AIBU to bath them together?

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I bath 4YO DD and 1YO DS together every second night. MIL has recently cone to stay and told me I shouldn't be doing it, especially now DD is going to be starting school.

I thought this wasn't an unusual thing to do and I'm not precisely sure what her issue with it is but I'm now slightly worried IABU.

I used to share a bath with my big brother until he was 8, and I shared with my little sister. Tell your mil to do one..... In laws are not flavour of the year in my household

DS 10 and DD 8 bath together. we have suggested they take separate baths but they say "it's more fun together".
If they're happy and you're happy there's no problem.

sharing with a 1 year old?

FFS.

we used to share baths with my dad. mums bath were her alone time and sacrosanct.

YANBU, I bathe my two (DD=4,DS=22mths) together most nights.
(and don't bathe either the other nights)

I was talking about this with my friend last week - I was bathed with my brother (five years younger) when I was 5/6 but then moved on to having a shower whilst mum bathed my two little brothers. Totally normal!

My friend has an older sister and they were bathed together until my friend pooped in the bath once and her sister was too scared/disgusted to bath with her again!

MIL is BU.

Aged 8 was sharing a bath (for which read bathing her while my mother had a cigarette) with my one year old sister. Did not mind at all until she send a flotilla of poos down the bath towards me!

My DCs 6,3 and 1 all share a bath during the week and I usually get at least one of them in my weekend 'relaxing' bath. We specifically have a larger than average bath for sharing. In our house getting in Mummy's bath is as much of a treat as occasional sharing of Mummy's crunchy nut cornflakes. YANBU.

YANBU

I had a little friend when I was little (a girl) who I went to preschool with, she had a baby brother, we weren't allowed in the room when his nappy was changed . That's unhinged, imagine imagining that there would be any sexual facination for us seeing that? to us it wouldn't have been any different than any other baby activity like bottles etc if she'ld let us see, by banning it she was informing us that there was something.. well sexually taboo about it and we were far too young to be given that message! Your MIL is wrong to sexualise young children's baths like that!

Don't be daft, of course YANBU-tell the MIL she is being very silly.

My dd is 7 and ds is 5 with little dd now 2 and they love bathing together (and causing chaos!) DD sometimes wants to bathe alone - and that is fine but she can't resist jumping in if ds is in there. They can stop when one of them feels uncomfortable.

Oh ignore her, theres 4 years between me and my brother and i recall my mum bathing us together, never did me any harm (or him as far as im aware)

Am sat in the doorway of the bathroom now whist Ds (9) and dd (2) share a bath. Ds is allowed a shower / bath alone if he wants, but dd loves him in the bath with her, and as he is entertaining her I can doss about on Mnet

i think me and my brother were bathed together until i was 7. that was probably when i could wash myself properly. daughter started having a shower without help at that age.

bathing your children separately wouldn't make sense to me. its a job, you need to get it done quickly and efficiently. i remember the next door neighbour screaming her head off every night as she bathed all three of hers. get it over with, do them together.

you should suggest one has to go in with her then when she is visiting as you are conserving water.

Never occurred to me this would be an issue. Mine will be sharing baths till they start having showers, which I thinkwill be soon :(

Staceisace, I was the older sibling when that happened with my younger DB. Still remember screaming as it floated past. I was too scared to jump out and away from it as we were not allowed to get out unless DM was there. Last ever bath with a sibling!

OP totally normal to bathe siblings together...

YANBU

YANBU! My 6yr old DD and 5 yr old DS bath together.

Another one here bathing 7yo DD1, 5yo DS and 2yo DD2 together. They also share a room - would that be a problem too?

Did you MIL only have children of one gender? Maybe she thinks... actually I don't know what she could be thinking .

although I wouldn't have a bath with DS because he has been known to poo in the bath so not sure I'ld inflict that on anyone else..

If my MIL said this I'd honestly ask wtf she was getting at. But then my MIL has form for stupid unhelpful comments and confronting it head on is the best way to deal with her

My nearly 5 year old and my 1 year old sometimes share a bath although not too often but only because the mess they make is shocking!

When we were little, my two older sisters and I used to all have a bath together. There are photos of the 3 of us and we are probably aged about 7, 5 and 3. I don't remember ever having a bath with my younger DS but that's probably just because there wasn't room for another one in there!

westcountrylovescheese LOL! When I read those first few words I was like...shit...what if this is my friend's sister?! They live in the west country too. Almost had a heart attack! I can imagine that was pretty disgusting!