having sex whilst sharing their bed with a sleeping baby

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AIBU to not be that surprised at this (Daily Mail Link Disclaimer) -I think the jist of this is that a third of Swedish parents admit to having sex whilst sharing their bed with a sleeping baby I don't find it particularly shocking, isn't this what happens in most countries where co sleeping in the usual way?

Meh, seems normal to me. I eat crisps in bed, that's a whole lot worse........

in the same room - fair enough, in same bed - NOOOOOO! while breatfeeding?? churn [shocked]

For fucks sake a baby or toddler won't know what it's parents are doing.

They won't suddenly now to be disgusted because Daddy is screwing Mummy not tickling, hugging or kissing her. Assuming parents are under the covers and not having oral sex in front of a toddler, the child will see nothing that will bother them at all.

No doubt they hug their parents and older siblings, climb on them and bounce on them.

My guess is the child will remember nothing at all because they see nothing odd, scary or different to make the memory stick. I'm told I used to wander in on my parents, I certainly don't remember.

I think I would worry that I would clout the baby around the head.

Would it not also be inhibitive to have a baby in the bed with you?

I don't think I would do it personally, but wouldn't judge others.

It sounds a bit dangerous to me. Maybe I have sex differently to other people, but I think I would end up injuring any small living thing in my bed. This is why the cats run away.

And no I've never had full blown sex with the baby in our bed rather than the cot next to it because she would have fallen out.
But an intermate cuddle while BF yes, of course I have.

Meh, not really news, but that goes for most of the crap from the daily wail. No big deal and none of anyone else's business anyway.

well that's how one has babies close together in age
and why a disclaimer for dm link, you cleanly read it (as does most mn it seems)
it makes me laugh this faux apologetic...oh gosh here we go dm again

If they are in the same room but in the cot asleep- fine. In our bed asleep - not my thing but I don't think it's bad. Whilst breastfeeding - wrong, wrong, wrong!

We never had sex in the same room as DS, wouldn't feel right to us.

what do you mean?
bf and simultaneous sex..that would be a lithe contortion
bf mum having sex,well thats permissible is it.or is it wrong,wrong,wrong

Having sex at the same time as breastfeeding, from that old thread that was mentioned on pg 1.

Why would anyone want sex while breastfeeding?? Why not just wait till the feed is over?

If dh had suggested it I would have told him to 'bog off, I'm busy'. Are some people so unable to control their lust they can't wait?

All I can say, is they're having pretty tame sex if it doesn't wake, endanger, overheat, or move the covers.

I couldn't do it (have sex with baby in bed, not have tame sex).

Right, it wasn't an apology, i read the daily mail and happy to do so and tell people, it was merely for the posters on mn who object to reading the dm, to let them know beforehand.

fear not mn loves dm.linked daily
disclaimer unnecessary

I can't do it with the cat in the room, let alone DS. We just used to do it on the couch or in the spare room.

I'd also be afraid of waking the baby. Donlt see anything wrong with it, once it's a baby, and not a young child, but then where do you draw the line?

Is it just me or is having sex while breast feeding like involving the baby in a sexual act?

And therefore seriously wrong? Like ring social service wrong?

where do you draw the line?
when they can tell folk..

lol,call sw
yes imagine a team piling in for that. the paperwork submitted
its hardly neglect or harmful is it

We co-sleep and have been known to do this. But only when the DC were babies.

Oooh yes, I remember those other threads very well.

Makes me wonder how they managed in the good old days? Numerous kids and only a room and kitchen and an outside loo.

Whilst BF though? Nah.

so if you co-sleep at 6, 7, 8 years old, thats still fine? and if the kid wakes up during, its tough?

Some people are such prudes, as if the baby cares.

who co-sleeps at 8 years old?

but yes, it used to be completely fine. How do you think people had large families when they all slept in one room?