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AIBU?

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about Myleene Klass

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fedupofnamechanging · 10/06/2012 20:26

Her 'd'h has left her, six months after their wedding. Apparently he said things haven't been right for a while. So why did he marry her then? The cynic in me thinks it's because he'll get a better financial settlement, having been married.

But that's not what is really pissing me off. I have just read the fucking sexist comments on the aol page from people saying things along the line that she was on the telly more than she was in their house, and that what with all her jobs, he didn't know what his job was. AIBU to think that when a man's marriage fails, no one says it's because he went to work and blames him for earning a living in order to support his family.

Don't know why I'm so riled by this, or so surprised that some people think this way. Has being on MN made me live in an artificial bubble - do lots of people in rl really think this about successful women?

I know she isn't the most popular person, but even so, this is rough imo.

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Hassled · 10/06/2012 20:29

I agree with you. A dumped wife is a dumped wife - it doesn't matter whether she's a sleb or whatever, she's still going to feel like shit. I feel very sorry for her. Hard enough normally - when it's all over the tabloids it must be truly hideous. And I'm quite sure the husband would have enjoyed the fruits of her work while he was there.

EclecticShock · 10/06/2012 20:31

To be fair, you don't know what their relationship was like, she may not have been an angel herself. It's all speculation.

Margerykemp · 10/06/2012 20:33

'blame the woman' - happens all the time, it's called patriarchy

Serendipity30 · 10/06/2012 20:36

We OP you don't know either of them, so how would you know why myleenes husbands left, it'd their business and not ours. It's funny hoe we think we know these celrbs through veal written in the papers.

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fedupofnamechanging · 10/06/2012 20:38

Electric, what's pissing me off is how she is getting blamed for having a successful career. Why did he marry her, if he was so unhappy? And I bet he's quite happy to take a whopping big chunk of her money. I will take back all my negative thoughts about him, if he walks away with what he put in.

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Serendipity30 · 10/06/2012 20:38

Shit I hate touch phones , basically we know fuck all about them, so how can we speculate.

EclecticShock · 10/06/2012 20:41

Karma, my point is, ignore all the people making negative comments about here, it's all coloured by their experiences and inadequacies. No one really knows. I know it's annoying but if they have nothing better to do than slate her, more fool them.

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fedupofnamechanging · 10/06/2012 20:42

Thundercat, I wasn't really speculating about why the relationship didn't work out. I do question why someone would get married if things haven't been right for a while, but that aside, it was the comments form ordinary people on aol that were really getting on my nerves - the ones about how she is always at work and how, what with all her jobs, maybe he doesn't know what his role is.

I just think that no one would say this about a successful man.

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fedupofnamechanging · 10/06/2012 20:44

I just feel sad for her - hard enough to split up after 11 years, without total strangers saying it's your fault because you were out earning money for the family, rather than being at home.

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squeakytoy · 10/06/2012 20:47

I am not sure, but what I do expect is, we shall get the serialised account of it in the DM.. and plenty of dirty linen will be aired in public... neither will come out of this looking good.

FormerlyTitledUntidy · 10/06/2012 20:48

Well God love him for not knowing his place more of a relfection on him though if that's the truth. Anyone who needs the presence of a partner to know his role probably isn't in a great place.
What utter bollox.

But, but, but... long working hours for either the husbnd or the wife aren't going to be great for a relationship, sleb or not. I'm not at all blaming her for working at all, just that it probably did impact on their relationship.

Serendipity30 · 10/06/2012 20:50

Again why or why do you care, we have no idea why they have split up, and OP you are angry like you know get in .RL

TheDreadedFoosa · 10/06/2012 20:53

Never read news comments sections, NEVER!

They are irresistable to those sad, angry, resentful fuckers who need to channel the frustration of being utter losers towards anyone and anything else.

I dont think they even mean what they say, they just use these news stories to vent. The nastier, the better.

The facility to comment is probably a life-saver for them, without it the would explode in a burst of fury and self-hatred, leaving behind nothing but puddles of bile an pus.

A bit like MN but soooooooooo much worse.

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fedupofnamechanging · 10/06/2012 20:53

I suppose with the work thing, famous people never know when it's all going to disappear, so probably hard to turn down work when it is offered.

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difficultpickle · 10/06/2012 20:55

I must say I read the report with some healthy cynicism. She may not be an angel but his comments read as if he had doubts before they married but still went ahead with the wedding. I hope she got him to sign a pre-nup.

If he bought a flat prior to leaving then that is a good deal of planning. No idea what he does for a living but it must be enough for him to have done that plus not work for the last two or three months (unless he has been working abroad - the report wasn't clear).

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fedupofnamechanging · 10/06/2012 20:59

thunder, am not so angry about the splitting up. What has made me really cross though were the comments from ordinary people, blaming her for being at work.

I was kind of surprised to read comments like those - spending so much time on MN, where the majority of posters just seem to have a different mindset, I was a bit taken aback - thought I'd inadvertently read something from the 1950s. Scares me a bit that people still think that way.

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FormerlyTitledUntidy · 10/06/2012 21:00

Yes, I agree. In that respect I feel sorry for anyone who feels they must prioritise work over family, or that work has a detrimental impact on their relationship but they feel they must keep working at that level.
My sister works in banking and puts in very long hours, says the men she works with who are married do just as much (possibly more as they are then golfing to network. She is not invited, but that's for another thread) and they couldn't possibly spend much time with their famillies. They are well paid and are probably in golden handcuffs.

Any way, no matter who's at "fault", it's fucking horrible to be dumped and must be very hard for her for it to be so public.

mynewpassion · 10/06/2012 21:14

He did speak to the press (was in the Mirror) and he said that he didn't leave her on her birthday and that he's seen the DDs "a couple of times". He did also say that he won't be back in the UK until August.

I think that they likely spent more time apart than together if he's touring with groups for months at a time and she has tv obligations.

The cynical me hopes that she also got a pre-nup but I don't think she did. Hope she finds good legal representation.

mynewpassion · 10/06/2012 21:17

I think work obligations can play a factor in a breakdown of a relationship but I don't think its solely because of her work. His played a huge part too.

The cynical me believes that its likely he has been playing away -- though he denies it.

AnyoneForTennis · 10/06/2012 21:17

It's amusing how she made a big thing of calling him 'gray' and now they have split he is back to good ole, normal 'Graham'

WorraLiberty · 10/06/2012 21:18

AIBU to think that when a man's marriage fails, no one says it's because he went to work and blames him for earning a living in order to support his family

But you hear that loads don't you? People complaining that their DH's are never home, always at the office, away on another work trip, never spending enough time with the family etc etc....

Serendipity30 · 10/06/2012 21:22

OP ordinary people will always comment based on their own personal experience, but remember this was an article by a newspaper and they are known for telling the truth right. From what i know they are both working parents she just happens to be more high profile. Her working is neither here nor there, as they seem toave both provided for their family. The reasons of the spilt is only known to them and frankly i hope it stays that way.

EclecticShock · 10/06/2012 21:24

If anything, they both should stop discussing their marital problems in public, poor kids.

glenthebattleostrich · 10/06/2012 21:49

To be fair (and I'm no fan of hers by any stretch) she hasn't spoken to the press, he has. Everything from her side has come from 'friends' so at least she has been trying to be a bit dignified.

YouOldSlag · 10/06/2012 22:04

One thing that can be said with certainty is that he hasn't seen his two young daughters for nearly three months (he said himself he has been out of the country for that long).

To be fair to myleene, she hasn't gone to the press. In fact, they split in April and it has only just come to light now.

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