To think having sex whilest you child is in the same bed is very very wrong

[Mrbojangles1]

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I think doing it whilest a small baby is in a cot is very diffrent to doing it while child of any age is in the bed next to you, also i just dont under stand how any one could get aroused when you basically eye ball to eye ball with your child

I sure in cultures were people live in one room or huts this happens but not in the wester world were we dont have 6 family memebers to a room not when you have the CHOICE TO NOT HAVE SEX WITH A CHILD SLEEPING IN YOUR BED NEXT TO YOU WHY WOULD YOU DO IT.

Again, sex is not dirty or wrong...

I've done it

Actually the other thread has the most outraged posters on it, I expect they will all stampede over here soon enough.

Buppy's gonna shoot me any minute.

But how can feel turned on with your child under your duvet w/ you?

People have sex when they're pregnant. You could say how can you feel turned on with a baby kicking and moving inside you. I don't think anyone is having wild porn style sex here just being intimate. I wouldn't personally do it with my child in the bed next to me but I don't judge those who do. I have when my daughter was a little baby in her cot in the same room and didn't feel that was weird at all.

NO WAY THAT IS SO GROSS

YES WAY

its like Phil and Ted's excellent co sleep shag adventure

I'm in the who gives a flying fuck corner.

NO WAY THAT IS SO GROSS

YES WAY

its like Phil and Ted's excellent co sleep shag adventure

I'm in the who gives a flying fuck corner.

"People have sex when they're pregnant. You could say how can you feel turned on with a baby kicking and moving inside you."

totally different because the only way to have a sex life when pregnant is to have it near the pregnancy. Not the case with co-sleeping in most western dwellings because you dont HAVE to have sex in that bed to have a sex life, you can go to another room, there is no other way to have a sex life when pregnant like that so its totally different

crashdoll Safe co-sleeping guidelines dictate that your baby is kept well away from your duvet. So hopefully any parents who are co-sleeping with their children and having sex in their own beds will be nicely covered with their duvet while baby sleeps happily under their own covers!

So judgemental, there are instances were its acceptable...

Monkey child beside you child inside you - some people are comfortable to have sex in one or both of these situations and some aren't. Its individual choice isn't it.

Yeesh. It's just SEX. Why is everyone so uptight about it? It's how the baby was made, they were in the bed every time their parents had sex while the mother was pregnant, what's so bad about a baby being next to its parents rather than in between them?!

I love GetOrf.

Ooh, a flying fuck corner!
I am with getorf
I like a flying fuck (mile high club we called it in my day)

No. Ick. Just Wrong.

Everyone i know who grew up in cramped accommodation here or abroad chose not to share beds or even rooms with children if other options were available.
Some examples:

My grandad lived in a 2 bedroom terrace with his parents & 12 siblings; all had to watch their father beating & abusing their mother in close proximity until his father died young.

A Fillippino colleague grew up sharing a 1 room home with 5 children, parents & water buffalo.. but when she came here & got married she put her baby in their 2nd bedroom. She loved her childhood (especially her 'pet' water buffalo!) but hated sharing a room with parents & having no privacy; so didn't want her child to have the same.

One of my friends only just moved out of her 1 bedroom flat shared with her 2 yr old & her boyfriend. The 2 yr old had a cot bed in the lounge - my friend did not feel comfortable having sex with her child asleep in the same room.

Even a friend who had to share a studio flat with her boyfriend & his 2 kids would not have sex if they were at home too.
And when a colleague decided to put her new baby in a Moses basket next to the bed for the first 3 months - she told her husband that sex was only allowed when the baby was in another room.

"Monkey child beside you child inside you - some people are comfortable to have sex in one or both of these situations and some aren't. Its individual choice isn't it."

no, co-sleeping sex is usually much much more of a choice than pregnant sex

pregnant sex choices: do it or have no sex life at all

co-sleeping sex choices: do it, go into another room or even onto the floor, or have no sex life at all

I don't think its wrong so long as the child is asleep and not physically touching, but I wouldn't choose it - there are plenty of other oportunities to have sex, didn't have as much choice when it came to pregnant sex though so its not at all the same

BTW I was kindly informed that i look very 'prim' by one of my patients recently - so i do have my 'prim' image to uphold you know. :)

Well, horses for courses :)

Monkey you are not understanding me. I am saying it is the choice of the individual whether they do or don't have sex whilst pregnant (some people think this is gross and many don't ) or do or don't have sex whilst their child is in the bed hence individual choice. My original post which you replied to was about how you can get turned on with a child sleeping beside to to which I replied then how can you get turned on with your child kicking and moving (alert and awake inside you). Whether you think these things are the same or not does not change the fact that people will make an individual choice how, when or where they have sex and what they find acceptable.

DH and I were once, ahem, getting busy when we happened to look around.

Our new kittens (barely 10 weeks old) were perched on the extreme end of the bed, huddled together and staring at us with expressions of utter horror.

That put me off sufficiently to never EVER want to try it with a baby in the bed!!

I don't really care what other people do though

Oh FFS Latara we're talking about parents having sex with their baby lying asleep half a metre away, not men beating their wives and making their entire brood of children watch.

Up until DS1 was twelve and a half months old we lived in a bedsit. One tiny, cramped room with a piddly little kitchen and a pathetic excuse for a bathroom. We had nowhere else to go and have sex, the closest we could get to privacy was the sofa, which was still touching our bed. We still HAD sex. DS1 is nearly three years old now and, as yet, doesn't seem to be affected by all the sex that was had in close proximity to him. He never woke up, we were quiet, it was all alright. Let go of those pearls, ladies.

Sooooooooooooo......... a third of Swedish women are child abusers?

That's quite a statistic .................

Grips required I think

Sorry Ragamuffin, i'm looking over my spectacles in a prim way.
Noooo just still wrong.

PMSL at being watched by kittens :)

i have my 20 week old and 22 month old sharing my bedroom, should we not be having sex in there

or shock horror we could do it in a different room?