To want to give up because of SPD?

[Superslinger]

I read a while ago about people being induced early because of SPD and remember thinking 'how selfish - there's no way I'd do that to my baby because of my own pain!' I had SPD then, and it was pretty bad, I was on crutches and poor DH had to put up with constant groans and whimpers, but then this week I've turned a corner and I just don't know whether I can cope anymore.

The thought of another month in this level of torturous pain just makes me want to give up now - the thought that actually, like anyone else, I could actually end up waiting another 6 weeks if two weeks overdue just makes me want to cry. I think hubby's had enough of hearing the whining, but seriously I just wish he knew how bad it is. I can barely believe it myself at the moment. :(

I'm only on crutches, not in a wheelchair, so don't imagine hospital would consider inducing early anyway, but AIB a selfish bitch to just wish baby would hurry up and arrive now? I already feel like a terrible mum for being so bad at being pregnant, and now I want to sack that in and get her out early because I'm SO bad at it I can't take it anymore. :(

Yy to slidy sheets- someone has even designed something especially for this purpose! See www.hooglii.co.uk - I am using one and it really does lessen the turning over in bed agony.

I slept on a sleeping bag as it was slippy and made it easier to turn over.

My physio said that should also imagine I was wearing a mini skirt and no knickers all the time :o so I kept my ankles together when getting out of bed, car etc and took the smallest steps possible. It did help and also made me laugh which was something I needed!

I had horrendous SPD with DD, who was also back to back. I was in agony, had to leave work 2 months before the birth, could barely walk due to the pain, slept sat up on the sofa near the end, but couldnt sleep due to the pain. It was agonising to sit in a chair, I could barely move, the pain in my cocyx and pelvis was awful.

Tips, full body pillow, keep knees/legs together at all times, getting in and out of car etc, dont go up and down stairs any more than you have to. I took paracetamol and codydramol for the pain and used crutches. Didnt leave the house for two months before birth apart from scans every 2 weeks to check baby size (6lb 15 when born).

My consultant would have induced at 39 weeks but my cervix wasnt favourable. In the end I was induced at 40+5. I begged him to do it before as I was in so much pain but they wouldnt. I spent three nights in hospital before the birth and was given pethidine just so i could lie down and get some sleep

My consultant warned me that it would come back worse and earlier in any subsequent pregnancy, and i decided not to have any more children because of the SPD. I still suffer slightly now 4 years on from the birth, when my period is due I get pain and my pelvis cracks every time I turn over in bed.

Anybody who has suffered from SPD really gets my sympathy.

Hate to make this my personal moaning thread but... today my morning sickness has made its return! :( I had appalling morning sickness from six weeks til 20 something weeks - so bad, that with the SPD I've always (just about) been able to say 'at least it's not quite as bad as morning sickness - at least I feel ok in myself', but now I have both. BOTH! :(

Thanks to whoever suggested pillow under hip to sleep, I tried that last night and it helped a bit. As for the slippery sheets thing, I've been tempted, but been so scared by the stuff about still birth from sleeping anywhere but on left side that the last couple of nights I've decided to stick rigidly to left-side 'sleeping', which is just appalling - I'm in so much pain through that hip, but just can't stand the thought of risking baby for the sake of a bit of - relative - comfort on my right side. The result is I'm sleeping for about an hour, waking, getting onto/ leaning over swiss ball because can't stand it anymore, then about an hour later maybe managing another hour's sleep. Rubbish. I now hate night-time and just want it to be morning so I just don't have to try to sleep anymore.

But my morning sickness was never in the morning but all. day. long. This is going to be a horrible, horrible last month or so. I keep talking to baby and asking her wouldn't she like to decide to arrive a bit early. Don't suppose anyone can tell me a return to morning sickness is a sign that the end is near...?

SPD sucks!

I had it from 20 weeks with my DD2, I was in agony come 35/36 weeks, and found doing the simplest task really bloody hard. I would have days where it would ease off and I would be more active (usually to get on top of my awfully neglected house).. the next day it would be even worse :(

Found out in labour DD2 was also back to back and the pain in labour was excruciating. With DD1, I could keep going because of the need to push. DD2 however was just pain and no progress.

You really have my sympathy. Noone really understands until they have it. I didn't even know what it was until someone told me they had it.
If it helps though, mine went straight after the birth. I was really active in the days afterwards as well... simply because I could be! The healing process after childbirth was nothing in comparison... people around me thought I was mad!

Ahh, thanks so much katykuns, the thought of it going after birth really does help - I keep fantasising about walking, bending, sitting, walking a bit more, maybe even quickly! That thought's the only thing that's keeping me going.

In the meantime unfortunately my GP did say baby currently back to back too. Trying my best to lean forward a lot, but feel it's probably pretty futile. Ugh

I never heard that it's dangerous to lean on the right side rather than the left. I was told that the left side is "better" but in three pregnancies I've never been advised to sleep on the left side only. I used to switch sides every hour or less because too long in any position was unbearable.
Five months on I don't feel the SPD pain anymore. It took at least one week post birth to get better and then a few months to go completely but it IS gone.
Good luckn

By the way, the brilliant MW who was there at the birth of DS3 told me that babies turn during labour or even just at the last minute when they go through the birth canal so it's really not an issue if they're back to back weeks before.

My DD turned just as she came out which was weird!

My SPD felt so much better the day after I gave birth.

I too was sick all day every day for the first twenty weeks or so, then the SPD kicked in!

The babies go back to back because you dont move around much with SPD...