To want to give up because of SPD?

[Superslinger]

I read a while ago about people being induced early because of SPD and remember thinking 'how selfish - there's no way I'd do that to my baby because of my own pain!' I had SPD then, and it was pretty bad, I was on crutches and poor DH had to put up with constant groans and whimpers, but then this week I've turned a corner and I just don't know whether I can cope anymore.

The thought of another month in this level of torturous pain just makes me want to give up now - the thought that actually, like anyone else, I could actually end up waiting another 6 weeks if two weeks overdue just makes me want to cry. I think hubby's had enough of hearing the whining, but seriously I just wish he knew how bad it is. I can barely believe it myself at the moment. :(

I'm only on crutches, not in a wheelchair, so don't imagine hospital would consider inducing early anyway, but AIB a selfish bitch to just wish baby would hurry up and arrive now? I already feel like a terrible mum for being so bad at being pregnant, and now I want to sack that in and get her out early because I'm SO bad at it I can't take it anymore. :(

Have a word with your GP/MW and see what they think.

The hospital will be able to tell how safe it is to induce you at this stage.

If it's safe enough and if it's going to stop the awful pain, what's the point in being a martyr?

Yanbu, I do think though unless you've been through it you don't know how bad it can be, can you ring your mw and talk to her about how bad it is and how your feeling x

YANBU at all. I was similar, except I didn't get the option of induction. Was told (at 35 weeks) I could have ELCS at 37 weeks, or go to term and deliver naturally. I decided it wasn't bad enough to warrant ELCS and carried on. A week later I was on the phone begging for the section, the pain was just too bad. Was such a relief when she was born and the SPD cleared up practically overnight!

Poor you . I was in the horrible SPD club ( ds 8 months now). It is awful. I struggled thru til the end (induction dismissed, no offer of elcs, bastards). It went mostly after the birth and totally gone 2-3 weeks later (probably sooner but had emcs and wasn't paying attention to pelvis!)

Do as little as poss if that helps - ass on sofa/birth ball/seat you find comfiest and settle in - it's a chance to watch box sets and

YANBU.

(If you are able to get decent physiotherapy it can make a HUGE difference - it enabled me to carry on and even came off my crutches as long as I didn't overdo it. Daily floating in the swimming pool also helps...)

Argh damn you iPhone/ fat fingers!

Plan ur crap tv schedule for when the baby comes. Take strong painkillers regularly, not as required. Gentle exercise if that helps.

There is nothing wrong with checking out whether you can persuade ur mw/obs into getting you out of this pain early.

((((gentle hug avoiding crutches))))

Could you borrow a wheelchair for these last few weeks from the red cross?

Crutches are bloody hard work + tiring + it might just help you getting around for a few more weeks until bump is a bit nearer term.

Horrible for you...un MN hugs .

Talk to your MW or maybe consultant, if they gave you a date for an induction at 38 weeks say, it might help you get through the next few weeks if there is a definite end in sight.

Talk to somebody about it they may induce you a bit earlier no harm is asking about it is there, I was induced early with dd2 becuase of a medical problem and i was so relived when they said yes we will do it ,

Dd3 was brought forward to 38 weeks (ELCS) as my consultant thought I'd had enough. They wouldn't have gone earlier and she said to point Paediatricians in her direction as they don't like sections at

I had 3 hospital admissions during my 3rd trimester for pelvic pain. Didn't have classic spd symptoms but even after multiple scans and blood tests the consultants still couldn't be sure what was happening exactly. It was the worst pain I have ever experienced in my life. Way worse than the birth itself with only g&a for pain relief. Contractions, crowning...didn't even compare. Was easy after what I'd been suffering through since 32 weeks. The best consultant I far at hospital thought it was most likely nerve pain caused by tearing of round ligaments. Whatever it was, it was horrible. Best I can compare it to is appendicitis. Got progressively worse through third trimester. Induction was offered at 38 weeks. I was dehydrated from the vomiting caused by codeine and on fluids, hadn't slept for days. It was the best decision. DD was fine, almost 8 lbs. Induction was quick and birth easy. Pain went almost instantly after birth and hasn't come back.

Oops. Posted too soon. Wishing you well op. Gp speak to your consultant about an induction...38 weeks is term and baby should be fine. Good luck and take care.

Maybe chat to your GP about pelvic arthropothy? I though I had spd but it turned out I had pelvic arthropothy, it is agony and spd is nothing compared to it. They had planned to not let me go any further than my due date, but luckily I went myself that day before they were due to induce.

Have you got a proper SPD support belt, the one with 3 strips of elastic? It made a massive difference for me. Keep complaining very loudly to the medical folk, make sure they know just how big a problem it is. Hopefully they'll be able to at least lend you a wheelchair, or try begging for one on freecycle. YANBU to consider early induction, not something I know a great deal about but I'm sure they'd scan you first and make sure baby was far enough along before they did it.

