To think that people have the principles they can afford?

[Hullygully]

Do you have, or know anyone that does, principles that would absolutely not be ditched in the event of greater wealth?

They also brought us a little plate with different types of berries, artfully arranged. Whenever we went out driving they'd give us chilled mini bottles of water AND did I mention that they gave us chocolate? And a note congratulating us on getting married. And we had crepes for breakfast. And a kiwi smoothie thing

I never wanted to leave . I can't even get DH to bring me coffee in bed in the morning - the slacker

Mind, I don't like them if it's me as has to pay. I like em free.

It bothers me. I tend to keep them forever chained in my cellar

I do have new ones, but I like the continuity and history and being-knownness of the old.

i see the thread had moved on!

but what i was trying to get to last night (obliquely) was...

do you think you'd have been friends to begin with if she hadn't been so right-on? was that part of what you looked for in friends?

do wishy-washy 'i'll do it if i can' type principles leave you cold?

No Edgar, she was just a hippy when we met and having some troubles.

I like kindness, tolerance, sensitivity and pragmatism and doing one's best in a person. Agape.

I introduced her to one of my other great friends and she likes her more now. Welcome to the playground...

I've known my best friend for nearly 40 years and I love her to bits. I would be absolutely devastated if she decided she didn't like me any more.

Poor old Hully.

I wonder if it's not just jealousy, but resentment? You mentioned at some point that she had benefited from your financial generosity over the years and I think sometimes people end up feeling angry about being on the receiving end of someone else's kindness. I know that sounds mad, but I have a friend who was immensely kind to a friend of hers, giving her financial support when she was a single mum and helping fund her daughter through university. The friend then suddenly started getting really angry with my friend and picking fights for no reason.

I dunno.

I think I'm gonna stick to mashing a sandwich in her face.

it can be like that.... one thing i like about having lots of small kids is being too busy to notice that i haven't seen a friend for X months or years....being an adult means there is so much more to be concerned with.
of course i might wake up in ten years as a billy no mates with secondary age children....

toddler crawling over me to give me snotty love as i type.

what]
sort of sandwich

pickle

Make it a very spicy pickle. Like spicy lime or something. Make her face BURN the the spice of pickle, like your face has burned with shame/rejection

or a mango chutney perhaps, to represent the all the bittersweet threads in female friendships, and the sticky ties that bind

hmmmm

feeling peckish now

here check out my bottom row

zxcvbnm,./

they are all there

Am SO making curry for dinner tonight.

Amazeballs SHJ (and you can now type amazeballs all for yourself, should you so need)

Find a Jackie magazine, circa 1976, sit down together and do one of the 'Is she really your best friend' quizzes. That'll sort the chaff out.

If you met her now do you think you would strike up a friendship? Plan your action accordingly. Does she have children? Younger or older than yours? My friends with children have changed in a different way to those who don't.

SHJ very snazzy there with your keyboard skills. I'm still squinting at my phone. Although I've just covered the laptop (that is such a stupid name and doesn't pass the Alien test) in wallpaper.

I miss Jackie. Cathy & Claire. Them were the days.

Oh you're all here, how lovely! Thought I must have bored everyone to death by now.

What beautiful letters you have, SHJ

Pore ol dh has a day off today, he has just listened to my 9 hour analysis of the affair and I ntoticed him looking longingly at the front door.

I dunno tifty, I dunno that we would. It's the past and the myriad connections that are the ties that bound.

Honestly, men just have no staying power in matters like this do they? DH often says, "but you told me this yesterday" ffs!

Cathy and Claire could solve anything. Hully maybe you should send them an angsty, hand wringing, lip chewing letter. With circles for dots and random hearts.

C/o of the home for Aging Agony Aunts. Can just imagine them all, in bath chairs and nice tartan rugs over the knees, discussing whether tongues should be allowed on the first date.