Lying in and naps

[cheekypickle]

DH gets up first thing with DD every morning for 2 hours.

Then at the weekend he gets to have a good 4-5 hour afternoon sleep on Saturday and Sunday.

Sounds like a fair deal?

pickle you don't actually sound like a family. Is your DD your only child?

It depends whether you're happy with the arrangement or not but I have to say it doesn't sound like you've got the fairest deal hours wise. He's getting a hell of a lot more, not to mention quality if you're getting up in the night.

I think I would be pushing for at least one whole day without any lying in/naps if for nothing else getting the chores done and spending some time as a family. The other day could be for you to have a decent lie in and him to do some afternoon napping.

I also don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with him, given the chance I would get in naps everyday and still sleep a good seven hours at night!

No but really, why does he need so much sleep? Can I ask how old he is op?

Is he ill? I can't imagine anyone needing a 'nap' that long otherwise. Get him to the GP for blood tests and explain he needs 5 hours sleep during the day. They will not find that normal!

Dh and I split it so I did night care and he did early morning stuff. That's fair imo.

My DP does weekend mornings too as I'm up in the night still with DD2, she wakes 1/2 times and I've not had a good nights sleep in 8 months. If he napped in the day that much there would be no family time. An hour or two might be ok on one of the days, but both days is a bit much, IMHO.

He must be ill with something. It's just not normal or right to sleep that much during the day on a regular basis.
I love my kip and love sneaking a cheeky afternoon nap when the occasion arises. But I would wake up after an hour, or two at the most.

If you're not entirely happy with this arrangement, just chuck DD in the bedroom with him one weekend and piss off out. See how he copes.

In terms of fairness now -- yes, its fair, especially during the summer holidays as you are not working, baby is at CM for most of the day, and DH is at work. You can catch up on your sleep during the day time. He gets to catch up his sleep during his nap times.

Will it be fair when school starts and you are back at work? No.

Is it conducive for family life? No it isn't. You need to spend one day as a family doing family things (park etc).

Sounds blissful to me, but then my dh sleeps with earplugs in & doesn't ever get up in the night as he works. Then on weekends, he sleeps in till 9am. Basically I get up at least 3 times a night with lo, & get up 6am or earlier every single day. Dh also naps & always has done. not remotely fair but don't have the energy to deal with it. He must know its unfair but he is selfish.

Sorry. Know doesn't help for someone else to moan they have it worse.

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That's a lot of sleep! Dh and I get up at 6 if not before every weekday, go to bed about 10-11. Sat am my lie in, usually till 8, sun am his lie in usually till 9ish. Naps are a rare and usually saved for hangovers or illness.

He must be fresh as a daisy!

I'd not be amused.

Mr Tigga gets a lie in every Sat/Sun and I get an afternoon nap of about 2 hours.

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Was brave last night and left DD (11months) to cry herself back to sleep. Felt awful but it worked, better than 3/4 hours of playing in the early hours of the morning