Sudden thought, shopmobility rent out wheelchairs, I rented a portable scooter for holiday once. You don't need to be registered disabled or a blue badge holder or anything, or even provide proof of medical condition, you just pay £3 and join I think. Renting the scooter was very cheap, I expect a manual wheelchair would be even cheaper, espcially if you're not taking it out of the country. Hope that helps.

Been there etc. Get a wheelchair. Try Shopmobility, Red Cross, local medical supplies shops, or failing those wheelfreedom.com have excellent service and will deliver to your door. Start mat leave if you haven't been signed off already. Take it easy and take all the painkillers you can get prescribed, eg 60mg codeine 4x daily.

YANBU. If it's any consolation, giving birth twice was a doddle in comparison!

Oh, and don't be so hard on yourself...you are not crap st being pregnant, you are in pain. It sounds like you have been suffering for awhile too, so give yourself credit for being strong and coping with a challenging pregnancy. You need support now, especially from your husband. If he is not being supportive, please show him this thread along with some pgp literature so he can understand how truly difficult this is for you. Most women I know who have had pelvic pain in pregnancy find childbirth to be comparatively easy, having super high pain thresholds from months of chronic agony with limited access to pain medication.

Thanks so much everyone. I'm going to try and discuss it with GP this week. Thing is when it comes to it I always end up talking it down, no idea why, think I'm just embarrassed about going in and moaning. I don't think they take me seriously but that's entirely my fault IYSWIM.

As for wheelchair suggestion, I'm not sure it would really help as I find sitting down ridiculously painful. My one last 'can do it even with SPD' pleasure/ get it in before baby arrives luxury of going to the cinema is long-gone due to the agony I end up in - and at least I can move around/ alternate contortions in those seats, which presumably you can't in a wheelchair? Have others with SPD not found this about sitting?

On the DH front, he is being wonderful and doing everything that I now can't about the house (most things), it's just that I know he does also feel a bit sort of 'it can't be that bad'/ thinks I'm milking it a bit. Which I so wish I had space for milking - it's taking me everything not to collapse and cry in a self-pitying heap.

Btw, do any of you wise ones have any opinion on this whole sleeping on your left side issue? I find it so painful on my left hip it's just unbearable so I end up spending at least 60% of night on right, promising myself it's only for 10 mins, then dropping off for 3 hours, then waking up, turning (= with worst SPD pain of all SPD pains) to left and finding I can't even get to sleep because of the pain, and repeating turn (= worst pain #2) to right with false promises it will be only for a little while... Thinking about it, who am I trying to kid - I'm blatantly spending 99% on the right side. Again, poor baby! :(

:( It will get better.Had awful pain with DS1, but no problems with any of the others.Take it easy afterwards too.

HarrietJonez, it didn't EVER go?!!!

tiggy did you do anything different to prevent it happening with your others, or just happened not to come back?

superslinger, poor you i can totally sympathise esp with trying to turn over to sleep. its so so painful and i think hcp's dont know much about it and dont have much sympathy. unless you have been there u cant imagine. someone once described it as being kicked repeatedly in the groin by a horse wearing steel tipped boots. anyway thats how mine was.

but anyway its been a while now but have you heard of the spd association i cant remember the exact name but they have a helpline and an info pack and meetings as well. the booklets are quite helpful and helps to talk to someone.

also only had spd first time, 2nd time was dreading it but i didnt get a single twinge and still cant believe it. also after birth was like instant relief even though i had a lot of pain from a long vaginal delivery but that wasnt due to the spd.

i know its so hard at the end i felt just like you it is horrendous but the end is near. also second the support belt and lying where possible and crutches.

good luck!

i had SPD with dd1-could walk last 6 months of pregnancy and not very well until I stopped BFing at 6 months

Started getting SPD at 12 weeks with dd2-so I went to a chiropractor regularly throughout pregnancy-and my pain was 100% gone!

Its a bit late in the day-but i bet they could still make you more comfortable..not a PHYSIO...they can do nothing for SPD...a CHIROPRACTOR

Go...NOW

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Please go

GP will just tell you to rest (or see a physio, who will tell you to rest!)

for future pregnancies...SEE A CHIROPRACTOR, sit on a ball when you have to sit and walk, walk, walk as much as you can, walk some more and SEE A CHIROPRACTOR

It really is a different experience for everyone but I still have SPD 5 years after giving birth.
I had an elected CS 1 week early as was in wheelchair for last few months and DD was also breached as couldn't turn and remember the radiographer saying to me "its only pain!" when trying to talk me out of CS.
The best thing I did was buy a tempur type mattress which was coil sprung underneath which lets you sink into it whilst still supporting. ( even DH turning over in bed used to be agony).
I had physio and found the pregnancy belt very good too.
My GP actually prescribed codeine for the pain and said it would not harm DD but I had terrible problems with taking them and then withdrawing (had to be done very gradually).
I hope you find some help and that you are one of the ones where it disappears straight after birth.