to hate when people call their ex 'sperm donor'

[biddysmama]

anyone else? its horrible, my dd has never met her biological father because he gave me the choice of him or the baby and i chose the baby...but i wouldnt call him sperm donor

Well, I suppose if all a man has ever contributed to his child's life is the sperm that helped create him - what else is he?

A dad is surely someone who is in the child's life, loves them, supports them, cares about them?

Someone who helps to create a life and then legs it and wants nothing to do with them and plays no part in their life and won't take any responsibility for them - how are they in any meaningful way a father?

YANBU. I wouldn't call a man who willingly abandoned his children a spern donor either. I've always preferred cunt myself.

Graham

Basically what Hecate said.

It's a lot easier to say than "biological father", three syllables compared to seven. Or one, if you go with GrahamTribe's suggestion.

A sperm donor is someone who through an act of altrusim has given a couple the chance to have a family. A real sperm donor has given the gift of life and happiness to a family he will never meet. It is wrong to compare such a man to an irresponsible bastard who neglects his kids.

I agree with Graham!

That's a good point, RT. I hadn't looked at it from that side. I guess that leaves us with Bastard Arsehole Loser Twat, or BALT for short, then

I always think it makes people sound really bitter when they call their ex's 'sperm donor'.

Wot Graham and Hecate said.

Dd1's father never so much as emailed to enquire whether she had been born healthy.

He also changed his mobile number to make sure I couldn't phone him to let him know.

Can you explain to me why he deserves to be known as anything other than a ?

Dh has a sperm doner, he gave the gift of life but nothing else.
I am great full to this man as without him dh would never have been born

How about BioTwat? Actually no, it sounds like a plant food for rude looking orchids.

Don't change the fact that he walked out

hahahaaaa at graham

my ex is indded a cunt

a lazy selfosh one at that

te spunk was the ladt useful thing he contributed to dd and her upbirnging

nizlopi surely that's the point? Most people who have been jilted/ let down/ fucked up by their partner when or whilst they were pregnant ARE bloody bitter. I know I fucking would be!

D0oin - am cross for you. What a prince amongst men that man sounds. If there's any justice, he'll get his.

[high five] GrahamTribe

Picnic I think BioTwat has a lovely ring to it!

yeah i am fcking bitter

the useless tawt walked ot on us the day after dd birthday to shack up with a 17 year old who he promtply knocked up and then left

he has spoken to me ONCE since that day

ONCE in 7 fuckig YEARS has the man had the gts to speak to me

ad it leaves a nasty bitter taste in my mouth wen i know that right now he is sat in a pub in his hometown being the life ans fcuking soul

when we have never had a single peny off him, he doesnt phone for dds birthday, his mum sends stuff that she pretends is from him

how would you feel???

Sperm donor is apt. Cunt is better. *nice one graham

ReallyTired - thank you for expressing it so well. It is important to distinguish between a kind and generous action (donating sperm), and an irresponsible morally bankrupt act (abandoning a child and the child's mother).

YABU.

My father is a paedophile who raped, burned, beat me and passed me around to his paedophile friends. He abused and raped my mother.

His sperm created me, but fuck me if he's my fucking father and deserves any respect from mum, DB and I. Sperm doner is too kind a term for him. I prefer the term 'stranger.' It's harsher.

I've raised my son alone since pregnancy/birth and his dad is a complete waste of space, but being bitter is pointless. I felt extremely bitter for the first few years, but ds is now six and I the anger and bitterness has dissipated over the last couple of years. It is a waste of energy and keeps you trapped in a negative mindset. Resentment doesn't hurt the person it's directed towards, it only hurts the person who feels it.

Just saw Graham's post. Only a few people in my life (or not in my life) get honoured with the title cunt.

[insertnamehere] (refuse to call him dad) is now on that list.

DB is much more of a dad to me. :)

LurkingAndLearningForNow :( hope you are ok.

Of course I am! Takes more than one cunt to fuck up my life!