to expect an engagement card from my colleagues?

[Ambivalence]

I?m the token spinster in a team of 10 married people. For the 2 years I?ve worked here, i?ve had to endure well meaning queries about whether I will ever settle down/ advice on how to get a man and admonishment to just get on with it as I am 35 and have only a few child bearing years left.

It?s a friendly public sector team, and my colleague are a nice bunch, so there is a constant stream of birthday cards to sign, and whip rounds for new baby presents, flowers for colleagues who are sick - my boss decides what cards etc are required and then asks me ( ALWAYS just ME) to organise them.

Last week I announced my engagement ? my colleagues did congratulate me in person, but AIBU to be miffed that it doesn?t merit a card?

As long as you do a card for anyone getting divorced to make it fair too

would it make you feel better if I told you that on my engagement I didn't even get a card from my mum and dad, sister, best friend or MIL. My colleagues barely looked up

I didn't bother getting engaged.
It's not as inportant as you seem to think it is (except to you of course)

YABU - I didnt even get one from my in-laws.....

I had a very quiet Registry Office wedding (i.e. max 6 weeks notice) so I wouldn't have expected any sort of acknowledgement at work of the "engagement". Also I was marrying my boyfriend of 13 years, so hardly a "tell us about the groom" thing. But I was very surprised that my colleagues were cross with me for not telling them before the wedding on the "any excuse for a celebration" principle. Like you I work (and worked) in a small public sector office. So I agree with the people who say that interest will perk up when you pick a date. If (unlike me) you tell them when it is, I'm sure they will do some sort of celebratory card, and maybe even drinks after work / cake at lunchtime / whatever are your office traditions for celebrations are.