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Original poster

about Myleene Klass

54 replies

fedupofnamechanging · 10/06/2012 20:26

Her 'd'h has left her, six months after their wedding. Apparently he said things haven't been right for a while. So why did he marry her then? The cynic in me thinks it's because he'll get a better financial settlement, having been married.

But that's not what is really pissing me off. I have just read the fucking sexist comments on the aol page from people saying things along the line that she was on the telly more than she was in their house, and that what with all her jobs, he didn't know what his job was. AIBU to think that when a man's marriage fails, no one says it's because he went to work and blames him for earning a living in order to support his family.

Don't know why I'm so riled by this, or so surprised that some people think this way. Has being on MN made me live in an artificial bubble - do lots of people in rl really think this about successful women?

I know she isn't the most popular person, but even so, this is rough imo.

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CockyPants · 10/06/2012 22:18

I thought he looked a bit of a Chav, punching above his weight...

redyam · 10/06/2012 22:40

Who cares, really? It's the private life of someone you've never met, doesn't care for you and doesn't give a toss about you.

ComposHat · 10/06/2012 23:25

I will take back all my negative thoughts about him, if he walks away with what he put in

I have no idea what happened in their marriage and neither does anyone else.

But what a daft thing to say. Would you expect the wife of a wealthy man to walk away with only what she'd put into the marriage financially.

Of course not.

LineRunner · 10/06/2012 23:31

I get the point, OP, that there's a different set of judgements being imposed on her than if she's been a celebrity bloke.

ComposHat · 10/06/2012 23:41

Exactly linerunner

If a succesful woman's marriage fails there is the implication it is because of her career (something that wouldn't get levelled at a male celeb)

If the partner of a female high earner or celeb seeks a share of the money they accumulated during their time together then he is leach (something that wouldn't be aimed at the wife of a male celeb high/earner)

It is two sides of the same shit sexist coin and it does women or men no favours.

WorraLiberty · 10/06/2012 23:44

Well said Compo

bringmesunshine2009 · 10/06/2012 23:54

Yes but what you don't hear loads of, worra, is the neglected wife leaving the family. Also the OP makes an interesting point about the attitudes of others. If a woman walked out on her husband and children because his successful career meant she was neglected and left holding the baby she would be lynched, if a man did it, it seems to me to be more socially acceptable.

WorraLiberty · 11/06/2012 00:01

But you could turn that on its head bringme and say that if courts weren't so biased towards women keeping the children in a relationship breakdown, there would be far less of a "leave the bastard" mentality in the UK.

Many men feel they have no choice but to be seen as 'walking out on the children' even though they are actually walking out on their wife.

bringmesunshine2009 · 11/06/2012 00:11

I suppose there is something in that, if the hypothetical chap were to depart with offspring in tow it would be perceived a kidnapping. If a Woman did this, she would just be said to be leaving the husband.

Tangent, I think they split bec, Myleene tried to make it work with a civilian. He felt emasculated and ultimtely left.

WorraLiberty · 11/06/2012 00:16

if the hypothetical chap were to depart with offspring in tow it would be perceived a kidnapping. If a Woman did this, she would just be said to be leaving the husband

That is so wonderfully worded. It's sad that it actually made me laugh Grin

I have no idea about why they split really and if/when it hits the tabloids, I'll still be clueless as to what really happened.

Then I'll forget all about it anyway as to me, it'll be yesterday's fish and chip paper...the way so many of these 'celeb' stories are.

So sad for the kids though but there you go Sad

Birdsgottafly · 11/06/2012 00:16

OP, I know how odd it feels to be outraged on a clebs behalf.

I felt exactly the same about Paula Yates, and the raw deal that she got when she and BG split.

ComposHat · 11/06/2012 00:20

To be fair (and I'm no fan of hers by any stretch) she hasn't spoken to the press, he has. Everything from her side has come from 'friends' so at least she has been trying to be a bit dignified

'Friends of the star' usually means the star's PR person or agent.

ComposHat · 11/06/2012 00:27

In fact I shall start using my 'friends' for all future communication with MN.

'Sources close to composhat reported that he was a bit tired and they worried that the foppish poster 32, would fall asleep at the computer. Again.'

