to have suggested to this mother she requested a side room for her to sit with her son at ante-natal clinic?

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Because her son had chicken pox? I was very polite and said I was sorry but didn't really want to be exposed to chicken pox while pregnant and because it can be dangerous for pregnant women it may be a good idea to try to ask for a side room while waiting. Her son was 5 or 6 and covered in spots. We were at a very crowded hospital ante-natal clinic.

She completely lost her temper with me and I should be the one to ask for a side room if I was going to discriminate and her son had every right to be there. Thankfully a midwife realised what was going on and took them off somewhere but now I'm wondering if I was over stepping the mark and should just have moved away.

I think now I'd have been better to mention it to a member of staff and keep my gob shut

I don't think you overstepped the mark if, as you say, you were polite.

She was u, she shouldn't have nought her son out with chicken pox, and if she absolutely had to the hospital should have been pre warned and put them elsewhere.

No your right, even if you've had it it will still circulate in your system while your body fights it and it can cross the placenta. If you didn't want a confrontation you could have asked a midwife or the receptionist but tbh I'm appalled they didn't deal with it when she checked in for her appointment. You did exactly the right thing.

*you are right

Were the spots all dry and scabby? if so yabu if not yanbu!

You didn't do anything wrong.
The less confrontational route would have been to have told a member of staff, but I can't see that you overstepped at all.

YANBU
I'd have said something too.

You are so right!!

You weren't being unreasonable, although I probably would have mentioned it to a member of staff an let them deal with it.

they didn't look dry and scabby MrsJamesMartin though I tried not to get too close to find out

I would have mentioned it to a staff member I think but YWNBU in principle!

YANBU. I didn't know it could cross the placenta even if you have had it.

I think YANBU in principle, but I am a chicken and would have approached a member of staff not the mum

Are you sure it was CP? My oldest daughter has a skin condition (which you wouldn't mistake for CP though) and if anybody asked me to segregate her because of it you would certainly feel the rough edge of my tongue. Any chance you're mistaken in your diagnosis?

You're not unreasonable, although I'd have probably got the staff to deal with it as I'm a chicken too.

Of course you were not being unreasonable. What kind of idiot takes a kid with chicken pox to an anti natal clinic? I get she may not have had childcare for him, but rearrange the appointment.

unreasonably angry due to DSis having to have loads of tests due to stupid people

Good point Northern -perhaps that's why she was so touchy, my niece has a skin condition & people can be quite rude

I would have told a member of staff, as they are in a better position to deal with it than you, but anyone who takes a CP infective child to an antenatal clinic is being totally unreasonable.

YANBU and the fact that this woman lost her temper instead of explaining why she had brought a child that looked like he was covered in pox into a room full of pregnant women shows that she is probably a very selfish person.

I think I would have asked for a side room because someone else's child had chicken pox and hopefully at that point the receptionist/nurse/midwife would have moved the woman and child instead. If not, at least I would have got away from the poxy child!

If it was definitely chicken pox then YWNBU.
I took DD to the doctor's when she had it as it was really bad and I had to insist we went into a separate room because it was midwife day. The surgery weren't at all bothered but I was!

yanbu I miscarried after getting chickenpox from DS1, pretty awful time for me.

But Northern if someone mistook your son's skin condition for chicken pox at an ante-natal clinic wouldn't you explain even if you did it rather angrily? The woman confirmed it was chicken pox during her ranting reply. Her exact words were "you can't bl**dy discriminate against my little boy just because he's got chicken pox"

Sorry Northern I mean your DD not your son