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AIBU?

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AIBU to stay at home?

59 replies

Confuzzled128 · 07/07/2012 10:17

My DM's H's (John) family are having a party this evening for his DB's engagement. Now while I quite like his DB, I absolutely can't stand his DM (Ruth). At all. I find her really annoying, and before my DM was pregnant she tried to act like our (Dsis' and I) GP, but now EVERYTHING is about this pregnancy. I'm not happy about my DM being pregnant at all and would rather not discuss it, thanks, but I couldn't possibly tell her that otherwise it'd upset her!

To give you some background information, I blame her for the break up of my parents. My GM told me that John had gone to Ruth, while my DM & DF were still together, to ask what he should do because he liked my DM. She told him to go for it!!! I'm sorry but you don't tell a young man of 20-21 to go after a MARRIED woman 10 years older no matter if she was having trouble in her marriage! To me that just makes her an immoral
fucking bitch who has NO RIGHT to see me.

However, I can't confront my DM over this because she is not approachable at all... in the 9 years that my DM & Luke have been married my ability to talk to her has completely fizzled out. So I can't tell her why I don't like Ruth or even explain my feelings.

I know this was a long irrelevant post but I am in desparate need for some advice! I don't even sound like an adult, God. So... AIBU, and if so what do I do?

OP posts:
SauvignonBlanche · 07/07/2012 13:34

Who is Luke if your mother is married to John?
Is your mother a bigamist and who is the baby's father? Confused

NarkedRaspberry · 07/07/2012 13:41

20/21 + 10 + a 9 year marriage to toy boy Grin YOS

FannyFifer · 07/07/2012 13:44

Nope, sorry, not a clue.

ThatBastardGandhi · 07/07/2012 13:49

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YouOldSlag · 07/07/2012 13:51

Sorry, maths was never my strong point! Also, you have to admit, that is a confusing OP! Smile

YouOldSlag · 07/07/2012 13:53

Oh no, hang on, I thought she'd been married to Luke for 9 years, not John. You can see where I had trouble. My brain hurts! Smile

JeezyPeeps · 07/07/2012 13:55

I think Luke might be an autocorrect thing.

NarkedRaspberry · 07/07/2012 14:01

It sounds like a 15 year old Grin

Johnnydeppsnewmrs · 07/07/2012 14:06

Exactly how old are you op?
And why are you sulking?
It is up to your mum if she chooses to have a child, not you (unless she expects you to raise it for her, then you can sulk away!).

ThatBastardGandhi · 07/07/2012 14:07

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helenthemadex · 07/07/2012 14:09

is this a section from the bible all the names are very biblical, who is pregnant is it mary?

stay home and wait for the angel

BonnieBumble · 07/07/2012 14:12

The butler did it.

Groovee · 07/07/2012 14:13

Eh?

LeeCoakley · 07/07/2012 14:13

Is this the gospel truth or are you having us on....

iklboo · 07/07/2012 14:18

Who's on first base?

wildfig · 07/07/2012 15:39

I think it's your GM who's the one with the big stirry spoon - how did she know what Ruth had said to John/Luke?

[brain hurts]

jollyrancher · 07/07/2012 15:49

I think you should go as its John's brothers party, not Ruth's and you like John's brother and it is an engagement. You needn't talk to DM/John/Ruth/Luke and you needn't stay long.

RandomNumbers · 07/07/2012 15:52

My heid hurts

TandB · 07/07/2012 15:57

Is this some kind of biblical story?

Are Matthew and mark involved as well?

TandB · 07/07/2012 15:58

Ah. I'm not the only one who is thinking biblical story!

jollyrancher · 07/07/2012 16:24

So Ruth is really in love with Naomi but ends up married to someone else.

The plot thickens.

VolAuVent · 07/07/2012 17:17

Confused Biscuit

Angelico · 07/07/2012 17:19

This is brilliantly bizarre OP :o Tears of laughter here and loving the replies :o

I have never been so head fucked in my life :o

Angelico · 07/07/2012 17:20

I just laughed so much I got ligament pains Confused

shesariver · 07/07/2012 19:27

Well as long as it makes sense to you OP