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for thinking DS was lying dead in house

86 replies

AliGrylls · 15/06/2012 18:03

This morning I went out as usual. DH works from home so he was in before I left.

Usually before he leaves he has his routine he takes the key out of the front door from the inside (so that no-one can get in overnight). Anyway, our cleaning lady pitched up while I was out with the kids asking me to come home - she can't get in she says they key is in the door on the other side. I came home with the children and told her to go and get herself a coffee while I tried to get in touch with DH. Spent an hour trying to call him and no answer.

Then I thought maybe he is at the gyms (where he usually goes to unwind) - called: no he is not there; maybe he has gone food shopping - not there either - still no trace of him. Then my mind starts wondering - what if he is in the house and something has happened to him (who knows he could have fallen down stairs / had heart attack). He is usually so predictable I can set my watch by him - so by now I have visions on my head. So I called the police - I was sort of expecting they might appeal to my rational self and say he will probably be okay but they said it sounded worrying they would send a police car.

Next thing I know there are 4 police outside my house threatening to break the door down.

They manage to climb over neighbour's fence. As soon as they do this DH calls and says "AliGrylls I got your messages. Is everything alright". The police were lovely and said it was not a waste of time and at least he is alright.

However, It has left me feeling like a twat and wondering if I over-reacted. And more to the point I can't believe I have posted this shameful experience on mumsnet.

OP posts:
imnotmymum · 15/06/2012 18:05

Where was he then ...

MammaTJ · 15/06/2012 18:06

Where was he? What was he doing?
At least he is ok and YANBU!

JosephineCD · 15/06/2012 18:07

How was the key in the door if he wasn't in?

Northernlurker · 15/06/2012 18:08

So were you outside the house when the police arrived? They do get called to this sort of scenario and sadly it's often because somebody has collapsed. I don't think you reacted unreasonably. Your dh needs to wake up a bit!

FutTheShuckUp · 15/06/2012 18:08

Sorry whats your DH got to do with your DS? (confused.com)

imnotmymum · 15/06/2012 18:09

I guessed that was a typing error. Although how come the key was inside and he not...Come on OP what/where was he this is a terrible cliffhanger...

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 15/06/2012 18:10

I would have reacted exactly the same as you, and I think your worries were completely understandable.

Poor you Sad Things like that can leave you feeling horrible. Have some Wine

usualsuspect · 15/06/2012 18:10

Where was he?

I think you over reacted a tad tbh.

FutTheShuckUp · 15/06/2012 18:12

I do to. If I did this everytime DH didnt answer the phone the police would need to have a tent outside our house.

SecretNutellaFix · 15/06/2012 18:13

Not an over-reaction at all.

Especially as it was so out of character. Where was he hibernating?

Catsmamma · 15/06/2012 18:14

where was he?

and leaving the key in the door is a BAD idea! Depending on your door and lock type people can reach through letter boxes to turn keys, or to remove them and use them from the outside, or even on older style locks can turn the key from the outside using pliers

imnotmymum · 15/06/2012 18:14

And how would you know he was not food shopping did you trawl the local supermarket...This did not happen did it ??

WorraLiberty · 15/06/2012 18:14

Why didn't you climb over the fence yourself? Confused

Coconutty · 15/06/2012 18:15

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TheHouseOnTheCorner · 15/06/2012 18:15

Tell us where he was!

TheHouseOnTheCorner · 15/06/2012 18:15

And what Worra siad too....can't you climb a fence?

usualsuspect · 15/06/2012 18:16

I would have climbed over the fence my self, couldn't you get in the back door?

Northernlurker · 15/06/2012 18:18

The OP's husband has a pretty set routine, she checked his usual locations, rang him AND had the added key in door think to suggest he was in the house. It's not absurd for her to have thought he was unwell or injured.

What I don't understand is why he didn't hear you if he was in the house or why you couldn't get in to it if he oculd get out of it? Hmm

imnotmymum · 15/06/2012 18:18

OP

usualsuspect · 15/06/2012 18:19

I would have got someone to help me break in, before I called the police tbh.

Doyouthinktheysaurus · 15/06/2012 18:20

Sorry, that sounds like a slight overreaction though!

If you are locked out surely a locksmith or smashing a window is the first option.

Wasn't very likely that your dh was lying injured or ill really.

HecateTrivia · 15/06/2012 18:20

So he was in the house? Asleep?

WorraLiberty · 15/06/2012 18:21

I think it was Professor Plumb in the Library with the Candlestick

Might as well make up our own story if the OP is going to hold out on us.....

NettoSuperstar · 15/06/2012 18:22

DD locked me out, on purpose, last year.
I ended up getting a friend with a ladder to climb in the window anyway, as the police were going to break my door down!
I did it, hoping it would give DD a lessson.
She was days off her tenth birthday, so in no danger.

TuftyFinch · 15/06/2012 18:22

I think he stood on a block of ice. Was there a goldfish on the living room floor?

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