Lying in and naps

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DH gets up first thing with DD every morning for 2 hours.

Then at the weekend he gets to have a good 4-5 hour afternoon sleep on Saturday and Sunday.

Sounds like a fair deal?

If you both happy then that is fine.
But maybe afternoon nap on one afternoon at weekend - both days sounds bit much to me esp if you work mon - fri.
That's my opinion!

He sounds a bit lazy. What do you do while he is having these long naps?

So how do you really feel about it cheeky?

No! This is not fair. But then, when IS life fair?!

That's what I thought hairylemon

I hate getting up in the morning

Oh hold in, 4-5 hours each sat/sun?

Me and DD watch tv, go for walks, sit in the park, sometimes go and see my family or meet up with friends

I think it is a shame that he misses out on this time every sat and sun and it is a bit sad for all of you that he would rather sleep.

4 - 5 hours on Saturday AND 4 - 5 hours on Sunday?? what time does he go to bed at night?

DH does this but he works 7-7 every week day so uses weekend afternoons to try catch up on his sleep.

It fine for us, but then dh pulls his weight with the cleaning and cooking in the week so we can spend time together in the evenings

He's goes to bed between 10-11pm.

Waste of a weekend, I'd think. Do you do things as a family, OP?

So at the very least he gets 7 hours sleep a night.

We don't really do things as a family no

If you do the nights and he does the mornings then you should get one morning each at the weekend to get a lie in.

What time does your dd get up? 530?

Personally, I'd rather get up early, then have time together at the weekend. Mind you, I used to get up at 640 for work before I had dcs, so getting up at 6 isn't that much of an ordeal. We're out of the house at 730!

Dh gets the kids ready while I spen an hour sorting myself, then I do breakfast. It's hard work, but I'd go nuts if Dh effectively had4 or 5 hours off each weekend!

Dh just said he'd defintely go for your arrangement - with the naps - so no, not a fair deal.

I think the main question is whether you're satisfied with the way things are or not. If so, it does not really matter what others think. If you are dissatisfied (and I would be in your case) then things need changing.

If I slept for 5 hours in the afternoon I would never get to sleep on the night.

I was interested in knowing how other people would feel about it.

I do think it would be nice if we did family things together a but more often

I think his early mornings pay off the times you wake during the night to see to your child. And actually 6 or 7am is a normal time to get up for a child anyway.

4 or 5 hours both weekend afternoons is crap! Complete waste of a weekend and family time. Can't he just go early to bed instead? Or just have two hours one day at the weekend.

Doesn´t sound fair to me tbh.

So he has your daughter 1-2 hrs every morning-I´m thinking you do every evening & then well, really, every weekend!

He is sleeping for 7-9 hours a night, and then getting a 4-5 hour nap both weekend days?

It sounds like an excuse to opt out of family time IMO.

Here DH gets up at 5.45am to go to work, I get up when the DSs do, so anytime from 6.30-7am. We go to bed at 11-12. We both get up in the night with the DSs.
Yes we are tired, but life is for living not lying about in bed like an overgrown teenager.

He is either lazy, or ill.

I can't judge too much as I occasionally have an hour or so's nap when I get the chance, but a 5 hour daytime sleep sounds excessive (unless ill or really exhausted for some reason). To me that would be a waste of the day, especially if it's a regular thing, and would probably stop me sleeping properly at night.

6-7am isn't particularly early to get up, especially if he goes to bed at a sensible time. Isn't that when most people get up? Does he just need lots more sleep than the average person?

He naps every Saturday and Sunday without fail