AIBU to bath them together?

[Sookeh]

I bath 4YO DD and 1YO DS together every second night. MIL has recently cone to stay and told me I shouldn't be doing it, especially now DD is going to be starting school.

I thought this wasn't an unusual thing to do and I'm not precisely sure what her issue with it is but I'm now slightly worried IABU.

I had baths with my brother till we moved to a new house with a smaller bath-I was sad! Think I was about 8 and he was 6. Also used to get shoved in with any friends or cousins who were staying over. Never thought twice about it.

Staceisace, sorry to have scared you! Definitely a DB...

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I often have all 3 of mine in together! ds1 is 5, dd 3 and ds2 16 weeks.

DDs aged 8, 6 & 4 all squeeze in together. 'Tis good fun :o

I can remember having baths with my older brothers - and there is a 6 & 8 year age gap between me & them, so they must have been 10+ yo for me to remember it. It only stopped because I moaned about DBrother turning the water yellow...... bleurgh!

My 8 year old DD shares bath with 6 year old DS. Probably will stop bathing together in the next year or so.

Your MIL is mad. I think ok even for 10/11 year old girl to bath with a baby brother as long as she is ok with it, less perhaps so with a school age brother.

yanbu

dd(7), ds(5), and dd (1) all bathed together. the responses here show you are definitely NOT being unreasonable!

I was bathed with my younger two siblings (similar age gaps to my own children) way older than 7.

Nope I bath my 2yo and 4yo at the same time. MIL is BU.

Dd2 age 8yo and ds age 5yo love to share a bath. Occasionally they strip off in the middle of the day and run a bath. They have the most wonderfully complicated games involving various boats, a grey fish who squeaks when he talks, and a very old yellow duck. And occasionally they take to using the medicine syringes as water pistols.

Sometimes dd1 (age 11yo) chooses to get in and play too.

How unusual for a MIL to comment negatively on how her DIL runs her household. Almost never happens.

Mine are 9 years old and 20 months old and often bath together. It's no fun splashing yourself with water

Yanbu-nothing in wrong in doing this at all op, i have 4 dd, my eldest 9yo has her own bath but my 3(nearly 4yo)dd, 23m dd & my 6yo all share a bath together.
Saves water, time and hassle and they all play whilst i wash their hair.
Once they start wanting a bath alone, say about 7/8 then obviously separate baths

I would think it's OK until your DD says she doesn't want to anymore, to be honest.

Kate

YANBU. I bath ds1 (age 6)and ds2 (age 2) together all the time

Surely its only weird if one of them asks to bath alone and you insist on them staying together? Bath them together until either one of them asks for otherwise.

Your MIL is odd. And BU.

I feel really miserable when I read things like this :( YANBU OP. It sickens me that some twisted people have made even normal people feel a bit about whether this is okay.

Two siblings and I were bathed together and there are some great polaroids of us grinning and splashing with identical homedone bowl haircuts thanks mum . Nowadays some bloody interfering busybody would probably be reporting parents to SS...

WTAF?

I bathe my 10mo DS and 4yo DD together all the time. Hadn't even remotely occurred to me this was "wrong".

Mad MIL!

I used to bath DS 2.5years and DD 5.8 years together. Still would be if DS hadn't needed special bath addatives.
I think if a child asks for a seperate bath that should be granted.
I also think over the age of about 8 the child should be encouraged to bath themselves alone.

my 5 year old DD, 3year old DS and 18m old DD are all in the bath together now, its nice, they love it.

You're definitely not BU but I have to admit something now. I was bathed with my brother and I hated it. My brother is 2 years older than me and I can remember feeling really self conscious at maybe 4 or 5 but not wanting to admit it or not being able to articulate it and saying i wanted to play at being in the sea or something stupid so I got to wear bikini bottoms in the bath.

I also used to hate being 'encouraged' to run round naked on the beach. Maybe I was just a prudish child but are you sure your DDhasn't said something to MIL? x

(not that I think sharing beyond that age is creepy - just what I will do to promote DDs independance. That and our bath is too small to fit an 8 year old and a 5 year old in at the same time!)

Our oldest two (boy & girl) bathed together until they were about 8 & 9 and were quite happy to do so. It was fun and sociable.

My nearly 8yo DS has a bath with his 7mo cousin - my DN absolutely loves DS splashing and DS loves to make him laugh.

YANBU