to hate when people call their ex 'sperm donor'

[biddysmama]

anyone else? its horrible, my dd has never met her biological father because he gave me the choice of him or the baby and i chose the baby...but i wouldnt call him sperm donor

A friend of mine refers to her ex husband as sperm donor. They were married for 25 years!
And they had fertility problems so i cant really understand why she uses the term.

I wonder if a lot of the "sperm donors" are called so because they are not being "cash machines".

I don't want a cash machine either Whatme. Dd1 has one of those. She's also known as cleaner, taxi woman, tutor and cook and sometimes mum.

What I wanted (as in past tense) was someone to be 'responsible' for his actions and their results. And yes that includes paying towards his 'mistake' the same as I had to. Instead he made sure the tax payer (that's you and yours btw) picked up his half of the bill and later DH.

I prefer a lamb doner to a sperm doner. The latter tends to taste a bit salty.

I say biological father, but there isn't really a term for someone who is entirely absent, physically or otherwise, from my life. I doubt he was a complete fuckwit, because my mother is an intelligent woman of taste. More likely he was scared, and because of his lack of courage he has lost me. Does that sound arrogant?! Possibly. OBut I have a fab (adoptive) father, a brother and sister... In fact staying out of my life was the best thing he could have done for me.

Not a father, not a sperm donor, not anything.

I wonder occasionally if it was a hard decision.

Whatme, I have only just, this past year, started referring to him as a sperm donor, although NEVER in front of my ds. This is after over 6 years of trying to keep a relationship between him and my ds (yes, my ds - I have finally given up getting him to realise he has a ds - in fact he has 6 dc and has done the same to all of them!)

3 months ago, he gave me a load of abuse over the phone, about how I only every contacted him when I wanted something (i.e. I was trying to arrange a contact day/time) and then hung up on me, changed his phone number and blocked me on Facebook. The reason? He has a new woman, and is acting as her (4/5?) dc father - but has no time for his own. I have finally gone to the CSA, not so much because I want the money (am expecting him to 'lose' his job shortly) but because I want him to have to acknowledge his child.

Although having read this thread, I will find something else to call him. As has been pointed out, sperm donors give their sperm to enable a child to be born that otherwise wouldnt have been. A generous act. Not something ever found in him.