To be really irritated with DH for refusing to go out for a Father's Day lunch?

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He says our DD "always cries" when we're out - doh, she's 17 months, they do that - so HE doesn't enjoy it. It's all about him, of course. Yes, DD cries every now and then but she loves going out for food. Is he a selfish pig or AIBU?
PS It was originally his idea to go and he's only just told me to cancel the booking!

Well, as it is Fathers Day you are wanting to celebrate, it stands to reason that it should be a treat for the father and f he doesnt want to go....

Why not take dd to soft play and let her and dad climb all over everything?

I don't think I'd want to go out if I had a 17 month old who always cried when out, hardly relaxing it is

He shouldn't have left it to the last minute though and should cancel the booking himself.

Going out with a whinging toddler is no fun.

I'm sure he can figure out how to cancel a restaurant booking himself.

I think for today you have to let him get on with it.
It's hard to judge if Yabu or not as we don't actually know how much crying you count as not much

YABU
It's Father's Day so it's his call.

Well it is his day and I don't see why this has to be a big problem or an argument. Really this should have been a case of:

DH: Do you mind if we cancel the lunch as it's never that relaxing with dd being the age she is?
You: I see your point but I was looking forward to a nice family time out.
DH: Okay why don't we go to softplay/the park for a couple of hours and get ice creams/eat in the cafe?
You: Ok, great! I'll cancel the restaurant

Cancel and ask him what he is making instead for lunch for you all!

Its HIS day how can he be selfish about it with young kids its easier to stay in an get a roast on ;)

Yabvu

YABU, surely it's his choice today?

All about him? How selfish of him on Fathers day

"YAB hilariously U."

^^This.

I'm thinking back now and I hated eating out when the dcs were that age. I can't fault his reasoning.

So would you be ok with your DH dictating what you should want to do on Mother's Day?

I love the idea of having family meals out with my family. Fact is dd2 just could not cope with it. Sounds like your DH knows that the reality will not live up to the lovely Fathers Day celebration that you have in your head. It's his day, he should spend it however he wishes.

YABU

I wouldn't want to eat out with a whingey toddler either!

Me neither.

since when did a 17mth old "love going out for food" ??

YABU. I wouldn't fancy going out for lunch with a dd who cried all the time either, father's day or not

I'm with him, I'm afraid. Going out to eat with a toddler isn't really relaxing unless they're asleep.

I wouldn't want to eat out with a whingey toddler either!

this ^^ plus have a thought for the other families who will have to suffer your whinging kid

Why on earth would you want to make him do someting he doesn't want to do on Fathers' Day? DH has taken DD to the Thinktank in Birmingham, with his Dad, BIL and neice. I am at home with DS, who is 16 months and would just be a pain.

Well lots seem to agree with him in that eating out when you a child that age isn't much fun, but tbh he sounds like an arse and a misery guts, so on that basis YANBU

If the weather is good where you are go for a picnic in the park.

Is this one of those 'reverse AIBUs'?

It's all about him? I thought that was the point of Father's Day? And going out for lunch with a child who's just going to cry and be a nuisance doesn't sound much fun to me either. Are you sure she 'loves' going out to eat? If so then why does she always cry? Even if she does enjoy it, she's a toddler, she doesn't get to dictate if and when you go to a restaurant!