Devora · 11/06/2012 00:39

OP, you have been very clear that you're not commenting on their relationship, but about the speed with which people assume her career must be the problem. We don't have to know or care about Myleene Klass to find that distasteful.

PuffPants · 11/06/2012 00:40

I bet she is loving the weight loss, let's not kid ourselves on that score Wink

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fedupofnamechanging · 11/06/2012 08:09

Compos, if a wife decided to dump her very rich husband six months after the wedding and then stated that things hadn't been right for a long time, I would suspect that she had married with a view to the divorce settlement. I think if they had split prior to the wedding, I would be viewing him more kindly. It would seem more honest, somehow.

I didn't really want to get into why they split,because I don't know. Generally speaking though, if one person is feeling worthless, or emasculated by their partner's earning power and that is a cause for the split, it seems hypocritical to me, to then take a chunk of that money upon divorce (unless it is to support the children, which would be classed as child maintenance, rather than maintenance received because someone was a spouse).

I think that society does judge WAG like women, who knowingly shackle themselves to lying, cheating footballers. No one doubts that money and lifestyle are motivating factors there and those women get no public respect.

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Bagofholly · 11/06/2012 10:31

Her PR machine has upped a gear. Lots out there now about his name change, previous drug convictions (possession of heroin with intent to supply) and how he's off on your doing security for boybands with the insinuation that he can't keep his pants on. She knows it's over so it's all coming out.

HipHopOpotomus · 11/06/2012 11:02

I thought it was sad that they were both 'quoted' as saying there was long term issues in their relationship, yet they only got married 6 months ago.

limitedperiodonly · 11/06/2012 11:54

Myleene's PR is a shit and is partially responsible for the reasons why people don't like her very much - having her continually thrust down our throats as a supermum.

Her image is also her responsibility and she earned a lot of money that way but the main job of a publicist is to manage his client's image.

I guess that's what he's claiming to be trying to do now by the mudslinging at Graham. Sympathy for Myleene, and God knows I think she deserves it, will help her earning capacity.

It won't cut any ice with a divorce judge who'll make his or her own decision about the marital assets and whether GRaham's behaviour affects his ability to look after the children. That will be private, as it should be.

Myleene seems lucky to be shot of Graham though she might not feel like it now. When she's dried her eyes over him she might think about getting a new agent too.

porcamiseria · 11/06/2012 13:41

err, where are the sexist comments?

Original poster
fedupofnamechanging · 11/06/2012 14:45

On the aol comments page, not in the article itself. Sorry, should have done a link

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limitedperiodonly · 11/06/2012 16:19

Apologies to Myleene's current agent. He's not the shit who previously managed her career.

However, I still say someone should tell Myleene and Graham to stop their 'friends' talking to the papers and start working towards a settlement and a future without each other.

EldritchCleavage · 11/06/2012 16:28

I find all the tweeting and reports of tweeting really off-putting. It is the modern, electronic equivalent of being dragged into a stranger's house to witness a row and having them both screaming 'Be on my side!' 'No, mine!' while they both grab hold of you and try to sum up umpteen years of resentment.

BobbiFleckman · 11/06/2012 16:28

Long term issues and married six months ago, but had time to buy himself a property to move into upon leaving? he married her in order to claim on her earnings, pure & simple.

My FIL had the same experience - spent 18 years with a woman who had never bothered to divorce her first husband. She suddenly decides to divorce / marry / choose a £20k diamond ring / upgrade her car to a merc / get new teeth for the wedding / have a 7* cruise for honeymoon then 3 months after returning from honeymoon she vanished. He went to play golf one day adn came home to find the house stripped and was served with papers teh following morning. She moved into a property she'd bought so while she#d been planning the wedding, she was also planning the exit. Took half of everything he'd spent a lifetime working for, and married her personal fitness trainer instead. FIL was 25 yrs older than her, fitness trainer rather younger than her of course. Cliche after cliche. No fool like an old fool but she is one person I do hope has a long & drawn out painful & highly embarassing illness at some point.

FioFio · 11/06/2012 16:30

I agree with you too OP and I am not a Mylene fan either but he sounds like a right twat