I am MY own person,that didn't change when I became Mrs! BUT, I like being a wife to someone,and the unity of us all having the same surname. I don't get what's wrong with that. I wish those of you who don't like to use your married title wouldn't keep putting those of us who do,down.
From working in a school,though, it gets very confusing when family members have different surnames from each other, and you don't want to insult someone by calling them Miss,Ms or Mrs,if they are not, but you don't want to seem direspectful and use a first name. Not everyone likes to be called by their first name by teachers,doctors,nurses etc.