Not allowing people to smoke in my house

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I don't smoke and one of my house rules is you don't smoke in my house. A friend who I haven't seen in a good couple of months turned up on my door step a couple of weeks ago - puffing away on a cigarette. My 7 year old answered the door and said: 'Mum won't let you in while you have that.' (meaninig her cigarette. She responded by saying: 'Well, let's see what Mum says.' When I got to the door I politely explained that I didn't mind her smoking outside as long as she disposed properly of her cigarette but she was not to come in with it.

She got in a right huff and called me a snob and stormed off!

I am a smoker but never smoke in my own house. And I can tell immediately when I walk in someone else's house if they smoke indoors. The smell just clings to the curtains, soft furnishings and turns the ceiling yellow.

No-one smokes indoors any more, let alone expects a non-smoking household to permit smoking. Your 'friend' is very strange.

YANBU. If I don't smoke in my own house nobody else does either.

YANBU I would have said the same thing. What a cheek of her thinking she can just come into your house smoking when you don't and around your DC

Urg, I wouldnt call her a friend. Sounds like a right oddball.

I have a fridge magnet that says "if you're smoking in this house you'd better be on fire"

Was she visiting from the 70s?

I smoke. So does DH. No one smokes in my house. In fact I only know one person who does smoke inside their own house, and they are an eccentric spinster who lives with her cat

YANBU - I wouldnt let anyone smoke in my house - if they dont like it they can bog off!

When we bought our first house I was blunt in telling people that they wouldn't be smoking in my house. My brother's partner at the time, told me that no one would visit then. Yet ironically loads of people have come to ours and gone outside for a smoke.

My brother smokes in his house and dh is a plumber and has been in some house thick with smoke. He comes home minging.

My dad smokes in the house. In his house, that is. (we'll ignore my mum for now because she has allowed it for too long to ban it now)

He doesn't smoke in anyone else's house, unless they do it themselves.

Nobody my age (that I know) would even slightly consider smoking inside the house.

My friends smoke in their house- it smells terrible, everything you touch feels tacky and her living room is stained yellow. They don't come here very often because they can't smoke in my house...
OTOH my Dad smokes in his house but he has cut right down and keeps the place clean- it doesn't smell at all.

YANBU And what's 'snobbish' about not liking cigarette smoke?

I smoked for 20 years and would never, ever assume it was ok to smoke in someone else's house.

Yanbu! she has a major flea up her bum!

i do not allow smoking in my home,

i hate smoking with a passion!

Im a none smoker, a fair number of my friends smoke but they would never dream of asking if they can smoke inside or in my car if we are going out

My DH's family all smoke, and will smoke in their own homes. However, they have never even asked to smoke in our home, it would not occur to them. They would also never smoke inside, even in their own home, if either of my DDs was around or when I was pregnant. DH and I have never discussed it with them, they just do the considerate thing.

YANBU..How old is your "friend"? My older relations were all heavy smokers. So was my poor Mum. Mum died of lung cancer in 2004 (pre smoking ban) and I deliberately organised the funeral get together for mourners to be in my home as opposed to a pub/restaurant as I couldn't bear to have them all round me puffing away after losing my Mum to lung cancer. None of my Mum's siblings and their partners bothered to come back to the house as they knew they wouldn't be able to smoke.... They couldn't even pack it in for half an hour to come in for a cup of tea...