To want to give up because of SPD?

[Superslinger]

I read a while ago about people being induced early because of SPD and remember thinking 'how selfish - there's no way I'd do that to my baby because of my own pain!' I had SPD then, and it was pretty bad, I was on crutches and poor DH had to put up with constant groans and whimpers, but then this week I've turned a corner and I just don't know whether I can cope anymore.

The thought of another month in this level of torturous pain just makes me want to give up now - the thought that actually, like anyone else, I could actually end up waiting another 6 weeks if two weeks overdue just makes me want to cry. I think hubby's had enough of hearing the whining, but seriously I just wish he knew how bad it is. I can barely believe it myself at the moment. :(

I'm only on crutches, not in a wheelchair, so don't imagine hospital would consider inducing early anyway, but AIB a selfish bitch to just wish baby would hurry up and arrive now? I already feel like a terrible mum for being so bad at being pregnant, and now I want to sack that in and get her out early because I'm SO bad at it I can't take it anymore. :(

i was on 8 hourly codeine when i was only 12 weeks pregnant with dd2....came off them completely with chiropractor

if you do take codeine..you mustnt take them in 3rd trimester or baby will be addicted and go through withdrawal when born

have you been to a chiro cheeky?

OP you have my full support and sympathy, spd is hell. Sleeping is very uncomfortable. There was hardly any room in the bed for DH, because of the extra pillows. I had crutches, support belt begged for ELCS (refused). Offered induction on due date, didn't work. Ended up in wheelchair and staying in hospital until DD2 arrived 10 days late after another go at induction.

On the bright side labour was easy. After the birth the hospital put a special inflating mattress on my bed as I still wasn't able to walk properly for afew days after. You might want to ask for a special mattress in advance in case you have to stay in after the birth.

Good luck and gentle hugs to you.

I have been to Royal Orthapaedic and they have given me spinal injections which help for a few months but so painful I really have to consider whether to have done again.
They also detected other problems but the SPD is worse when hormonal.

superslinger, please do not get stressed about sleeping positions! I found lying on left side = mega pain and was comfier on right but with a couple Of turns in the night (ouch). The benefits of solely lying On ur left side are pretty small and not really worth the agony esp if baby has been ok so far!

I found my sofa best - it is a good height and depth for me and supportive. Other chairs were not so good . My ds is a high needs baby who will only nap on me, so there is a giant ass print there now .

Basically do what works for you to be as pain-minimised as possible. Take drugs. Wear heat or ice packs. Rest or exercise, depending on what helps.

You won't get a medal or thanks for being 'brave' and pretending this isn't agony. I wish I hadn't - it was blatantly obviously how much I was suffering, I did have pleasant hcps but I wish I'd I kicked up more of a stink and stamped my feet til I got an elcs. But at the time, I'd convinced myself that would be chickening out! I had an awful birth experience (not related to the SPd - it didn't help but when I eventually got an epidural that helped the spd pain) and ended up with an emcs which wasn't the best.

Not trying to scare you just trying to emphasis that the 'put up and shut' approach is ballocks and you deserve better - especially when you've been in such pain.

cheeky i KNOW I am banging on...but I was all set to have a spinal op to fuse my spine from neck to pelvis (for a spinal prob, not SPD) but my chiro has managed to control my pain and I do not need to go ahead with the surgery

i really cant recommend enough times

You are not crap at pregnancy. SPD is awful. You have my total sympathy.

I had it with DS2 and am still suffering now, it's worse when I'm due on. I' still bf so hoping that it improves when I stop.

Go and speak to your consultant and MW about early induction. DO NOT PLAY IT DOWN! You are in serious pain and should be taken seriously. Also make sure your birth partner knows how far you can open your legs and write it and SPD all over your notes.

Thanks bejeezus that really is worth looking into to.

I've also got it, it's bloody awful, was referred to hospital by my mw to be assessed for an induction yesterday only to be told they don't do them???

Why would my MW suggest an induction and then refer me, only for the doc at the hospital say they don't do it?
I also tend to try and play down how painful it is, no idea why, i just hobble around on crutches which are good for holding the weight off my pelvis. I'm 37wks and the thought of 3 more weeks or even 5 (I went 2wks over with my over two) I just don't even want to think about.

*other two.

