibitionism. Thought we were frightfully edgy and cool at the time doubtless.

Once these two dutch guys came over and asked if I was okay.

DH thinks they were trying to get a look and being voyeuristic.

I think they were doing a good thing, making sure that what was happening was consensual.

As a result, I no longer have much interest in shagging where other people are iyswim. Because I don't want to make people worry, or otherwise disturb them. DH thinks I am old and boring. AIBU?

OP posts:
Spuddybean · 09/07/2012 14:01

HAHA! erik I once worked with a girl who came in upset and said she was pregnant. I sympathised and asked if she had been using contraception, she answered yes and said 'i told 'im, don't come up me'. I'm sure my face said it all. Confused

SoleSource · 09/07/2012 14:06

OMG erik what is the world cumming to?

Spuddybean LOL Last time was 1997 with ex Grin thank God he was a cunt

SoleSource · 09/07/2012 14:14

In the grounds of a stately home

TheCatInTheHairnet · 09/07/2012 14:22

I only need to see that photo taken at T in the Park that's doing the rounds to know outdoor sex is not big, clever or pretty!!

Spuddybean · 09/07/2012 14:39

ooo what pic?

A friend of mine lost their virginity round the back of the bins at the local siansbo's. I expect it was veh naice and much better than it would have been round the back of iceland

BreconBeBuggered · 09/07/2012 14:52

You can't go alfresco anywhere in the countryside these days without being shadowed by dogging enthusiasts. (NB I need naice pillows for shagging these days and am usually only looking for somewhere quiet to pee. Major frustration all round.)

SoleSource · 09/07/2012 15:09

Grin Spuddy

geegee888 · 09/07/2012 15:18

Why don't you just do it where theres no other people around? Doesn't seem unreasonable...I doubt most other people share your personal excitment about shagging your partner. The Dutch guys most likely wondered if you were being attacked or were in some way incapable, and being practical minded, wanted to check up on you. I wouldn't read into it that they wanted to join in necessarily.

Having grown up in The Netherlands, the explanation given "that they were Dutch" was a polite way of pointing out its not really the done thing where they come from. Liberated or not, the Netherlands is a crowded country and only really works well on the basis that you pay respect to your neighbours or anyone likely to be near you.

Birdsgottafly · 09/07/2012 15:33

'Outdoors', isn't public, if you pick the time and place, there won't be people about.

If there is then they should be minding their own business, no different than coming across someone going the toilet, outdoors.

We don't do it completely outdoors, just in the car, usually after a dog walk, because my teens are still up and we don't live together.

So, otherwise we would have a lot less sex.

Jiggleballs123 · 09/07/2012 15:44

What's the appeal with outdoor sex?

I tried it once with ex dp and it wasn't very good. I nearly got in the back of dps van last week when he was clearing it out but it would not have been appropriate bercause of the neighbours.

Spuddybean · 09/07/2012 16:03

Ha! birds so being in public isn't public, and if someone see's you as they are going about their normal business then that is THEIR fault and they should mind their own? Your living situation/teens is their problem as long as you get more sex?

WOW!

The difference between me and other people never ceases to amaze me :)

AnyFucker · 09/07/2012 16:25

Congratulations, OP

you have joined the grown-ups world

you shagging your mahhhn outside of planned sex parties etc (where everyone is on the same page), is of zero interest to other people except weirdoes, curious children and the police

unless you wish to attract any of the latter, keep your sex life away from the public gaze

AlexReidsLonelyBraincell · 09/07/2012 16:27

How can you compare it with going to the loo?

I'd imagine in dire circumstances when you've got to go, you've got to go. The squits etc.
Nobody needs a shag that badly, do they?

SoleSource · 09/07/2012 16:27

Birds the social worker goes dogging Shock

nearlyuptheduff · 09/07/2012 16:37

This reminds me of the time me and my DH spotted a couple having a bonk. He was behind her doing it doggy style and she was on all fours eating chips while her partner merrily pumped away!

LOL

SoleSource · 09/07/2012 16:42

Perhaps the chips was her fee!

AnyFucker · 09/07/2012 16:45

omg Grin

Birdsgottafly · 09/07/2012 17:13

I don't go dogging, i do have sex in the car, though.

But i don't have many inhibitions, anyway.

Whatmeworry · 09/07/2012 17:22

This reminds me of the time me and my DH spotted a couple having a bonk. He was behind her doing it doggy style and she was on all fours eating chips while her partner merrily pumped away!

Life imitates Viz :o

LadyBeagleEyes · 09/07/2012 17:26

I just laughed out loud at that nearly Grin.

SoleSource · 09/07/2012 17:32

PMSL What

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 09/07/2012 17:34

I do not wish to see you, nor do I wish to read about seeing you

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 09/07/2012 17:38

Having said that, I did choose to click on this thread so I can't really complain.

shockers · 09/07/2012 18:55

Birds, you do it whilst in the car with your dogs? I hope you have little doggy blindfolds for them Grin.

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 09/07/2012 19:13

Or it might be a Nancy Friday scenario Wink

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