to ask dh to stop on his way home from work to pick up some sanitary towels?

[TheRhubarb]

I've run out and my period has just started. I normally have a good supply but the car has broken down so for the past 2 weeks I've been without a car. That should have been resolved this weekend but the old banger he went to buy to replace ours, also broke down. No car means online shopping and when I do online shopping I often forget these necessities because I'm not confronted with an aisle full of them to remind me.

Nearest shop is the village PO which will be full of the horsey set after school and probably won't stock any decent pads (I need nighttime ones as well as ordinary winged ones). So unless dh gets some on the way back I'm stuffed. However he HATES me asking him to do this (yes I have asked before) and I realise he finds it really embarrassing, but I don't know what else to do?

Embarrassed? - why - does he think people will mistake him for a grown up?

My DH wouldn't have any problem with this, neither would I have any problem getting something for him of a personal nature - that's what you do for other people when you are married.

But yes def. be specific, or you will end up with something made out of sheepskin with a huge loop at each end that you have to sew into your pants.

Btw, about the confusion ... let's be fair, he can't go far wrong! If he got you the wrong kind surely it's better than nothing and next time he would get it right.

I've bought myself the wrong kind before now when the packaging changed - we must all have done it?

i always think it's a good test of a man

yanbu to ask him to buy them

YANBU, he is being daft. Tell him he has to get you some or you will use .

DH doesn't like getting them for me as he is worried he will get the wrong ones but he would never refuse as he is a grown up.

Yanbu ... BUT ... yab a little bit u to use the excuse that the village shop will be full of the horsey after school set. If you are embarrassed to buy sanitary towels in front of them then can you see where your dh is coming from? I would go there and buy whatever they have but then I hate being dependent on dh. If you can't get any night ones, just use two ordinary ones with the doubled up bit in the middle.

He hasn't actually said No yet, has he? Just tell him what you need, don't even give him the option of saying no.

No he doesn't get them often as I'm usually pretty well organised about my own hygiene and have a plentiful supply. So it's just him not being used to getting them.

I have just phoned and asked him and although he's a bit reluctant he will get them and he even said he'll do the weekly shop whilst he's there which is good - saves me the effort of another online shop and spares his blushes a little. I specified the brand name and the colour of the packet with a full description so hopefully he shouldn't go wrong!

YANBU says DH He says he's never seen it as a problem people know hes married to a woman and said woman needs essentials.

Good point mintty, I missed that bit. YABU if you get annoyed with your DH if he claims embarrassment when you're embarrassed about buying them in front of other people!!!

My DH gets uncomfortable looking for the ones I want if they don't magically jump into his hand but he does it anyway.

Mintyy, round here to even mention the fact that you might have bodily functions would be going too far! But the village shop definitely would have a very limited supply and my periods are bloody heavy (scuse the pun) so I need ultra absorbant ones.

What male products would I need to buy for him? I've bought condoms in my time and it's not a problem now. Although to be fair, he usually does the condom buying.

Do you not buy stuff like socks and pants, or shirts? No reason you should - just wondering?

I think it's understandable he is embarrassed - it is a function of the odd attitude towards periods. He will get used to it if he does it often but the first time is strange, I'm sure it is.

YANBU - but get yourself a mooncup so this situation won't arise again

Of course he should!He isn't a teenager even my ds who is 18 has bought them for me when I was ill.

I once asked DH to go to a supermarket pharmacy to buy me some pile cream.

He was reading the back of the box to check it was the right stuff and it said "to be used after every EVACUATION."

He had to put the box down and leave because he was crying with laughter and couldn't stop.

The word "evacuation" still reduces him to fits of laughter when used in any context.

Why is he embarrassed???

YANBU, but I think it would be better to support your village shop. Horsy types have periods too, and AFAIK they use towels/ tampons/ a mooncup just like other people, not straw.

YANBU.

DH wouldn't, and doesn't, bat an eyelid when I ask him to get me tampons or pads.

Glad he is doing it, tell him he just needs practise to get used to the idea

45 minutes for someone to mention Mooncups.Longer than I thought.

Just typed a reply and the bloody site went down!

LRD, no I don't but only cause he's broad shouldered and has high hips so he needs to try stuff on. I would buy him underpants but think he's probably better off buying his own.

He's bought me underwear before but I've had to put a stop to that. No-one would wear brown knickers right?

He's from quite a conversative family and these issues were never spoken about. He was quite uneducated about periods really so I feel I've done him a useful service there! But to be fair to him, I don't usually ask him as I'm pretty well organised so he's just not used to buying them. And he has said he will today so there you go

My DP got Tena pads instead of towels for me once. I've not asked him to get any since. I try to just buy a load of packs when they're on a good offer.

It's bizarre that he'd think anyone would care what he's buying, or even look. I've worked on a checkout, and didn't give a shit what people bought. The only time it's amusing is if the buyer is CLEARLY trying to hide the lube and condoms under the bread.

Ha AmINearlyThereYet - if you lived in the village you'd know! They are in and out of each other's business and there is the 'in' crowd. These are the people who nip into the village gossip hut shop after school to buy their organic farm produce and to air kiss each other. I bet their farts come out sweet smelling! They may well approve of mooncups but to my knowledge, the shop doesn't sell them.
And being without a car means that I have actually been supporting my local shop lots. It's fine so long as I don't mind tinned food. The meat is usually specialist organic meat or dry cured or whatever. They didn't even have any frozen fish fingers the other day - I mean, what kind of a village shop doesn't stock fish fingers????

Tell him exactly hat you need and job done.

You wait- hell have teenage daughters one day who want think anything of saying as they off to school " no pads left and mums working late. Canyou get some" and they will expect him to know hat get as well!

Brown knickers sound .. erm ... servicable?

It makes me think of WW2 and my granny's descriptions of her uniform, TBH!

Good on him for going. He'll manage it ... he can't help how he was brought up but he can learn and I expect he will. We all do.