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AIBU?

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AIBU to stay at home?

59 replies

Confuzzled128 · 07/07/2012 10:17

My DM's H's (John) family are having a party this evening for his DB's engagement. Now while I quite like his DB, I absolutely can't stand his DM (Ruth). At all. I find her really annoying, and before my DM was pregnant she tried to act like our (Dsis' and I) GP, but now EVERYTHING is about this pregnancy. I'm not happy about my DM being pregnant at all and would rather not discuss it, thanks, but I couldn't possibly tell her that otherwise it'd upset her!

To give you some background information, I blame her for the break up of my parents. My GM told me that John had gone to Ruth, while my DM & DF were still together, to ask what he should do because he liked my DM. She told him to go for it!!! I'm sorry but you don't tell a young man of 20-21 to go after a MARRIED woman 10 years older no matter if she was having trouble in her marriage! To me that just makes her an immoral
fucking bitch who has NO RIGHT to see me.

However, I can't confront my DM over this because she is not approachable at all... in the 9 years that my DM & Luke have been married my ability to talk to her has completely fizzled out. So I can't tell her why I don't like Ruth or even explain my feelings.

I know this was a long irrelevant post but I am in desparate need for some advice! I don't even sound like an adult, God. So... AIBU, and if so what do I do?

OP posts:
hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 07/07/2012 10:21

I am totally confused so I vote for just stay home.

squeakytoy · 07/07/2012 10:25

stay in... Confused

AlmostAHipster · 07/07/2012 10:26

Does John know that his wife is married to Luke?

Stay home - you will be all stabby with Ruth. I think :)

slartybartfast · 07/07/2012 10:27

you do what you think best. Smile

SoleSource · 07/07/2012 10:29

What is DM? You Mother is pregnant?

JeezyPeeps · 07/07/2012 10:29

I think you are blaming the wrong person.

Ruth didn't cheat on your dad. John didn't cheat on your dad. Your mum is the only person that did.

I'm sure you dont know the full story regarding your parents marriage, and it seems unlikely that it would have survived whether or not she got together with John.

But I'm sure most of us have irrational dislikes, and I am certainly not saying you should start liking Ruth. But maybe you should stop blaming her for something that's not her fault.

You don't really know what the conversation was between John and Ruth. It may well be that it wasn't anything like the conversation that you were told.

But if you don't want to go, don't go. It's your step dads familys do, really, and you have no obligation to them.

SoleSource · 07/07/2012 10:29

The DearMaid?

YouOldSlag · 07/07/2012 10:41

I haven't a clue what you're talking about OP! Your stepdad's brother is having a party and his mum is going and you don't like her and your pregnant Mum is married to Luke but hasn't told your stepdad?

Does not compute.

Dprince · 07/07/2012 11:54

I don't get it.
who is luke?
Its no ones fault your mum cheated, apart from your mums.
How old are you?

Dprince · 07/07/2012 11:57

how does your gm know what happened in a conversation between John and his mum?

grobagsforever · 07/07/2012 13:07

Never mind Luke, what about Sharon?

TheMonster · 07/07/2012 13:09

eh?

MammaTJ · 07/07/2012 13:11

Confuzzled is certainly a good name for you!! Well done!

YouOldSlag · 07/07/2012 13:14

What was the question? What is it you want to boycott OP?

Dropdeadfred · 07/07/2012 13:15

????

OldGreyWiffleTest · 07/07/2012 13:16

I'd go on Jeremy Kyle if I were you - maybe he could make some sense of it all.

beatofthedrum · 07/07/2012 13:17

Trying to crack the code but struggling...

eurochick · 07/07/2012 13:18

Well I'm totally confused.

blisterpack · 07/07/2012 13:19

I think you need to repost and in this case the DM, DX, Dpig crap is confusing so just use normal relationship like father, mother etc.

Chubfuddler · 07/07/2012 13:21

Your mother is married to Luke and John?

What does Bernard think?

Johnnydeppsnewmrs · 07/07/2012 13:23

I think you need to ask your Step Dad why he changes his identity all the time? Wink

CurlyhairedAssassin · 07/07/2012 13:23

What is this strange land I have come across where the English language makes no sense to me whatsoever?

NarkedRaspberry · 07/07/2012 13:26

If you're 16 or under YANBU.

GrahamTribe · 07/07/2012 13:30

I was just getting towards the end of your first paragraph and was about to say that I didn't understand a word when I read this,

"I'm not happy about my DM being pregnant at all"

and I then I understood and needed to read no further.

YABU.

YouOldSlag · 07/07/2012 13:34

If your Mum is 10 years older than her 21/22 yo partner, then you must be about 15 or 16 OP?

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