I had horrible SPD in my first pregnancy which was sorted out almost completely with a few sessions of osteopathy. Second pregnancy I went straight to the osteopath as soon as I felt the first twinges and didn't suffer at all after that. Turns out I had a misaligned sacrum (bone at base of spine) and the knock on effects of all the pregnancy hormones (loosening joints, etc) meant it turned into SPD. Apparently a lot of SPD cases are due to lower back problems that can be improved with osteopathy, physio, etc.

If it is an option for you I would strongly recommend it. Just make sure you go and see an Osteo that is experienced in treating pregnant women.

OP and anyone else suffering, have a look at the Pelvic Patnership They recommended a physio to me who was able to put my pelvis back into place (one side was totally locked up) and it was like magic with immediate reduction in pain. This was after Dr/hospital physio just gave me codeine and a belt and told me to come back when I needed crutches

I had some trouble at the very end of the pregnancy and was still in pain for a week or so after the birth and since then have been fine. I wish I hadn't suffered for all those weeks though until I found the physio. You have my sympathy, SPD is really horrible.

PS that website has some good tips for coping day to day and for the birth as well. I planned a water birth although didn't seem to have too much trouble in labour and spent most of the time on dry land using a tens machine.

I had very bad SPD and delivered spontaneously at 35+3 - I think my body had just had enough! (Baby was fine by the way.) I had crutches, physio, working from home, etc and nothing really helped. Sitting was the worst.

For sleeping, have you tried satin sheets or PJs? Hopefully, it might help you turn in bed. I never tried them because I got the suggestion about the time I went into labour. (Just don't try both at the same time - I wouldn't want you shooting off the edge of the bed!) Also, not ideal, but my husband slept in the spare room because like someone else said, his movements caused me pain when the mattress would shift.

OP, hang in there...

Oh, and YANBU.

hi I have 4 dc's and. was induced with dc 1 due to being on crutches with Spd but the earliest they would do it was my dues date luckily it worked fast and she arrived later that day, I was almost pain free straight after the birth. Dc2 I was on crutches from 12 weeks and in a wheelchair by 22 weeks Ds arrived @36 weeks no Spd at all with Dc3 and by the time I got to Dc4 I knew to do as little as possible and although I did get Spd I used a chiropractor who was amazing.

I'm lucky that I didn't suffer past the births I was just told it was because I had big babies.
I hope you get some relief soon xxx

Sorry you're having a rough time. Im 36 weeks pregnant and havnt left the house for over 3 months as Im struggling to walk and only just got crutches 2 weeks ago. Does your midwife do home visits?

Do you have a birthing ball or yoga ball? My OH got me a yoga ball yesterday as I was in the worst pain so far and it was instant relief sitting on it. The pains nowhere near as bad today and im convinced its because of that ball.

Im trying to stay positive by thinking the pain is preparing me for labour and making me stronger.

Heya I haven't read all the posts but as a physio I wud really suggest a referral to womens health physio, mw can do it and u shud be seen pretty quick.

Its not my speciality but they are FAB!! Often women have used maternity slings, available from nhs or if desperate buy in mothercare. They are brilliant at supporting bump and easing some pain.

Don't get down there are lots that cud help you xx

I had had spd with dc1 none with dc2 and horrendous with dc3 from 17 weeks, no drugs touched the pain. Lying in the bath brought some relief and sleep was non existent. In the end my lovely consultant did my c section at 37 weeks. The pain disappeared!
Hang in there and good luck!

Agree with previous posters - get thee to a chiropractor, working wonders for me

OP - to reiterate, GO AND SEE A CHIROPRACTOR! I say this, because I'm married to one and I've known him perform SPD miracles where others have failed. Really, time and time again. It's one of the things they are really good at. If you can find an Activator chiropractor all the better. It's powerful stuff plus you don't have to take your clothes off :)

OP for hip pain when lying in bed

Put a pillow between your knees, it really helps.

Erm, just to point out that you can take painkillers up to the birth! Even the stronger cocodamol. It is unlikely baby will be born addicted (as in heroin babies) - baby may be drowsy after birth but that can happen with labour drugs anyway!

If you want to avoid any risk I think you just stop them (if poss) in the week coming up to ur due date, should be out of ur system in about 48hrs. I couldn't manage it and ds was fine (even after a long labour, emcs for failure to progress & foetal distress he was not interested in sleeping - still isn't...)

I found acupuncture helped too - obs physio was good for supplying crutches and belt (yy itchy and hot and also pressed on bladder). if have another baby and get SPd again (Please no thanks) I will be trying a chiropractor.