AIBU & WWYD DH & DD1 motorbike trip....

[Babylon1]

DH and dd1 (7yo) are planning to go off to top of Scotland on DHs motorbike for approx a week in July.

I'm shit scared something bad will happen while they are away, and the last few nights it's played on my mind :(

DH says I'm bring daft and they'll be fine. He is a safe rider, but it's other road users that bother me.

DD has been on bike before, she has ALL the necessary safety wear and is comfortable on the bike. They will be doing a mixture of camping/travel inn and b&b.

Do I let her go? I will be at home with small DCs during this trip.

I'm glad you've let her go. She'll have a whale of a time and get to spend some lovely time with her dad.

If you go through life worrying you'll never do anything. Everyone says it but she could be hit by a bus crossing the road to school bit you'd never stop her going to school just in case.

I also think it is deeply nasty for people to come onto this thread to go on at the OP who they know is sobbing, now that DD has left.

Some people, honestly.

Just had the first call from them! They are getting breakfast at Tebay Services just short of Carlisle.

Spoke with dd who is so excited and is really enjoying it. They've done the motorway stuff now too which was one of my biggest concerns.

I'm not ignoring those of you who are posting less than positively, I know the implications, i posted in AIBU afterall, but I've stopped crying and don't wish to start again.

I'll update again later if nobody minds, this is actually helping me

Oops, didn't realise they'd actually gone.

Either way, the OP posted in AIBU, on an issue lots of people will have different and strong views about it, the OP was never going to get uniform support.

I agree SardineQueen

Babylon, I find distraction / keeping busy best when worrying, hope they have a lovely week.

I'd hate it. Statistically speaking motorbikes are dangerous vehicles because the riders have hardly any protection. Seven years old seems far too young to be riding on the back of a bike. No matter how safe the driver there are other vehicles on the roads driven by not so safe drivers.

Phew! That's a relief. Motorway done and they are having a super time. And glorious weather too!

FWIW I understand why you are crapping yourself but equally I think you have done the right thing and that is really impressive

Sorry I didn't read the whole thread and didn't realise they had already gone. Or else I wouldn't have posted. Very sorry.

Babylon1 I know how you're feeling it's hard to let your child go off and do something that you are worrying about, However I'm sure your DD and DH will have an amazing trip and a great time. What a way to spend time with her Daddy.

Glad you.ve heard from them and they have safely done the moterway stuff, Sounds like they are already having a great time.

Great news Babylon Now get out in the sun and enjoy a week of peace

And I agree with SardineQueen - the OP doesn't need more frightening messages now. I struggle to understand why some people post on a thread of this length without at least checking the latest few posts to see what's changed since the OP Fair enough, don't read the whole thread, but especially as this was was started so long ago, seems a bit strange to ignore the updates

Ask him how he would feel to be signing forms for her to be an organ donor before switching off the life support machine , could he live with himself if anything happened to her?
7 year old do not belong on the back of motorbikes, especially on long journeys.

Glad they got there safely.

They'll be having a ball on the A roads now Babylon, don't worry. Both my boys have been pillion since they were 5/6 on short trips and built up to longer trips from 7. Never had any probs, though I've ditched the intercom now, DS2 is now 12 and sings horribly. DS1 has own bikes now so rarely needs to pillion me or DH. Then we're a family of bikers, it isn't a hobby. We have a car but rarely use it, my bike is daily transport both kids were taken to infant/juniors by bike, much easier to get through the traffic. The cars that I encounter daily with the worst drivers? Not white van man or taxi driver as expected but mothers on the school run, they're terrible in this part of the South Coast. I breathed a sigh of relief this morning for a six week respite of bad driving

Pretty sure they will be calling/texting daily so you don't need to worry and concentrate on something else to take your mind off them. Deep cleaning and loud music, should work wonders. :)

Malificence was that really necessary?

Thanks for that malificence - no really thanks

Thank you for the supportive messages from you all!! Really appreciated

Pantah now they're in Scotland safely I feel better, the motorways are done with and that was my biggest concern.

I know they will have a ball, and I know I'll be sick of hearing about it by this time next week

I'm going to enjoy some sunshine now I think!!!

DH and dd are set up on Craigielands campsite just outside Beattock, Dumfries and Galloway.
They've had a great run so far and are both very happy.

I'm happier too

Have they had decent weather? Damp leathers and damp tents tend to take the fun out of it.

First day over! :) I fully understand the wobbles you had, but your dd will thank you forever when she gets back on Monday. Even if she is covered in midge bites :o

The weather has been ok so far, a couple of showers but they've got waterproofs on over their leathers and hi vis vests over their waterproofs. I think they're more in danger of melting in this heat!!! It's registering 32.5 here

Viviennemary

So a child is vulnerable on the back of a motorbike? What about those younger children who are carried on bicycles in a basket on the front or a child seat on the back. They are far more vulnerable.

Motorbikes are vehicles no more dangerous than cars, buses, trains and 'planes. It's the riders, drivers, pilots who are in charge of them.

Let's ban children from travelling at all if you are worried about a child going somewhere with her father.

Well they are apparently very happy with hot chocolate and marshmallows that they have made themselves over their little campfire, they're hoping to move upwards towards drumnadrocchit tomorrow - they fancy a spot of Nessie hunting

I'm not certain I'll sleep any more tonight than I did last night . It's really quiet here without them despite having a 3yo and 12 week old here!!!

Of course I realise that she is a passenger, SardineQueen my point is that the op decided all was ok as her dd's legs reached the back pedal. Also is not deeply nasty to comment when the op has posted in AIBU. She clearly does not want different opinion just reassurances and back patting at having such a dare do attitude.