to ask dh to stop on his way home from work to pick up some sanitary towels?

[TheRhubarb]

I've run out and my period has just started. I normally have a good supply but the car has broken down so for the past 2 weeks I've been without a car. That should have been resolved this weekend but the old banger he went to buy to replace ours, also broke down. No car means online shopping and when I do online shopping I often forget these necessities because I'm not confronted with an aisle full of them to remind me.

Nearest shop is the village PO which will be full of the horsey set after school and probably won't stock any decent pads (I need nighttime ones as well as ordinary winged ones). So unless dh gets some on the way back I'm stuffed. However he HATES me asking him to do this (yes I have asked before) and I realise he finds it really embarrassing, but I don't know what else to do?

YADNBU.

He finds it embarrassing? Is he a ten year old boy?

Embarrassing? How old is he?

YANBU. BUT be very specific or you will end up with panty liners or Tena Ladys.

Ask him! My dh has got them for me in the past- he gets more stressed about all the different brands and types, but as long as I give him clear instructions he is fine. If he is off to the supermarket to get them perhaps he could stock up on a few other items as well - it may be less embarrassing for him if it's part of a more general shop.

Is he worried they'll think they're for him???

I don't get what is embarrassing?!

Tell him to get a grip and just buy some, how silly

DH hates it when I ask too. He isn't embarrased though, and I don't think anyone believes for a second they are for him!

He just panics at the number of options, and gets lost in flow rates, wings, absorbancy etc.

You clearly need to ask him more often, so he can get over his embarrassment.

Tell him to get some Condoms as well if it makes him feel better. He sould always use the self service checkout?

YADNBU - he is being very U.

My dh has done this for me before (reckons he's an expert by now )

Tell him to grow up.

Mine buys them for me no problem if I need them Of course I have to be very specific and give full descrption of name, brand, type, colour of packaging etc so I get the right thing!

My DH buys tampax for me but always does the hilarious joke of regular? Nah, you're definitely more extra large.
So YANBU, tell him to grow up.

How long before someone says YABU not to use a mooncup?

YANBU to ask him to get them, but I second the 'being specific' comment, my DH once turned up with full on nappy style Tena lady pants when asked for sanitary towels....

He's easily embarrassed, bless! He also gets flustered with all the different types and won't appreciate having to stop at the supermarket on the way home.

But the way I see it, if he had gone with my advice about NOT trying to replace our old banger with another one then I might have a car now and would be able to get my own.

So your dh's wouldn't have a problem with being asked then?

YANBU - my lovely dh has bought them for me on many many occasions, nothing to be embarrassed about!

I've had DH pick me up tampons, pads, pile cream, thrush cream. It's all glamour here. He doesn't mind.

Mine wouldn't, although heaven knows what he'd come home with! I was once approached by a very bewildered bloke in Tesco with a sheepish 'Can you help me, please?' Poor chap led me over to the sanitary products, gestured weakly at the entire aisle and said 'Um...which ones of these are good?' He didn't know whether he was supposed to be buying tampons, towels or what!

oh yes, and the pile cream and laxatives post birth!

Rhubs - as long as I specify what I want, he'll go get it.

Text him the exact requirements, then he can't really go wrong?

rhubarb, sorry, but he needs to get over the embarrassment! If he did it more often, he'd get used to it.

You can always tell him your evil bra-burning feministy mates on MN told you to do it!

Seriously though: no, my DH wouldn't think twice about it. It is just about getting used to it. The first time I bought condoms I felt like sinking through the floor! The first time I bought a pregnancy test I thought the whole world was looking at me.

It's the same thing ... he'll get used to it. Surely you occasionally buy him obviously male-oriented stuff?

My DH has also picked up all manner of things for me. Neither he nor I are embarrassed about it. I agree about telling him exactly what ones you want, though, otherwise it will be a nightmare for him to choose. It's a nightmare for me, even though I have an idea what I want. Too much choice in the supermarkets!

Periods are a natural bodily function. Why be embarrassed?

And do tell him to use the serve yourself till.

Yanbu. What is his problem?

I would get flustered, and probably embarassed by my own incompetence, if my DH asked me to buy razor blades for him as there are so many in the shop and it's confusing when you don't know your way round a type of product. DH would get flustered if I asked him to buy me sanitary towels or tampons in exactly the same way.

But, we have both bought these things for each other because it's daft not to. Just give him very specific instructions e.g. not just 'tampons' but 'Lillets, Super Plus, small purple box, pack of 16' or whatever it is that you need, plus give him an alternative if the shop is out of your particular product, and then he has no grounds for complaint!

No, my DH wouldn't have a problem with it at all, in fact he emptied 'the bin' in the bathroom the other day before I got to it and I was quite horrified he had done it apparently he's dealt with a lot worse - didn't like to ask what.

In light of the lack of new old banger I would insist that he gets your 'lady's items.